Dream interpretation requires a fairly detailed description of a dream, plus the events in the person's life surrounding the dream, that might be the cause of it. Could you describe one of the dreams as well as you remember it, and also give a basic account of the relationship and how it ended? If you could do that for several of them it would help immensely.
You sort of did that for the dream about your brother (though you didn't say why you haven't seen him since then), but how about one of the more romantic relationships or friendships, since it sounds like that's what you're mainly asking for.
The 2 dreams you talked about at the end - your brother and the woman who died, don't actually fit the pattern. You dreamed of both of them long after they left your life.
Also, when people say "this always happens to me" it's usually just an emotional over-reaction. Usually it really only happens a lot, but not always.
I'll go ahead and post the 2 things that came to mind, but really they're just guesses based on the rather vague information you've given.
1. Possibly your subconscious mind picks up on cues that you aren't consciously aware of that the relationship is about to end or the person is about to leave. Most communication is done subvocally through facial expression and body language and subtle hints and insinuations, very little of it is actually conveyed directly through words. Those kind of hints and insinuations get through to the subconscious but you don't pick up on them consciously, and the way the subconscious communicates with you is mainly through dreams and fantasies. So before you're consciously aware of what's going on at the subtle hidden level, the subconscious will start giving you hints through dreams. Often the dreams aren't direct messages, they're more like guesses or just a sign that something is happening that you aren't picking up on consciously. And of course, most relationships or attempted relationships will end - most of them pretty quickly.
2. You might have unrealistic expectations of a perfect romance or a perfect relationship, and this might cause you to put too much pressure on your prospective partners to behave like some kind of perfect fairytale prince or something. Basically this is a different way to say it's possible you're being too 'clingy' and putting too much pressure on your partner to move into a deeper stage of relationship before they're ready for that. When a person feels this kind of pressure it can make them panic or just get annoyed and decide it's time to move on. What made me think of this is that you said every single relationship or friendship has ended after you dreamed about it. Often when a person experiences the same problem over and over with different people, it means there's something inside themselves that needs fixing - some unrealistic expectation or demand that they tend to put on everyone. If that's the case, of course it isn't necessarily that you're being clingy or putting too much pressure on to advance the relationship too fast - I suppose that's more of a stereotype that sprang to my mind. But then since you only gave such vague information concerning the relationships and the dreams, I have nothing else to go on, so it's only stereotypes that come to mind.
3. (extra bonus answer I only just now thought of) It could just be that you're young and haven't lived enough life yet - haven't developed enough experience and learned how to do relationships and friendships all that well. Or it could just be the fact that as I already mentioned, the majority of friendships and relationships are going to end pretty quickly - it's only a handful that go for the long term.
Ok, I feel like all I've done is lay out a bunch of commonplace advice. If you could provide better information on a relationship or a friendship plus the dream, plus specifically how the relationship or friendship ended (and why), then I or someone else might be able to give a better analysis.
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