Thread: Sex Dreams

I'm sure im 100% wrong here but ill give this stuff a shot anyways

First are you a virgin in real life? Second if so then i assume you've never had an orgasm? That could be your problem there, your body is begging for relief.

Don't think masturbation is gross because it's natural, trust me, every guy will say you're hot for doing it heh.

So simply put id say it's sexual frustration, take a hot shower before bed, then go take care of your business(nothing wrong with keeping your dream lover in mind while you do it). Remember, your sexual dreams and fantasies are YOUR business as long as you keep it healthy you're fine.

Again, if you've never had an orgasm and if this is the case, add to the fact these dreams AND if you imagine yourself with the guy in your dreams, expect a powerful orgasm. you'll thank yourself for it


And masturbation is better than you getting pregnant at your age. just stop toturing yourself...

Tiakitty meet Tiakitty's hand, your new best friend lol

yes I am a virgin in real life, and I have never had an orgasm, but I have not a clue as to what to do when masturbating. Just a quick side note, is it against God's laws if you do that? Because I am a religeous person, and I am not sure if He would consider that sinning.

first of all, i am not a religious person, so don't think i'm an expert on the bible or anything. This is only what i think i know. I think that there are some religions that believe masturbation is wrong, and sex is only for reproduction. I don't think it says anywhere in the bible that masturbation is wrong. Personally, i believe that sex and masturbation are a natural thing. Thinking that something natural is wrong, isn't that a little unnatural? (to paraphrase Mr. Bill Hicks.) Sometimes i masturbate before going to sleep. I find that it helps me get to a relaxed mood. Also, when masturbating before bed i noticed i'm less likely to dream about sex. I would really like to know what kind of effects sex has on lucid dreaming. I haven't had a lucid dream yet, finger crossed, but i would like to know if anyone has noticed any effects on their dreams when having sex just before. I have noticed that my dreams are more vivid, and creative, but like i said earlier i haven't had a lucid dream yet. Sorry for the drawn out post, i think i got a little off topic. I'd say masturbation = good. It's natural. But don't take my work to heart when i say it's not against religion to masturbate. I honestly don't know. All i know is if it is against a religion to masturbate, well, let's just say those guys need to lighten up. (oh, and i'd be in the dark depths of hell right now if masturbation is "wrong".)

Originally Posted by tiakitty16

yes I am a virgin in real life, and I have never had an orgasm, but I have not a clue as to what to do when masturbating.[/b]

Well, do what feels good. That's the point . Try massaging your clitoris. Or maybe sticking some fingers in your vagina... or if you're really feelin it, try sticking some other object in there . Find what feels best, and keep doing it... and keep doing it... and keep doing it... and when you have an orgasm, you'll know it, because it'll be the most intensely pleasurable physical feeling you've ever had .

DuB, promoting female masturbation until the end.

Id recommend looking at some lesbian porn. If youre not at least a bisexual look at it like a documentary. Its where I got all my sex ed from, and I dont mean to brag or anything but im all that when it comes to sex.
Late teens and never had an orgasm? That must be terrible. You REALLY need to experience one.

I don't believe masturbation nor sex are against God's will. Some religions may say so, but who are they to speak? Honestly, I believe whatever you think is right, is right. Jesus said (if you're a Catholic) that if he had a field of wheat on one side of him, and a field of corn on the other side, he could not go to the wheat workers and demand corn of them, nor vice-versa. Basically meaning you cannot condemn someone because of what they feel is right and wrong, it's all perception. I do what I feel is right in life, so if you feel masturbation and sex is fine, then it is. That's how I see life anyway.

Right, tell a 16 year old CHRISTIAN girl to go watch gay porn, smooth man, real smooth.

Tiakitty i sent you a PM with CHRISTIAN backing on the fact masturbation is not wrong. I hope you got it, and don't listen to anyone that tells you to go watch gay porn lol. And DONT listen to any young males....

I agree with Bayside. You should not let religion define your behavior. Any search for God is a good one. It's the effort that counts. Of course, if you refuse to masturbate, then you have effectively stopped searching. It's actually a contradiction to not explore (yourself). If we know where the finish is, it would make the search unnecessary.

As a result, we go the wrong direction sometimes. As a genius once said, to err is human, to forgive is divine. God is forgiving and realizes we will make mistakes, that is our nature, that's why we are here, to learn. Some searches for divinity are more effective than others, one of those include tantra. The idea is that combining sexuality and spirituality is (arguably) the quickest path to God.

I think you do have the right idea, consider it part of your exploration. Whatever you do is right for you, don't let anyone else judge you for it.

WOW nice comment, tell this girl to NOT let her beleifs define her behavior. Why must some of you try so hard to get her to set God aside and follow her flesh? The girl chooses to be a Christian, so why not support her for it?

Masturbation is not wrong, there done, enjoy yourself, now i suggest as a young girl you stay off these boards and basicly don't use the net for advise. Specialy from sexualy charged young males. Really, how can a kid advise another kid on whats right?

Talk to your pastor, or teacher, somone REAL and ADULT oh and it helps if they are married.

ps. Stay a virgin till at least 21, or you're married, no need to give it up, and remember most guys will tell you what you want to hear, so they can get your pants off.

nuff said.

Because getting into your panties over the internet is entirely plausible.

youre obviously sexually frustrated, only one thing is gonna help. Dont expect anyone, adult or child to understand you in a way that they could offer meaningful help. A teacher isnt gonna talk to you about sex, and a priest will offer some disingenuous crap like god has a plan for you. If you can talk to your parents more power to you, but i doubt thats an option. The only thing you can ask yourself is whats more important - fundamental religion or a socially normal life. if youre caught between god and masturbation no one can help you decide. So, look at some porn and make up your mind based on experience and not on what people tell you is right.

See, your responce shows this topic is now dead. And to say I'm sexualy frustrated is kinda funny. Ya, me telling a young woman to avoid the net at least when it comes to sexual topics makes me a bad guy.

"Because getting into your panties over the internet is entirely plausible" with social engineering it's quite possiable.

No respect for a christian, but if she were gay or into some new age religion you would respect that, yet when shes a christian most of you start working on her in an effort to get her to set God aside.

I bet you're liberal.

i'm done with this thread.

Nobody said that she couldn't be a Christian though.... Nobody said she should set God aside. I said to follow her beliefs, because of what Jesus said. If she feels that masturbation is against God's will, then I don't encourage her to do it, but if she feels that God wouldn't mind, then I would encourage it. It's all down to what you believe. Also, I honestly don't know what you mean by telling her to get advice from "REAL" people, are we all not real people? Would it not be possible to see us walking down the street, just as any other person? Also, I don't believe age makes a difference. Sure older people may have been through more experiences, but I know fifteen year olds who have been through far more than a lot of thirty year olds. Your opinions are fine, but you have no right to tell anyone else that they're wrong because of it. I also believe Acheron wasn't talking to you when he said "you're sexually frustrated"....

Originally Posted by DuB

Well, do what feels good. That's the point . Try massaging your clitoris. Or maybe sticking some fingers in your vagina... or if you're really feelin it, try sticking some other object in there . Find what feels best, and keep doing it... and keep doing it... and keep doing it... and when you have an orgasm, you'll know it, because it'll be the most intensely pleasurable physical feeling you've ever had .
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That's a good advice. But also wet your fingers before doing it, Tia; it will increase the pleasure. Spit some saliva on your fingers and then put them up there.

I'm sure your God will not mind if you do it. To my knowledge, there is nothing in the bible that says masturbation is sinful.

@Xentec: It is good she asks people on the Internet. After all, she will not have to reveal her identity, and I know I would feel uncomfortable talking about masturbation with my parents or another adult in real life. I'm sure it would make her feel embarassed aswell.

Other than that, your advise is pretty good.

Originally Posted by tiakitty16

yes I am a virgin in real life, and I have never had an orgasm, but I have not a clue as to what to do when masturbating. Just a quick side note, is it against God's laws if you do that? Because I am a religeous person, and I am not sure if He would consider that sinning.
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Well if you check between your legs, There'll be 2 Main spots of pleasure: The Clitoris and the ''cealing'' of the Inside of your Vagina. I can't believe I ( A guy ) am telling a Girl lol. But it's okay.

Youn know what? Sex and the things surrounding it have been such a taboo: UNNECECAIRY. Sex is Lust. Lust is a very Natural Human Desire. I'm not religious but my own personal beliefs are based on and pretty close to Christian-Judaic ethics.

God gave you your body...Also your vagina, and me in my case my Penis. If humans have this Desire then why would God forbid? It is part of His own creation and Harmless & Innocent.


There are more primitive Impulses and Desires: Such as territorial Agression (A.K.A. War )and Polygamy.(Damn Cheating lovers)
These 2 Desires are IMO ''Low'' Desires Since They cause alot of pain and suffering. Agreed?

But Masturbating so your Sexual Desire is Relieved is a very innocent desire, just as is the Act of Sex: It is not only innocent. It is one of the better impulses in Humanity: It's joyfull and Harmless and what makes this world a little bit of a better place.

Good to hear you are a Girl that really does think about ethics instead of just answering every Impulse without thinking. I remained a Virgin till I was almost 20. It's good to Value yourself!

But just give it some thought. God made our Bodies and Minds and did so very artistically, complete with sexualilty, Emotions, Intellect...etc. Life is a miracle. And Sexuality is an innocent aspect of that Miracle.

Sex is a Joy, Not a Sin. Think about it.

I'd rather see the world change into one big Lustfull Orgy than the state it is in now: Guns Bombs and War.

im not sure if im right but wouldn't masturbation stop the urge to rape people and if less people get raped its a good thing

Originally Posted by Shadow

im not sure if im right but wouldn't masturbation stop the urge to rape people and if less people get raped its a good thing
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im sure you all have prolly heard this a few times but for the most part, rape is not about sexual desire, but about a feeling of power and control.

Originally Posted by SKA

Youn know what? Sex and the things surrounding it have been such a taboo: UNNECECAIRY. Sex is Lust. Lust is a very Natural Human Desire. I'm not religious but my own personal beliefs are based on and pretty close to Christian-Judaic ethics.
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OMG, you tell her that sex is lust and its not a sin...Lust is one of the 7 deadly sins...so much for your ethics.

I'm not religious altough I was raised a Catholic. I don't find masturbating a sin and never did.

But if you equalize sex with lust then its a sin unless used for procreation.

Without getting too much into my own religious and personal beliefs, I do want to share with you some trivia. Have you ever heard of succubus and incubus? They are supposedly demons that used to prey upon unsuspecting people and sexually assult them (and some say they still do.) I'm not sure if I buy into that--never had or known anyone who've experienced "them"...but one explanation for these "demons" is the guilt felt by religious people after having sexual dreams/desires. If a pious man in the 1600s had a wet dream, he may have blamed it on a succubus. He was too pure to have such a dream. Catch my drift? I don't think these "demonds" connect directly to your story, but I'd have to agree with the others who have replied and say that your dream is probably your body trying to let you know of your sexual frustration. Horomones FLY during the teen years, and these years are best for exploring yourself--emotionally, spiritually and phsyically. Learning more about yourself and feeling pleasure is not a sin...to my knowledge. I hate how people (especially religious people, it seems) put such a huge taboo on sex. It should be a beautiful thing--we should see it as positive, a form of beautiful creation and expressed love. Masturbation is merely preperation, a way to ready yourself for the real thing. Excuse me if this analogy causes some giggles, but--think of sex as a math test. You wouldn't take the test without studying, would you?

Also...what is the appeal of Jack Sparrow/Johnny Depp? Soooo many girls are in love with this man. I don't get it. That was a rhetorical question. Personally, I prefer Antonio Banderas and Chazz Palminteri (about a decade ago, that is.)

Originally Posted by Xentec

Right, tell a 16 year old CHRISTIAN girl to go watch gay porn, smooth man, real smooth.

Tiakitty i sent you a PM with CHRISTIAN backing on the fact masturbation is not wrong. I hope you got it, and don't listen to anyone that tells you to go watch gay porn lol. And DONT listen to any young males....
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Um... I think she should be able to watch gay porn or do anything she wants to...

Secondly, about what shadow dreamer said: Being that rape IS about power and not sexual desire, I doubt that masturbation would stop the urge to rape. But I do agree that less people getting raped is a good thing. Obviously.

About the dream: The fact that it started out as forced and became something you were into might mean that you were/are having thoughts about the relationship between sex and power and what all that means and how the two concepts relate to one another and to you. Just a thought.

good god! I truly feel sorry for you feeling that masturbation is a sin. according to the bible it's almost a sin to go to the bathroom.

What your feeling is the desire that every human goes through - the need to reproduce. there's nothing taboo. i think it's sad that religion conditions us against our natural instincts. I'm not religous, but i'll pray for you

sex dreams are caused when your body has the urge to have sex so if you dont masturbate or have sex these dreams continue

hhm interesting. I guess i can try to save my load for a while and get some sex dreams.

Originally Posted by tiakitty16

Every night, I have dreams about sex. In the dream, I am with a guy I think is hot in real life, but most of the time it is with Jack Sparrow. It started off in a beach, I was riding a black stallion across the white sand, when Jack suddenly appeared out of nowhere, and he scared the crap out of my horse who threw me to the ground and ran off. Jack strode up to me, picked me up bridal style, and carried me onto the Black Pearl(minus the fact I was out cold). I woke up to find my clothes had been removed and he was on top of me, I tried to move, but I was tied to the bed. He started to kiss me roughly, I told him to stop but he kept on going. Then he started raping me, but halfway through it, I started to really enjoy it. I did a lot of things I never thought I knew. I was enjoying it so much, I decided to stay with him on the Pearl and be his mistress/wife. Now every night I am doing it with him in my dreams. I am only in my late teens, but the thought of masturbating has come to my mind quite a few times, but I find the idea of me doing that, revolting, but a small voice in my head says, "you may enjoy it, you don't know until you try." Can anyone help me on this???
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sounds good for you. you cant catch anything in your dreams. and did you say you were in your late teens are you've never masturbated?

If masturbation is a sin consider me athiest from now on.