Thread: Frustrated with Inconsistent Peers

umm i had a similar situtation a couple months ago kick his ass only then will you truly be friends, make a point that you dont want to do it but he messed wit your girl so hes gotta get a beating (if he is bigger than you use abat or something) but you gotta show him your not his bitch and neither is your girl

i think a big mistake is when people say they have no control over people like that. you have the choice to keep them as a friend... regardless of how close they live to you. there's always a choice. remove yourself from them if they're ruining so much stuff... because if you don't then the blame falls on you, and not them. you see the problem... but you don't act on it.

This guy's obviously a good manipulator. It's people like these that can avoid guilt by displacing it on others, and know exactly when to strike to acheive what they want with impunity.

While it may cross your mind to "give him a taste of his own medicine", people like that rarely have visual troubles. Your best bet is to attempt to stride over his attempts not with brute force or passive reaction, but with cruel and subtle attacks at his personality. You probably know enough about how he works by now, and it shouldn't take long to find that oh so sweet achilles heel we all have.

For example. Why on earth did he need your girlfriend specifically? You might think malicious, but I'm thinking insecure. It's things like this you need to pick up on and thrust back in his face. Not totally confrontationally, but in a striking manner.

Best of luck.

So much of that type of thing goes on at our school. Last year we had 7 fights in the junior class alone. 100% of those fights were because of girl/guy issues. If someone tries to steal your girlfriend, they aren't your friend. If your girlfriend goes along with it, she doesn't love you. If your friend hurts you repeatedly, they aren't your friend. I would refuse association altogether with that person, because the "drama" isn't worth it. I have never been in a fight in my life, and I've learned my lesson in friends. Real friends love you no matter what and would never comprimise that for anything. If they put conditions on a friendship, forget it. It's not worth it. Avoid the "drama". It never gets anyone anywhere.

I've never or rarely been one to point out people's faults. A cruel and subtle attack on personality.....I mean, yes, I will attempt that. He doesn't seem to realize the mistakes he's making, and contradicts almost everything he says. God...

He often preaches about refusing to sugar-coat truth when he's mad at me and stuff, but does it anyway with his new gf and refuses to point out her faults. And he "stopped" pursuing my gf at the time because he found somebody else, and seems to have a less negative attitude about it, which I am enraged about because his shift of perspective was due to selfish and shallow circumstances. And gross yet, his new gf is/was his ex's best friend, met online, and proposed after 3 months on the phone. Stupid, corrupted, fool.

After a few days in my relationship, he told her to dump me and go with him, because "he can treat her a lot better." Recently, I found out the ways he did flirtatious activity with her in the past that I didn't know about. I approached his house at nighttime and harrassed him by punching his windows and walls, as well as breaking part of his front gate. I'm probably very possessive, but right now I can't help but be, a burning sense of justice lies within me.

So much of what he said in the past, he contradicts right now. It bugs me sooo much. But attacking his personality, perhaps, not because I'm merely sadistic, but to make him feel bad about what he did.