Love

**fakexhorror** · 09-18-2007 01:47 AM

The other night I had a dream that i was in love with a soldier. Looking back, the soldier looked like one of my best friends. In the dream, he was just about to leave for war and got into a fight with his parents about going, and about me(his girlfriend). After the fight, which he make certain that he was going and not staying, he came out and hugged me good bye. Before he went, he proposed to me. I began to cry and said yes then watched him disappear into nothing. I woke up crying and clutching my ring finger.
A couple years ago, I liked this guy as more than a friend. Now, I'm pretty sure that I just like him as a friend because I think i know the person i'm destined to be with, but there was another guy that i was in love with last year... It's so confusing. does anyone have an idea what my subconscious is trying to tell me?
help!!!

**quattykitty** · 09-18-2007 05:27 PM

well the fighting in the dream certainly represents your emotional relationship conflicts. now i cant tell you which guy to go to, thats up to you to decide. maybe you subconsciously know of one of your guys that have had a fight w/ their parents and that is the guy that you either love OR maybe, ebcause he faded into nothingness, if the one that ur not suposed to be with?

follow your heart, thats all the adviedc i can give =]

**Burned up** · 09-18-2007 06:38 PM

[Interesting - I've responded to a few people recently about dreams where friends appear as lovers.]

The way I see it is that you're dreaming of the "lost" part of you that you want to find in another person. You felt comfortable being with your friend (as if you had found something to make you whole) and that's why your dream uses him. Anyway, "he" seems to have conflicting allegances(?sp). "His" parents are probably your values in reality (the part of you that tells you what to do) whereas the army represents signing up for external values. He proposed to you, suggesting that he too wants to be whole with you but until the conflict with his parents (your values) is over he won't be returning.

Could this be about reconciling your heart (looking for and yearning for "him") and your mind ("him" being accepted by parental values)? If so, what values do you need to change/drop to make that reconcilliation happen?

I would add that the dream doesn't necessarily mean that your friend is the ideal husband for you (although he might be). Just that he represents the male/rational/logical/physical (i.e. whatever you believe is male for you) part of you which you have been searching for.

Bu