If you doubt your ability to become lucid, remember that we live in society that is filling us with the idea that things should happen quickly. Political change, health change, happiness change, intellectual change, everywhere you go you see people who want change, even on this very forum people want consistent lucid dreams after a few years. But life doesn't work that way, change takes time. From a spiritual perspective, lucidity or awareness only happens if you work towards a more conscious life, from a brain sciency perspective the parts of the brain (prefrontal cortex) that is self-aware and reflective is shut down during REM-sleep. So when we are beating ourselves up for not becoming lucid we are literally beating ourselves up over a complete natural and healthy function of our brain. This happens so that we can believe that we are in a real meaningful scenario for a moment in order for us to be able to learn and grow from the experience. If you are a buddhist it is no different from physical life.
The point is, no matter how much internet wants to sugar coat the lucidity practice. The truth is, it's not something easy.
However! It might not be easy, but it is SIMPLE.
From my experience, the closest thing you can come to a magic pill, is not a change in what you do, but rather in how you do it.
Don't deserve to become lucid? It's not about deserving or not deserving it's simply about being lucid.
Worry in your life that aren't easily fixed. That basically sums up the human experience. What if it doesn't have to be fixed?
What I want to arrive at with this post is that: There is one simple activity to lower doubt about lucidty, low self-esteem and your waking life worries.
If you are still reading I thank you for your patience. Patience is key to all of these. Let's look at the brain.
One day I had a realisation where I thought: If I play a computer game on a sh*tty computer I would suck no matter how much skill I have because my experience of the game would be different than for everybody else. Wouldn't it be the same for life if my brain wasn't working properly? This made me interested in the brain.
Here is what I learned:
The prefrontal cortex is the most evolved part of our human brain and the very thing that makes us different from animals. It governs our higher cognitive functions, self-awareness and alot of other interesting things. But if this governs self-awareness wouldn't it be great if we somehow could train this part of the brain like a muscle and make it grow? Well...We can! If we activate this area of the brain more often, the grey matter actually increses in this area, making it more powerful over time. What happens then is that our cogntive function enhances which makes us more capable of dealing with problems and it also makes us less reactive to external stimuli, leaving us less stressed so we have less cortisole flowing our blood and more dopamine flowing in our brains, making us generally happier and effective!
Does this affect our dreams? Oh yes! Less stressful dreams and more awareness and more control, easier to become lucid in.
Also did you know that your conscious brain's function has never been to solve problems, that's your subconscious mind's job. The conscious brain function is to identify problems, become aware of them. This is why creative solutions from great thinkers happened while they were not focusing on their work. So your intuitive ability to see solutions improve with a better functioning brain as well!
Alright enough theory. What activity is capable of producing such amazing results?
The act of doing ......... NOTHING!
Also called meditation. It might sound too good to be true, if this was true, why doesn't everyone do it? Well why does everyone rather drink Coca-Cola that gives them cancer rather than kale and broccoli juice that is filled with tons of vitamins and antioxidants? We don't think for ourselves, we are trapped in societal and social habits, overvaluing thinking is one of them in this era of overstimulation and constant information processing. Ok let's explain meditation briefly.
Many people try meditation and get frustrated and say that it seems pointless and they don't get why sitting at a chair doing nothing for 20 mintues a day would help at all. I was one of those people, until I came across a really powerful mindset: Accept the present moment exactly as it is. If you are a beginner, allow yourself to just make it a habit to sit on the chair for 5 min a day and slowly increase over time. No goal what so ever, it's ok to think it's ok to scream, but just sit at the chair! Over time you will probably develop an interest and the mind wants to look for MORE information and find breathing exercises and mantras and God knows what. The methods are not bad, but the key lies in just enjoying the action and observing, just abiding in awareness itself. This isn't something you have to intellectually understand, it comes with time, just sit.
One day you might just find yourself laughing at your own mind, realising that thinking about life is like a dog chasing its own tail. When the dog finally catch the tail it thinks now what? When you see this illusion you are free from the mental prison or hamster wheel that you weren't even aware of being in.
And you see life as it is, you see your dream as it is in both waking life and sleeping life.
Also, when you experience life through this enhanced brain you no longer need some technique or method to be lucid and aware, you ARE lucid and aware. You don't need to read books about willpower, you HAVE willpower. You don't need anything external to become happy, you ARE happy. In other words all day awareness, lucidity, creatvity, happiness, intelligence, is your BEING not your DOING.
So again here is a short description of everything above:
Path to happiness: Make a habit to sit on a chair for 5+ min > Have no goal except just sitting at the chair.
Why? Because you grow your prefrontal cortex, increasing dopamine, self-awareness, lucid dreams, you are no longer trapped inside your head.
If this is so life changing, how come the greatest thinkers of the world didn't came up with this and shared it with the world?!
> Because stilness can't be conveyed with words. Although in this post I have tried.
If all of this still seems crazy, just try it and log your thoughts and emotions for a week and see what happens.
It's just sitting at a chair for a few days, what's the harm?
And if your rational mind wants to dismiss meditation as spiritual nonsense. Here is some science backing all of this up.
I hope this will be helpful to you or someone else reading this.
I wish you all guys a happy life.