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      Dreaming about my boyfriend cheating on me

      so I guess first things first, I must kind of establish that my "boyfriend" technically isn't my boyfriend at the moment; we have been dating four almost 8 months now, it's been a rocky relationship because he's always been really unsure of how he feels about me (one day he's head over heels confessing he might be falling in love with me, the next he is "convinced" that he doesn't even like me romantically. I'm like 99% sure he's mostly just in denial because he can't deal with the commitment of being in love). So right now, since things have been really difficult, we are technically broken up (since about a month or so ago) however, NOTHING has changed lol. We still hang out as often, and act just like we did before, and he requested that we stay exclusive and refrain from dating other people. So really the only difference is that whenever he feels overwhelmed by the commitment of being emotionally invested, he can console himself by saying "we're not actually in a relationship" (it's stupid and annoying, but it somehow makes things easier on him.)
      So yeah, the reason this relates to my dreams is because I guess the whole "he can just claim we're not in a relationship whenever he wants" thing makes me sort of insecure at times; I've always been sort of unsure about him and how much I can trust him, he's a great guy and I know he's above cheating, but he did used to be a bit of a flirt, and sometimes he makes inappropriate comments solely to make me jealous because he thinks it's funny -__-
      so, dream number one occurred the night after he went to a rebelution concert with his sister; we hadn't talked in like three days because he was being a brat and got upset at me for some stupid reason he made up.. he finally calls me, and tells me about the concert and how he danced with this girl while he was there (here he pulled out the heinous "we're not actually dating thing")
      I quickly reminded him it was his idea to stay exclusive and everything, we had a long talk about a bunch of things and we didn't get to finish our conversation. that night, I had a weird dream of which I don't remember much: I was in a house that seemed vacant. I think it sort of resembled my old house I lived in when I was 8 years old, but it was different. We were sitting against a wall talking and I don't remember the context of the entire conversation, but he ended up telling me that not only did he dance with that girl at the concert, but they also ended up hooking up in his car (they were laying there naked for some odd reason and she ended up giving him oral sex or something like that.)
      Now, this made me VERY upset. I mean, in my dream I was absolutely distraught, I was crying like crazy, throwing punches at him, demanding to know why he would do that to me. In my dream, he was acting kind of ashamed by what he did. He seemed to just feel kinda bad about the whole thing, maybe even regretting it a little (he didn't mention us being technically broken up.)
      Then, I don't remember how or when, but things transitioned and suddenly he turned into a girl (some random girl, I don't remember what she looked like, or who she was, but in my dream I knew her and she apparently also knew my boyfriend. I think she might have represented my boyfriend's sister), and we were outside sitting on a trampoline talking about how victor (my boyfriend) had cheated on me. I was still crying, very upset, the girl and I were kind of discussing something along the lines of how victor is really mean and selfish, when I've always been nothing but good to him (I even mentioned to her how he kind of treated her like crap too.... he is kind of mean sometimes, he is sort of a recovering drug addict so he can be very moody and aggressive sometimes). but yeah, that's mostly what I can remember about this dream.
      Now, the second dream I cannot remember any details at all. I just know it happened over a week after the first one, and the whole context of it was the same, victor confessing he got naked with some other chick, me being really upset, etc. (minus the him turning into some girl part)
      Now, this kind of transitioned into an almost separate dream, all i can remember is my old friend from high school talking about how she had taken a pregnancy test just for fun (and for some reason she had hidden it under her bed lol), then I wanted to take one too just out of curiosity, it was this weird little pregnancy test that lit up a little blue light after you peed on it hahah..... then, I think the result came out positive, but it was unclear because it was a weird test that didn't straight up say pregnant/not pregnant or positive/negative. But for some reason in my dream i knew it was positive, and i was really scared about it (i guess in real life i've been kind of worried about being pregnant because I've had unprotected sex recently)

      What could these strange dreams mean?

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      Hi, lgiselleg,

      I'm going to focus on the first dream. One reason is because it's the topic of your post and also because I'm lazy.

      You being in the old house you used to live in may represent that you wish things could go back to the way they where in your relationship with Vic. When he told you he danced with the girl, it may be a reconfirmation of your fear; that he danced with the girl. The part where they hooked up is an exaggeration of your fear:the he cheated on you. You being upset is how you feel about the situation, and him feeling ashamed is probably how you want him to feel. The fact that he didn't mention being "broken up" is your subconsciousness way of saying "how can you be broken up if you act the same?" Actions speak louder than words.
      When he transformed into a girl this is a way of saying that you may be better off being friends. It would be easier for you to be his friend, perhaps, if he was female. This is how our subconscious solves problems: its irrational and things it does doesn't make sense. Sitting on the tramp means that things are bouncy in your life with him, and the girl saying he's a jerk is sort of your dreams way of saying Vic's actions make him a jerk.

      Overall, the dream is trying to tell you that you took this relationship seriously, and no matter what you call it it was a relationship to you. Both of your actions represented what was unspoken; you acted like a couple, and therefore he cheated on you because he spent time with another girl. It is also telling you that you still want him in your life, maybe even as a friend, but friendship will be difficult without having feelings for him still.

      I would recommend that you stop spending time with him for awhile: give yourself a break. Act as if you WHERE in a relationship, and act like like you DID break up, and treat it as such. This will give yu a chance to heal, and an opportunity to grow in maturity.

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