"I'm lonely sometimes but it's alright." |
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I'm lonely and mildly depressed because of it.
I'm lonely sometimes but it's alright.
I don't suffer from it.
I don't suffer from it, I even enjoy my lonely life.
I don't know anybody who doesn't have some company of people they get along with at least a little bit at least every other day. I've got friends and I really love them, but I rarely see them or talk to them. Loneliness seems to be the major theme of my life, humor a close second. But when I think about it, humor may have always been a way to attract people and to be less lonely, even now. |
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Last edited by Ginsan; 08-04-2015 at 12:06 AM.
"I'm lonely sometimes but it's alright." |
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Having battled bouts of loneliness and depression in the past, particularly from ages 15-19, I've found that a lack of confidence kept me from reaching out and truly connecting with others, and the conviction that I needed others to be happy prevented me from finding the source of true happiness independent of external conditions. Initially, fixing my self esteem issues and "finding myself" allowed me to build strong and beneficial relationships, and later, realizing that there was an even purer form of happiness that didn't fluctuate like the ups and downs of many relationships allowed me to see that seeking happiness from relationships will never bring the satisfaction that one desires. |
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Vince, what is this thing that you found? I would be eternally grateful if you could help me find something similar. I hope it's not Jesus because I'm very unlikely to find him anywhere other than inside a book |
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Last edited by Ginsan; 08-04-2015 at 03:47 AM.
It's Jesus. |
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I don't suffer from it, I even enjoy my lonely life. |
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Loneliness, for me, doesn't mean not interacting with people, not hanging out with friends or anything like that. It means not having a single person in your life who is "truly" interested in what you think and feel. And that's the case for me. I'm lonely and mildly depressed because of it. |
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figurefly, you said something interesting, but I don't know if that's the case for me. Part of me says that my friends are truly interested in how I feel and think and part of me says they are only kind of interested. But I simply don't know because I don't know them well enough. |
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Last edited by Ginsan; 08-04-2015 at 02:26 PM.
The thing I'm about the say has no scientific side to it. And might sound stupid. |
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I think I can relate, but maybe I'm thinking of something else. Yesterday I had a lengthy conversation with a friend, and last week a different lengthy conversation with another friend. I was trying to understand what they were trying to say, then think about whether I am still convinced of my own opinion or not, if not, I'd tell them and if I still disagreed I'd try to state my view clearly. Look for the common ground. Try to found out whether something is a genuine disagreement or just a misinterpretation of each others' view. We talked about several things and sometimes we found out that we agreed, sometimes we agreed to disagree, sometimes we'd go to another topic without resolving it and sometimes I would change my mind, and I think once she moved a little closer to my point of view, but maybe she felt that way all along. |
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I think, the conversation could be about anything, the topic is not of importance. It could be about how cool his/her latest spine xray is (wtf is wrong with my imagination). And it doesn't need to be a debate nor thought exchange. If it is though, to learn/to see from eachother's perspectives shouldn't be the only reason to continue the conversation. The two should be talking simply because they're interested in what eachother thinks. Now that's a rare thing, don't you agree? |
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I laughed out loud at the spine xray |
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Last edited by Ginsan; 08-04-2015 at 03:16 PM.
You know, seeing genuinely kind, wise, intelligent people, much more so than I am, on Dreamviews somehow makes me feel less lonely. And there are a lot of those people in here. Maybe that's a hidden reason for me to make threads in Extended Discussion? I also felt less lonely yesterday after talking to the friend, perhaps because I partly felt this connection that you mentioned? |
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Last edited by Ginsan; 08-04-2015 at 03:41 PM.
Yeah I think that could be true. For me too. I just asked myself why I'm doing a lot of online chatting and why I'm spending a huge amount of time asking answering in forums like DV. And I might be close to the answer right now. I agree, there are many intelligent, kind people here. And yes, I learn a lot but I just noticed the real reason of me being here or in internet in general is to show and get genuine interest from people. It helps with my loneliness. |
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Last edited by figurefly; 08-04-2015 at 03:50 PM.
My best friend lives 12 hours away and I cannot hang out with any of my other "friends" because I am trying to remain sober and all anyone does in this town is get fucked up on drugs or alcohol. So, in my already difficult battle of being straightedge (I was pretty much addicted to doing drugs, dissociatives were what I longed for in particular, but in reality as long as I was something other than sober it didn't matter), I also have to remain completely alone just to deprive myself of any drug connections or additional temptations and situations in which I would slip up. The only thing that has really made me feel lonely is not being able to hang out with my best friend, whom I could be in the company of literally every day and never get in arguments or super bored. For a while the separation just from him was enough loneliness and was indeed enough to make me at least mildly depressed. However, I finally found a way to work past that. |
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snoop, I felt slightly moved and inspired by your story And I hope that things remain well for you and your lover |
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Last edited by Ginsan; 08-04-2015 at 03:54 PM.
And lady! Don't forget the (probably) lovely lady! |
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And what about me? Nah I'm just kidding |
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For you too Ginsan, seriously You're great |
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I know I am... Heheheh and I'm gleeful about my arrogance |
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Last edited by Ginsan; 08-04-2015 at 04:29 PM.
No because that was not what I meant. "I hope it is because it really is." Means this: "I hope it sounded like perfect English to me because it really is perfectly correct and not because I suck at English." |
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Last edited by figurefly; 08-04-2015 at 05:06 PM.
Ohhh yes, now I see. After being quite confused and reading it a few times I finally got it. And about the second part, I apologise for being confusing in the first place and being too lazy to try and make more sense now. |
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Last edited by Ginsan; 08-04-2015 at 09:29 PM.
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