is it ok?

[hysteria]

do you think it is alright, if you have a girlfriend/boyfriend, to look at other women/men?

discuss.

[CT]

Nope.

[Alric]

I think it depends on what you mean by "look". If you just happen to glance over at another girl nothing wrong with that. If you sit there staring at her though, thats another matter.

Either way though its rude to do it infront of the person your with.

[hysteria]

I'm freaking talkign about looking over at a girl and seeing her in a freaking spaghetti strap shirt and going "Mmmmm" OKAY.


that kind of "look".

[Ev]

That kind of look is not ok :D But I voted already :(

[nightowl]

A glance is okay. you know look briefly and then go back to whatever he was doing.

I'm freaking talkign about looking over at a girl and seeing her in a freaking spaghetti strap shirt and going \"Mmmmm\" OKAY.
[/b]
that's not okay. actually that's kinda disrespectful. :|

[jacobo]

it's up to circumstances. -- for instance... i was at a restaurant with my girlfriend last week... we're sitting there and this guy over my right shoulder keeps looking at her... she says it's kind of creepy because the dude is with his wife and kids! you see... that's not ok. the dude is married...

i can certainly see glancing at a butt but i'd never gawk over one... let alone go after one while i'm in a relationship... i'm sure my girlfriend does the same... it's human nature.

[Kaniaz]

I think that even if you're married the impulse to look at sexy butt or whatever doesn't go away so why the hell not.

[jacobo]

i never said the impulse went away when you got married... it's just something that needs to be suppressed.

now i'm not advocating suppressing sexual desires... or primal urges when they're most important... but dude... you're married! it's time to settle down. the act of suppressing those urges when you're young can damage you for life... but this dude was well into his 40's and he's gawking over a 24 year old while his kids eat their bread sticks... there's a line.

[Kaniaz]

that's a different scenario. o_o;

[Umbrasquall]

As long as it's just looking. Unless you're married, then I'd say no to looking. (But only in the scenario like adidas describes.)

[CT]

ok when you see a pretty girl i know you just cant help thinking pretty girl ... but you leave it at that... just a glance... Anything else is off limits.

[loose id]

I go with the following words of advice in this scenario:

Just because you're chained to the porch, doesn't mean you can't bark at the mailman.

If a girl I was dating were to look over at another guy and admire him, I'd be a little jealous, but that doesn't make it wrong for her to do that. Now, if she were to go over and sit on his face, that's the third strike.

[Amethyst Star]

If you're in a relationship, I feel that it is important to be dedicated to the person you're with. Now, if you see someone else come along, don't go after them. I would spend more time with the person I'm already with and if I felt that I could live without being eternally close to them (maybe that's pushing it) and still had feelings for this other person, I'd let the person I'm with down slowly, but still remain close friends with them.

It's not right to go after a first impulse unless you're single. If you're looking for a normal friend, take your girlfriend/boyfriend, etc. with you and have both of you meet them. Those are just my two bits.

-Amé

[Alric]

If the person your with notice your looking, your looking to much.

[Truthbearer]

Paperdoll already knows my stand on this, but I think that if you are with someone, it is only common decency to not look at other girls that way while your parter is with you. Just put yourself in her/his shoes and think whether or not you would mind if your partner did the same thing.

[gameover]

if you are with someone, it is only common decency to not look at other girls that way while your parter is with you[/b]

You guys are strange. We're talking about looking, not getting phone numbers. It;s one of the most basic natural things in the world to look at the opposite sex in admiration. I love my girlfriend more than life, and I think an open relationship is much healthier one, for both of us. To avoid looking when my instincts say look....well thats just wierd. For her too. I know she find other guys attractive and I wouldn't dare stress her about it. We'll talk about what we find attractive, to each other. Be open about it. Jealousy is so pointless. One should never be so insecure about a relationship like that. I know that my girl and I are perfect for each other, on so many levels, physical attraction being just one of them. Ill give anyone a look, but I wont give them the love I give her.

[Truthbearer]

I understand what you are trying to say, but unless you have some sort of implicit agreement, I just think it is disrespectful to do so in front of your mate. It's not about jealousy, I just think it's not a pleasant thing for her to watch. But that's just me...

[hysteria]

Originally posted by Truthbearer
It's not about jealousy, I just think it's not a pleasant thing for her to watch.

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[gameover]

It's not about jealousy, I just think it's not a pleasant thing for her to watch.[/b]
For who to watch? Not every girls the same.

[jacobo]

[quote]it's up to circumstances.

:|

[Howie]

There is a time and place for everything. I think it is a lack of respect to look at other women or men when you are with your partner. It is obvious that just because you are "with" someone that you will still find other people attractive. So on occasion to look at somone you find attractive while you are not with your significant other seems to me to be OK. Maybe I sound contradictive. :whyme:

[OpheliaBlue]

I think it's ok if you don't make it SOOOOOOOO obvious to your lover. I wouldn't like it if a boyfriend was like "Ohhhhhhhhh, DAMN she's hot!! GOD I want to do her, WOOHOOOO!!!!!!" in front of me. However, if my boyfriend was like, "I think she's hot, what do you think?" Then I could honestly answer him "yes" or "no", because it was an honest question. So long as he wasn't TRYING to make me jealous, ya know? I think there's a difference between a guy just "looking" and a guy trying really desperately to make me jealous or test me as it were. I'll just ignore him if that's the case.

If you're in an insecure relationship, then you better not say/do a DAMN thing!! I look all the time, but I don't do it in a way that hurts my guy.

God I hope that made sense, I had a bit of wine tonight :? .