Thread: Dream about someone I miss in a strange setting

Bro its a dream, anything is possible. Next time you find yourself needing clothes or anything else, just poof it into existence in the same way those Dream Characters poofed out of existence.

Although in order to provide an accurate interpretation, it would usually be best to have some additional background information about you as well as recent events just before the dream, it’s safe to say that this dream is probably fulfilling the usual purpose of dreams in general.

That is, in this case it’s trying to balance out an attitude and/or current or future way of behaving that maybe isn’t best for you overall in the long run.

The dream takes place “at home”, “right where you live”, partly emphasizing how “basic” a certain outlook or way of acting is present at this time.

This idea is supported by the fact there are extensive renovations going on which could represent important changes in the nature of recent experiences and the need for handling them well (e.g. on analogy, it’s important that big renovations are done efficiently and competently so that the basic integrity of the structure remains strong).

The image of bathrooms and showers specifically brings in the idea of change and transition by being linked to the idea of “baptism by water” which can cause huge changes in one’s overall outlook and sense of meaning.

The dream appears to focus on Victoria as representing the basic theme of the dream.

That’s because the image of a girl in the dreams of a guy (assuming you are a guy) usually symbolizes overall the inner area of emotions, values and relationships.

It looks like the dream touches on the origin of the inner image of the feminine which affects the type of girl you like by showing Victoria living in the room where your mother usually lives.

Countless interactions with his mother, female siblings and other early contacts with females inside and outside your family group builds up in a guy the inner image of “the right girl” and “this is how a girl should act” etc. which is automatically projected onto certain outer females who fit the image.

Although this isn’t a very romantic view of falling in love, it’s best to have some idea that part of the powerful and important experience involves this factor.

Generally, the idea is that, while the girl is usually fully aware of her emotions, values and what she wants (although she is also influenced by the inner image of the “perfect guy”), a guy has less control over this area of himself and so he has to be careful of what happens to his emotions when in love.

In the dream, you leave Victoria to grab something in your room.

It’s possible that what you wanted to grab had already been taken and possessed by the unknown man who says that the object you see him taking from your room is his.

He probably represents a part of your personality which you’re not very aware of and which you “can’t stop”, i.e. you grab his wrist but then let him go on the lame excuse that the object is really his. The bigger question is, however, why is this stranger in your room at all?

Anyway, the best way to figure out what the rectangular object symbolizes is to focus on it and then write down every spontaneous memory, thought and feeling that comes to mind.

By sifting through what appears, a clue should hopefully appear about what it means.

If you haven’t done so already, you’ll probably come across how Freudians would interpret a rectangular object that’s found inside some “pyjama pants”. You also connect it with bubble gum which can grow in size from a small rectangle to a huge “bubble” that then bursts.

The problem with the Freudian approach is that it tends to be very rigid and dogmatic about its interpretations.

For example, something firm and long like a flagpole etc. etc. is invariably interpreted as representing a penis.

While such an interpretation might rarely be right, it usually isn’t. In fact, most of Freud’s ideas and approaches to dream interpretation have not stood up at all in the light of modern dream research.

However, in this dream, a “Freudian” interpretation looks like it could fit the situation overall. You’ll have to see what comes to mind when you try the method outlined above.

The fact that you let the man go after accepting his excuse (and therefore not taking his intrusion seriously) and that the embarrassing shower scene then appears could mean that failing to see the problem he symbolizes could apparently “expose” yourself to some embarrassing opinions of others.

The dream also seem to say that ignoring the problem won’t lead to its “poofing away” on its own because you then can’t find any clothes to put on although you’re in a hurry to get back to Victoria.

Stress grows and grows until you “trip up” and suddenly awake.

So the overall idea of the dream could possibly be that your emotions about Victoria could tend to get carried away too much, leading to revealing a “stranger” inside yourself which she and others might not like very much.

Anyway as mentioned, without knowing anything much about you, this interpretation might not fit your personal circumstances very well, but I hope these ideas can be helpful in some way.

Please feel free to make any comments or to ask any questions you might like to about this particular way of looking at your dream.

Originally Posted by Athanor

Although in order to provide an accurate interpretation, it would usually be best to have some additional background information about you as well as recent events just before the dream, it’s safe to say that this dream is probably fulfilling the usual purpose of dreams in general.

That is, in this case it’s trying to balance out an attitude and/or current or future way of behaving that maybe isn’t best for you overall in the long run.

The dream takes place “at home”, “right where you live”, partly emphasizing how “basic” a certain outlook or way of acting is present at this time.

This idea is supported by the fact there are extensive renovations going on which could represent important changes in the nature of recent experiences and the need for handling them well (e.g. on analogy, it’s important that big renovations are done efficiently and competently so that the basic integrity of the structure remains strong).

The image of bathrooms and showers specifically brings in the idea of change and transition by being linked to the idea of “baptism by water” which can cause huge changes in one’s overall outlook and sense of meaning.

The dream appears to focus on Victoria as representing the basic theme of the dream.

That’s because the image of a girl in the dreams of a guy (assuming you are a guy) usually symbolizes overall the inner area of emotions, values and relationships.

It looks like the dream touches on the origin of the inner image of the feminine which affects the type of girl you like by showing Victoria living in the room where your mother usually lives.

Countless interactions with his mother, female siblings and other early contacts with females inside and outside your family group builds up in a guy the inner image of “the right girl” and “this is how a girl should act” etc. which is automatically projected onto certain outer females who fit the image.

Although this isn’t a very romantic view of falling in love, it’s best to have some idea that part of the powerful and important experience involves this factor.

Generally, the idea is that, while the girl is usually fully aware of her emotions, values and what she wants (although she is also influenced by the inner image of the “perfect guy”), a guy has less control over this area of himself and so he has to be careful of what happens to his emotions when in love.

In the dream, you leave Victoria to grab something in your room.

It’s possible that what you wanted to grab had already been taken and possessed by the unknown man who says that the object you see him taking from your room is his.

He probably represents a part of your personality which you’re not very aware of and which you “can’t stop”, i.e. you grab his wrist but then let him go on the lame excuse that the object is really his. The bigger question is, however, why is this stranger in your room at all?

Anyway, the best way to figure out what the rectangular object symbolizes is to focus on it and then write down every spontaneous memory, thought and feeling that comes to mind.

By sifting through what appears, a clue should hopefully appear about what it means.

If you haven’t done so already, you’ll probably come across how Freudians would interpret a rectangular object that’s found inside some “pyjama pants”. You also connect it with bubble gum which can grow in size from a small rectangle to a huge “bubble” that then bursts.

The problem with the Freudian approach is that it tends to be very rigid and dogmatic about its interpretations.

For example, something firm and long like a flagpole etc. etc. is invariably interpreted as representing a penis.

While such an interpretation might rarely be right, it usually isn’t. In fact, most of Freud’s ideas and approaches to dream interpretation have not stood up at all in the light of modern dream research.

However, in this dream, a “Freudian” interpretation looks like it could fit the situation overall. You’ll have to see what comes to mind when you try the method outlined above.

The fact that you let the man go after accepting his excuse (and therefore not taking his intrusion seriously) and that the embarrassing shower scene then appears could mean that failing to see the problem he symbolizes could apparently “expose” yourself to some embarrassing opinions of others.

The dream also seem to say that ignoring the problem won’t lead to its “poofing away” on its own because you then can’t find any clothes to put on although you’re in a hurry to get back to Victoria.

Stress grows and grows until you “trip up” and suddenly awake.

So the overall idea of the dream could possibly be that your emotions about Victoria could tend to get carried away too much, leading to revealing a “stranger” inside yourself which she and others might not like very much.

Anyway as mentioned, without knowing anything much about you, this interpretation might not fit your personal circumstances very well, but I hope these ideas can be helpful in some way.

Please feel free to make any comments or to ask any questions you might like to about this particular way of looking at your dream.

What information would be useful to you? I'll provide details about myself just not sure what you need. Also I was not embarrased by the shower thing. I just seemed to be like "hmm, weird."

I would believe you are right about my emotions getting carried away with Victoria. I get quite anxious sometimes when or after talking to her. I'm also a bit of an introvert and she's either (i don't know as I'm not extremely experienced with relationships) kinda needy or I'm just way more antisocial than I thought. I got so drained from talking to her from pretty much as soon as I woke up right up until I went to sleep. That made me a bit of a nervous wreck. But some circumstances came up to where we havent been able to communicate at all and it's been kind of relieving but I also miss her quite a bit.

Hi again,

Background information is just the basic type of thing that you would give, say, in a job interview where you were asked “Tell us about yourself”, e.g. your general age range, likes and interests, goals etc. Of course you don’t have to provide a detail that you’re in any way uncomfortable about providing.

As far as not being embarrassed about the shower thing, the lack of a certain expected emotion can be important in a dream.

For example, try thinking how you’d feel if in reality, there were a bunch of strangers in your house looking at you in the shower through its translucent door.

If you’re a really totally laid back type of guy, maybe the way you reacted in the dream is “normal” but it’s more likely the dream is saying that you SHOULD be reacting more emotionally to their presence since symbolically, “seeing the real you” (i.e. being “naked”) has been experienced by strangers and this could be something to be embarrassed about if the strangers generally represent outer people in some way.

And without knowing the gist of the type of thing Victoria talked about, it’s hard to decide if she’s extra needy or whether you’re just not yet used to speaking about some apparently personal things with someone in depth.

If you feel that you’re basically a quiet, mostly inward looking person and that this won’t change too much as you have more experiences in relationships, then you might like to read “The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World” by Marti Olsen Laney, Psy.D.

So if you have any further questions, please let me know.