Thread: he was staring at me on the bus ... hope someone can explain this ?

How did you end things? Maybe this is your brain's way of telling you that there are unresolved things between the two of you? Not in the sense that you still want him, but maybe you feel like he needs to apologize or make amends, I dunno.

I don't know the first thing about interpreting, just thought I throw my 2 cents in there.

Originally Posted by SebastianCross

How did you end things? Maybe this is your brain's way of telling you that there are unresolved things between the two of you? Not in the sense that you still want him, but maybe you feel like he needs to apologize or make amends, I dunno.

I don't know the first thing about interpreting, just thought I throw my 2 cents in there.

Well we never really resolved anything. And I do blame him for certain things which I know can never be fixed so I let it go. We went our seperate ways and we both moved on.

I see. To be honest, I don't even know if it REALLY means anything, but I ain't a specialist on the subject.

Although in order to provide an accurate interpretation it would usually be best to have some additional general background information about you as well as a description of recent events just before the dream, it’s probably safe to say that the image of your ex-boyfriend represents an inner psychological figure and not the outer guy.

This idea might be a little hard to understand at first, but generally speaking, females have certain so-called “masculine” parts of themselves while guys have “feminine” aspects of their personality.

In very broad terms, when young, a female mostly operates out of her conscious feminine side, often by instinctively relying on emotions and values to make most decisions.

Her “masculine” side as influenced by her father, male siblings and early contacts with male teachers etc. is “in the background”.

All the same, this inner masculine image plays a large part in causing certain guys to be especially attractive to a girl.

None of this is very romantic but it’s usually better to be aware that certain unconscious factors can influence our choice of mates.

Also, a reliable rule of thumb is that generally, only about 15% or so of dreams deal with outer people and our relationships with them while the rest deal with inner psychological aspects of ourselves.

In this case, the dream appears to be pointing out that recently, you might have somehow been influenced in a negative way by this inner masculine image.

For example, riding on a bus generally symbolizes that the dreamer is being influenced by the general opinions, beliefs and values of society at large as opposed to being loyal to a more individual approach overall.

This idea is based on the analogy that “anyone can ride a bus” which is also owned by a large company as opposed to an individual.

Similarly, we can generally go only where the company provides a route to in contrast to a more individual “destination” which can be reached by a car or even on a bicycle.

The fact that he is sitting behind you on the left supports the idea that the image represents an inner figure because “behind” and “on the left” usually point to the unconscious mind being involved.

His pink jacket might suggest the idea of some kind of inappropriate surface feelings being expressed (e.g. pink is a variation of the color red which is normally connected with the idea of values and emotions while clothes suggest the front we have to put on in some way when dealing with others).

From the dream’s point of view, any such situation apparently should be “bugging” you and “making you feel uncomfortable” (guy is staring at you), maybe because the end result of not being very aware of it could “hurt you too much” like the outer guy did.

To find out a more personally specific meaning of his image in the dream, you can try focusing on it and writing down every spontaneous memory, thought and feeling that comes to mind.

Then by carefully sifting through what emerges, a basic clue about his image and the meaning of the dream itself should hopefully become clear.

Anyway, I hope that these ideas can be helpful in some way.

Please feel free to make any comments or to ask any questions that you may want to about this particular way of looking at your dream.

Thank you for your interesting analysis.

The bus I ride on my way to work everyday drives past his house as well ... maybe that's it ?

If you were to continue looking into your dreams using a reliable method, I think you’d find that they’re most often “purposive” and not just “random” or picking up parallels from outer life for no reason.

That is, they’re usually trying to balance out the ego’s attitude and behaviour about some issue which, if not resolved, could lead to disruptions down the road.

This is the equivalent of physical symptoms appearing which are also kind of saying “Please look into this”.

The overall goal can be viewed as trying to guide the ego bit by bit towards fulfilling its true potentials as fully as possible. Sometimes, “Big Dreams” appear to help this process along and these of course are much more profound than your dream about riding on the bus.

This “goal” idea can be seen in nature in general where every living thing is somehow fighting against outside circumstances to become what it’s supposed to be.

If a person isn’t involved enough in life in general, then her or his dreams do tend to lose their purposive feel and become mostly empty of meaning because there’s nothing for the dreams to really be commenting on.

In your case though, it looks like the dream is dealing with some kind of issue that, while not a big problem at all right now, might possibly become worse over time because it could distract you too much from developing well enough your own unique mix of potentials.

So it’s likely your ex-boyfriend was specifically chosen by the dream because of some psychological attribute that you share with him and which apparently could cause problems if not looked at and dealt with adequately over time.

Perhaps the dream purposely involved the daily bus ride to help emphasize the habitual nature of some kind of attitude etc. which isn’t helpful to you.

And the fact that the ride takes you past his house almost every day probably helps even further to make the point that looking at some shared habit or characteristic etc. of your ex-boyfriend will aid in maybe preventing some kind behaviour of your own from happening too often (e.g. as shown by the unusual pink jacket which could possibly be suggesting some kind of “put-on show” that might have happened recently but which it would be best not to repeat very often if at all possible).

In any case, I hope that these additional ideas will help to clarify how dreams work and what your own dream could be dealing with. If you have any further questions or comments, please let me know.