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      Hi I'm Halldora. First a little bit about me... I'm 29 years old and a mother of four kids. I have a boyfriend and we've been together for just over a year but we've known each other for six and we have 2 kids together (the younger ones). Our lives are not perfect and we do argue more than I would want but we always get through it and work it out. I have a mental illness that plays a big role in our problems. I see camels where others see flies when it comes to problems, issues and other stuff.
      I have had a traumatic life to say the least. I lost my dad at 11, got into bad crowds and been the victim of physical, emotional and sexual abuse more than most people go through in their entire life.
      That brings me to my dream.

      I was at a public pool with some friends when one of them [didn't recognize the face in the dream] started groping me and trying to kiss me. I have a bf so I pushed him back and left the pool. I noticed that I had my phone in my swimsuit pocked and it was a little wet so I took it apart and wiped it off which made it work perfectly. That's when the same man came into the changing room. I was the only one there and felt scared and weak. He tied my hands in separate loops and then connected them behind my back. They weren't tied all the way together, there was distance between them and if I pulled I could have them by my sides. I was sitting tied up in a corner when another man walked in. That one I knew as one of my co-workers. He walked up to me and I begged him "please don't" but he pulled me up to me feet, pushed me against a wall (face first), pulled my pants of and raped me while the other man stood there and watched and kept a lookout for other people.

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      Hello hklarsen86,

      First of all, I am very sorry that you experienced such a traumatic dream Do you have recurring dreams that are related to this?

      Are you looking to use lucid dreams to resolve/confront suppressed memories and experiences? I initially turned to lucid dreaming years ago to resolve a chronic anxiety problem that I had. I wont go into it too much as it is nothing compared to what you have gone through but, the point is, I was able to use lucid dreaming to actually confront the underlying causes of my anxiety and essentially cure myself. So I have strong belief that other people, like yourself, can use it to help better understand, and hopefully cure personal issues.

      I don't know much about the rest of your background or what other sources you may have used to help manage your mental illness, but I really think that lucid dreaming can be a great compliment on top of whatever else you may be doing.
      Dreams are today's answers to tomorrow's questions. ~ Edgar Cayce

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      This dream is not literal but metaphorical and is about your work. It is an insight, unfortunately using your past trauma (which makes it a nightmare) into some nasty plans people have for you at work. You are not to be scared or take it literally. You are to be wary of those you work with who ultimately want to abuse and take advantage of you at work. This could be in the form of overlooking you for a promotion, manipulating you so you feel inferior to them, spreading lies and gossip about you so they look better. It will start with one and then others will join in. It is a warning dream. Stop yourself from being a victim and stand strong.
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      I have these dreams a lot. Usually it's an ex boyfriend of mine but sometimes someone else and sometimes I'm male in my dreams and the rapist, raping other women.

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      It looks like the many dreams of this type which you have could be trying to show the unfortunate result of the terrible traumas which you’ve gone through.

      That is, many trauma victims wrongfully blame themselves for what happened to them, basically feeling that they’re “not worth anything”, are “no good” and that they should be “punished” for being so “bad” etc.

      So it could be that a continuous “raping” goes on inside you in the form of self-hurtful thoughts and opinions about yourself.

      If so, this type of thing is symbolized in the dreams of women by violent destructive men.

      In this way of looking at your current dream, the public pool partly symbolizes how you probably deal with emotions, thoughts and opinions about yourself etc. (as symbolized by the water).

      For example, things might be going OKAY in general (e.g. like having a pleasant swim) but soon, “disgusting” and cruel thoughts about yourself intrude mostly without you being aware (the friend who gropes you but whose face you don’t recognize).

      Maybe sometimes you allow such bad opinions in too much (e.g. you dry your phone so that it works perfectly and then the man comes in and ties your hands, that is, you’re then “directly connected” with these very destructive ideas etc. too strongly).

      In outer life, the co-worker might have a certain air about him which you take to be “critical” in general and maybe about you in particular, so he could symbolize an internal “self-critical” repetition of negative thoughts.

      If so, this continuous cycle has been “built up” over the years by various very painful events and your reactions to deal with them (e.g. your “pool” of emotions and thoughts and how you handle them has been “man-made” like the pool in the dream).

      One unseen bad thought might be something like “You’re so dumb that you can’t handle the smallest problem”, so you get overly nervous when confronted with various issues for example.

      The fact that in some of your dreams you’re a man who rapes other women seems to support this idea that you could be hurting yourself with insensitive, “mannish” and cold thoughts etc.

      Hopefully, you’re receiving some kind of ongoing professional help in dealing with what’s happened to you over the years.

      If so, perhaps you could ask if the following book would be helpful to you. Although it’s designed to help people who are depressed, it contains a lot of useful exercises for anyone like yourself who might be plagued with self-doubts and hurtful opinions about themselves. It’s called “The Cognitive Behavioral Workbook for Depression, Second Edition: A Step-by-Step Program” by William J. Knaus.

      Maybe working at the exercises would lead to a gradual lessening of you seeing “camels where others see flies” and your very frightening dreams could also disappear or at least happen much less often.

      Anyway, without knowing too much about you, this approach to your current dream might not fit your personal circumstances very well, but I hope that these ideas can be helpful in some way.

      Please feel free to ask any questions or to make any comments about this particular way of looking at your very upsetting dream.

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