Thread: Oh no...as I suspected...

That sounds familiar: the most powerful, emotional, life-defining experiences that people have in life are totally commonplace and banal. Ironic?

Aww, hon... I wish I could help you. I honestly don't know what to suggest in that situation other than one of the hardest things of all... try to ignore her and focus on other things around you.

I know you'll be ok. Know why? Because you're still here. I wish I could tell you that the pain completely goes away. The loves of our life always leave a scar, but you come out stronger for it. I know you're scared, but you're not alone. We're here and, for what it's worth, we'll help you as much as we can.

Where are you getting those Smiles? LOL, Just the other day i wonderin that when i saw 1 of you threating to blow some 1 up. And there was this lil smiley guy, who threw a bomb to this marshmellow smileying, and he ate it and BOOM.


grrr

Originally posted by A Lost Soul

Aww, hon... I wish I could help you. I honestly don't know what to suggest in that situation other than one of the hardest things of all... try to ignore her and focus on other things around you.

I know you'll be ok. Know why? Because you're still here. I wish I could tell you that the pain completely goes away. The loves of our life always leave a scar, but you come out stronger for it. I know you're scared, but you're not alone. We're here and, for what it's worth, we'll help you as much as we can.

You're right, I mean, she started the whole thing between us, and I can promise her she'll never meet another like me.. anyone would be hurting too. I guess I do have to just forget it and try to move on.. it's just so hard to do that when everything seems so worthless without her.

Thank you soo much. It makes me smile...so that makes it worth a lot to me...

But I still don't know how I'm going to take control of my dream problems...

Hmm, I guess I can relate - I think most of us have been there some time or another. Here's my advice: take it one day at a time. Try to focus on anything positive and drive your spirits up, not down. Only time will heal the wounds of the girl that got away. If you dwell on the lost, it will take longer and much effort to let go. I've been down this road and I travel it now. It sucks, no doubt

If you really want to lucid dream more than anything you could do a reality check everytime you find yourself thinking about her or see her. I wouldn't though, it would only encourage something you want to let go.

Originally posted by azwe_echo
How can I use this? I can't use her to gain lucidity...I'll NEVER realize I'm dreaming, even if I think I could, I don't want to...I want it to be real...

Echo, i can sympathize with you here 100%, know you are not alone. I just finished a journal entry with striking parallels to your dillemma . : I meet up with the one true love of my life, (this stgory is over TEN years old and i know i will never see her again, but she still enters my dreams from time to time even though she is long gone from my waking thoughts). In the dream i pretend to bump into her without realizing it even though i have been watching her for about a minute. I ask her if she has children or a husband now and she replies no on both counts. My waking critical mind realizes now that she is only answering the way i want her to, and i am frustrated by the inability to realize dreamsign here, even though i often coach myself before sleeping that meeting her is a dreamsign of mine. The mind's desire to continue the pleasant sensation of being with the lost one is to overpowering to break out of and attain lucidity. I record this now in this forum if only to try to help myself realize it all next time and clarify my thoughts, if i ever have any successes with this i will be sure to let you know, at present i have no more good answers than you do. Keep up the fight!

Originally posted by Mannequin Skywalker
In the dream i pretend to bump into her without realizing it even though i have been watching her for about a minute.

That's similar to my last dream she appeared in. I was in a big station akin to an airport...but I don't know how I traveled so I'm not sure exactly what the place was...but everyone there was lost in the crowds. I was with a friend and other students on a fieldtrip or something. Anyway, fastforward to the end...I was back in the station getting ready to leave. I heard someone say (to her) "...well, everyone you kiss becomes their best." (as if in response to something I didn't hear...but can imagine) I turned toward the voice, and I saw her from behind and I knew it was her right away...I could tell by the way her hair was put up, among other subtleties I can't so easily describe. All I wanted to do was touch her shoulder and see her turn to greet me cheerily...in the dream I must've seemed distraught to those looking, there was actually a fierce struggle inside of me...it was so real. I thought to myself "even if she was happy to see me, I'd only be hurting myself...I need to just leave her."
I woke up before there was any outcome... likely because I still (even subconsciously) don't know what to do.

Again, familiar.

There was this girl I used to dream about all the time... I'd just dream about bumping into her somewhere and talking for a while. But then ya gotta wake up.

I still have dreams of my first love, and I'm married now to someone else....I think romantic love is very powerful and really dose leave an impression that lasts forever. I still dream about him and think about him, but I know that in this world we live we could'nt be together because we would make eachother crazy....You never feel more alive then when you are in love...savor it, and know it's uncontrollable and fleeting.

Originally posted by jill1978
I still have dreams of my first love, and I'm married now to someone else....I think romantic love is very powerful and really dose leave an impression that lasts forever. I still dream about him and think about him, but I know that in this world we live we could'nt be together because we would make eachother crazy....You never feel more alive then when you are in love...savor it, and know it's uncontrollable and fleeting.

Here here, Jill.

Didn't realize this is such a common theme in dreaming... I also have recurring dreams of my first true love from high school. Even though I am somewhat lucid, I still seem to have this uncontrollable desire or hope that the dream is real, and so I believe that I am talking and interacting with her... these are frustrating in a sense because on one level I am over her -she's married, and I have developed other love interests since, but I guess because the bond was so strong/influential on my psyche, on another level, I can't seem to get her out of my head! aaaaargh!

What about the SMILEIES *sigh*

But it's ok man. It's all kool until you start stalking her.

No, im just playin
But for realz, i know how you feel *raises his hand* happend to me before.

Originally posted by Shawndow
But it's ok man. It's all kool until you start stalking her.

That's why she confuses me so much. To this day (well, at least since we saw each other last), she's still the one initiating everything. It wasn't long ago we were both at a b-ball tournament, and I heard her say "Hey!..I thought that was you." We had a nice conversation (which is something that's always easy with her.. ) and I swear I could still feel that familiar vibe emanating as we both frequently sighed and basically said whatever we thought in an attempt to extend the conversation as long as possible before we had to go our separate ways again. But a couple months before this happened, in school, I swear she couldn't look me in the eye and wanted nothing to do with me. I even drew her a picture all with a blue (her fav. color) ink pen...it was a koi fish just above the ocean, water straying everywhere, glistening under the sunlight's warmth...and she didn't even want it That really crushed me, because I'm very passionate about my art, and the only reason it occurred to me to draw it was because I remembered her saying, upon realizing i'm an artist, "Well you've never drawn anything for me..." Anyone would've been touched by the fact that I even remembered that...
She's just so bipolar sometimes...I don't even think she knows what she wants...

On another note, I read her horoscope as often as I read mine, and you wouldn't believe the accuracy of them both...if only she could at least see that. One day, she'll be the last to know, though...she's still single...and likely not thrilled, anyone that says otherwise is just denying the fact that they don't want to be alone... no one likes to be alone...not all the time...

lalallaa I'm just thinking out loud...but I better quit now