Thread: How do you feel about meeting DV members in person?

Don't get me wrong, there are lots of very nice people here but, there's really only one member I absolutely want to meet in person and that person already knows who they are.

On the other hand, I'd kind of like to meet a few others but I probably would not go through such lengths to do so.

I'd be far too shy. Although it would be nice to see and meet everyone, I'd be a nervous wreck.

Wonder who that person is..

I think its kind of weird meeting people off the Internet. But have done it. Down where I live there is a forum I use, for people in the south, who are interested in cars, and I joined the forum 4/5 years ago and met up with a dozen people from there, and a lot of them are now my really close friends, hang out a lot with them. We have a weekly meet every Wednesday night, often go out drinking together, and even work with about 4 or 5 of them.

So I think it's maybe not a bad thing, depending on circumstances, for the regional forum I am on, everyone is from the south, UK and always meets up on there, and we encourage new members to come to our weekly meets, which happen to be outside down on the seafront, and you get to meet a lot of new people all the time. But for a worldwide forum such as this, I think it makes it a little harder to do so as there is not that constant interaction with people outside the forum, if you get what I mean.

Having said that, if the time and location were right, I would do so I think

Originally Posted by Pensive Patrick

I'd be far too shy. Although it would be nice to see and meet everyone, I'd be a nervous wreck.

Me too. I find it easier to talk on the internet about these things, just like many others I suspect.

Originally Posted by AdamA

Wonder who that person is..

Hehe, there probably aren't too many members who wouldn't be able to guess correctly. I am rather obvious most of the time

Originally Posted by •Neko•

Me too. I find it easier to talk on the internet about these things, just like many others I suspect.

It is easier in some respects to talk over the Internet. But I feel much more at ease in person than I do, say, over the phone. I don't think nervousness would be my problem.

Hehe, there probably aren't too many members who wouldn't be able to guess correctly. I am rather obvious most of the time

I think I know.

And that's funny, bro... I actually live half an hour away from Vancouver.

Why are you guys coming all the way up here?

I am planning on coming to the states next year!! YEY!

edit: That was a seperate comment, I am aware Vancouver is not in the states lol

I think that any meeting would be very awkward.

It is one thing to talk and stuff on the internet but it is totally different to do it in person. I just think there would be a substantial amount of awkward silences, and it would be weird to find something to talk about. In this case, you can only talk about lucid dreaming for so long, and then what? An awkward goodbye?

"So..."
*long silence*
"Er... so I think I'm gonna go now"
"Oh, okay..."
"Bye... see.. I mean talk to you later"
"Bye."

It may be less-awkward if there was a group of people.

Why would it be like that? I can talk for England me! And I am sure others are the same, there is always a lot to talk about when meeting new people, hell thats part of the fun that you have so much to talk about as you invariably know nothing about the other person.

I think it would be awesome to have a few DV meetups in some regions.
I think people would get along nicely.

When i was big into the seduction community, i emt quite regularly with guys from there. we would go out clubbing and have a blast.

Ithink there would be lots to talk about since we all have one thing in common: LD's

Originally Posted by •Neko•

Me too. I find it easier to talk on the internet about these things, just like many others I suspect.

Ditto, the person I am on DV isn't the person I am in the rest of my life. I'm way more open and extroverted here.

Originally Posted by badassbob

Ditto, the person I am on DV isn't the person I am in the rest of my life. I'm way more open and extroverted here.

I'm like that also.

I might post random mad stuff in the chatroom that I wouldn't say in real life. My avatar and signature don't reflect what I'd really wear. I think smilies help a lot too (e.g. ).

Originally Posted by •Neko•

I might post random mad stuff in the chatroom that I wouldn't say in real life. My avatar and signature don't reflect what I'd really wear. I think smilies help a lot too (e.g. ).

That's the thing. I think it'd be cool to meet some DV members but I think that - no matter who it is - it may potentially be awkward because people can be drastically different in person than you expect them to be.

But that's not to say that there will be nothing to talk about. I'm sure we could think of something.

Though, if it's at some kind of DV convention or lunch event then no one would be too one on one if they didn't choose to be.

Originally Posted by •Neko•

I think smilies help a lot too (e.g. ).

Good point. There's no real-world way of conveying a smile.

Well, I think we could easily get over our akwardness, though it would take time, and be just like any other strangers getting to know each other, with one common interest among us. Though a worldwide meeting would not be practical due to vast distances hehe.

Well, actually Cold Blooded, I'll be travelling there with my father, for a business meeting. I get about 3 days alone in a fancy-ass hotel there, while the old man gives talks and meets farty executives around a mahogony table in a conference room. Technically, I'll take buses or cabs, to attractions and wander the city (in a good way). I found LucidSeeker is travelling to Vancouver with his family, and since I have family there, I said WTH, off to Vancouver we are! As to what we'll do, who knows, he'll probably laugh at my accent, and I his, but that's how it goes. We'll have fun.

After a day or so with LucidSeeker, we'll travel back to the U.S, in Washington State, rent an RV(camper) and go off to some state parks, and hopefully get a tent to do some authentic camping.

We're you thinking of possibly all 3 of us getting together, in the Vancouver area? just another idea...

P.S, Ranma, how far are you from Vancouver?

Ah, great to finally see a thread about this bro, i think that we need to get as many DV members as possible to come out for a meetup in vancouver, it seriously would be a great day out, i think despite it maybe being kind of awkward when first meeting, were sure to be getting on throughout the day. I think it would be great if anyone else could come.

You know, I've heard the 'it's going to be awkward' thing so many times, but I myself have met someone from the internet (two at the same time, actually), and it was a blast. Just because you joined the same community doesn't mean all you have to talk about is lucid dreaming.

And bro, I would come, but me being 16 without a car severely limits me getting around, and the parental thing always comes into play. "You're meeting someone from the intarnet, oh noes." Sucks for me, good for you guys cause you get to spend a day in Vancouver. I'm sure there'll be another time, I don't plan on leaving this community anytime soon.

Also, if you want, I can give you a list of places you can go to see in Vancouver. I can be your virtual tour guide.

You'd be surprised how quickly the awkwardness evaporartes. I've probably met more DV members IRL than anyone on the forum. It does kind of go that way.

Er...Hi....What's up? But by the end of the evening, it's as if you'd been buddies all your life.

The meeting referred to at the start of this post was me, Lucius, CT, and Lucid Apple(from LD4ALL).

We met for dinner in Nijmegen, Netherlands while I was in Europe on business. It was awkward for a few minutes, but at the end, we were talking about the mysteries of the universe, lucid dreaming, and plenty of other interesting issues. I wish we could do it again, I've lost contact with all three of those guys! It was a fascinating evening.

Originally Posted by Oneironaught

Hehe, there probably aren't too many members who wouldn't be able to guess correctly. I am rather obvious most of the time

It's me right?

I would like to meet up with some people from Dv, I've made good friends with a lot of people and think the distance from one another is very annoying.

Originally Posted by NeAvO

It's me right?

I guess it's even more obvious than I thought.

I recall several talks about buying out a hotel and using it for a convention... I assume that the Brits like me and the like wouldn't be able to go unless they went over to the USA, right?

I would hate it. I have a vision of what this person is inside my head and I don't want that to be disrupted.

Originally Posted by NeAvO

It's me right?

I would like to meet up with some people from Dv, I've made good friends with a lot of people and think the distance from one another is very annoying.

Mate, we could meet and drink Tea

Originally Posted by CymekSniper

I would hate it. I have a vision of what this person is inside my head and I don't want that to be disrupted.

I sometimes get that also. Right now, I imagine you as the guy in your avatar. People probably imagine me as a blue My Little Pony . Not that I mind that of course.