It looks like the many dreams of this type which you have could be trying to show the unfortunate result of the terrible traumas which you’ve gone through.
That is, many trauma victims wrongfully blame themselves for what happened to them, basically feeling that they’re “not worth anything”, are “no good” and that they should be “punished” for being so “bad” etc.
So it could be that a continuous “raping” goes on inside you in the form of self-hurtful thoughts and opinions about yourself.
If so, this type of thing is symbolized in the dreams of women by violent destructive men.
In this way of looking at your current dream, the public pool partly symbolizes how you probably deal with emotions, thoughts and opinions about yourself etc. (as symbolized by the water).
For example, things might be going OKAY in general (e.g. like having a pleasant swim) but soon, “disgusting” and cruel thoughts about yourself intrude mostly without you being aware (the friend who gropes you but whose face you don’t recognize).
Maybe sometimes you allow such bad opinions in too much (e.g. you dry your phone so that it works perfectly and then the man comes in and ties your hands, that is, you’re then “directly connected” with these very destructive ideas etc. too strongly).
In outer life, the co-worker might have a certain air about him which you take to be “critical” in general and maybe about you in particular, so he could symbolize an internal “self-critical” repetition of negative thoughts.
If so, this continuous cycle has been “built up” over the years by various very painful events and your reactions to deal with them (e.g. your “pool” of emotions and thoughts and how you handle them has been “man-made” like the pool in the dream).
One unseen bad thought might be something like “You’re so dumb that you can’t handle the smallest problem”, so you get overly nervous when confronted with various issues for example.
The fact that in some of your dreams you’re a man who rapes other women seems to support this idea that you could be hurting yourself with insensitive, “mannish” and cold thoughts etc.
Hopefully, you’re receiving some kind of ongoing professional help in dealing with what’s happened to you over the years.
If so, perhaps you could ask if the following book would be helpful to you. Although it’s designed to help people who are depressed, it contains a lot of useful exercises for anyone like yourself who might be plagued with self-doubts and hurtful opinions about themselves. It’s called “The Cognitive Behavioral Workbook for Depression, Second Edition: A Step-by-Step Program” by William J. Knaus.
Maybe working at the exercises would lead to a gradual lessening of you seeing “camels where others see flies” and your very frightening dreams could also disappear or at least happen much less often.
Anyway, without knowing too much about you, this approach to your current dream might not fit your personal circumstances very well, but I hope that these ideas can be helpful in some way.
Please feel free to ask any questions or to make any comments about this particular way of looking at your very upsetting dream.
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