Thread: Meant To Be.. . .Alone

To be honest, I don't think so. I don't deny that your classmate acts the way she does, but I don't think she is _meant_ to be alone. Even if we humans really know nothing about fate and all, we all have opinions, and my own is that fate doesn't exist. You are your experiences, you are not trapped in a way of life. Probably, that girl, and many other people, got barriers in their mind. I didn't really understand if she wanted to be alone, or if it just was like that.. that she didn't let people into her life or..? I think she got barriers in her mind. They are probably created through experiences with people.
You are pretty much shaped in your first 18 years of life. Those years can make you a thousand different personalities, but after those years.. you are kinda trapped. Dont get me wrong, you can still change, but it's tough.

Anyways, I don't believe so, no .

There's 2 billion humans or something on Earth, at least 1 of them will defintely just be meant to be alone.

There were 2 billion people c. 1948, K, now it's closer to 7b, unless there was a plague I didn't hear about.

Regarding people "meant to be alone," I have to go with most of what Fr0ggeh said. No one's "meant" in any huge sense to be anything, but experience can set up ideas in your mind that back you into a corner. Myself, I was quite an outcast as a kid, got more social in high school, started slow in college, hit another wave of heavy social activity, went into seclusion, moved, sought out another scene where I could party constantly, and now I'm a recluse again (except that I make my living being social). At present, there're a lot of negative learning experiences telling me I can no longer get close to people, if I ever could, but really, for all I know, there could be another round of social whoredom coming along. I guess I'm saying, nothing is etched in stone except change--change is the only constant.

i dont think i meant to be alone but i dont really share my emotion il just keep it myself

IM sociable and i tlak to peole and im not shy, but im alone. And most of the time i like it, but sometimes i relaly hate it, and its my falt i know. OFr some reason i can never seem to get close to people.

I used to travel around all the time, like a bagabon that dropped off the Earth. For the longest time I didn't think I needed friends but overtime I began to go into depression, only then did I realize how important it is to share your life with others. It's funny, now I can't get enough attention!

Perhaps being 'alone' has a lot to do with people who think too much...Thinking implies that other people dont need to be there.

Personally I think this girl - and anyone else - CAN have a relationship/good friends, it's just that they don't mind being alone.

i hope im not meant to be alone. but sometimes i think i will end up being alone. i have friends some of which i am very close to. i do have people who have been and are interested in me. ive been told i am pretty and i get on well with anybody. great set of friends etc my problem is that no one is ever right for me. if it dont feel right with a person in the boyfriend kind of way then i wont evengive them a chance to prove themself that they are good enough. they can be perfectly fine.but if that little thing is missing then i cant even entertain the idea. sometimes i think i want too much and maybe i should settle for someone i like. but i need more than that, i need to want them. so maybe if i end up alone it is my own fault but not because i am meant to be alone. i know i dont have to be alone, i could have a boyfriend now if i wanted but no one is good enough.

i dont mean in looks i mean in everything. if something aint there then it aint there. im not the kind of person to go out with someone just so i have someone. i cant do that. hopefully i'll find someone i want one day who wants me to.

I feel this way many times as well...like unless I get the very remote chance to find my match then I will end up all alone. It is not something I wish for myself, but it is something that I can accept. I don't think that one would be ok or at peace with the situation, but can rather just seem that way. Being alone is does get to be unbearable after a while, in my experience at least, eventhough I feel myself to be self suficient and rather enjoy being by myself. It's just that after too much time I just can't take myself anymore and I just enter into a constant state of decriment of mood...

As to whether we are meant to be in a certain way, I think it is up to us. I do believe that everything is done and over, that there truly isn't such thing as time(long story) but that doesn't mean that we are not the one's in charge. We always were, from the very beginning till our last breath...We are only meant to be alone if we permit ourselves to be...

Yeah I too feel it is a personal choice to be alone. I’ve had my fair share of relationships and I have many close friends but I choose to be single. I’ve been single for maybe 6 years. I like it this way. I want to meet someone I connect with on all levels emotionally, mentally, spiritually and physically. If it’s not on all levels then I’m not really interested. I will not compromise what I want in a relationship just because I may get lonely from time to time. To be honest though I really like being by myself it’s given me so much time to develop into the person I am today. In the past when I’ve had boy friends I’d get too distracted in their worlds and loose my own. Now I just enjoy my independence. It helps that I get lots of affection from my friends if I didn’t I may feel more alone?

For me though it is a choice. When I meet my partner I will be more than happy on the flip side if I do not I’ve learnt to be happy with my own company so either way its win win.

Peace Sensi.

Seems to me (from reading the other responses) that it might be a very natural and human thing to be alone, just like it is very natural to be with someone else.

Perhaps EVERYONE, at some point in their life will decide that they need to be alone for a while.

Originally posted by Taosaur
There were 2 billion people c. 1948, K, now it's closer to 7b, unless there was a plague I didn't hear about.

Sorry, I'd just gone through a time machine and got quite disorintented. [/lameexcuse]

Yeah, as far as a partner, I think chances are slim I'll ever find one, which used to bother me but doesn't much anymore. I'm occasionally lonely, but it's pretty rare. Most of the couples I see seem to be settling, clinging to the other person as a mirror to reaffirm their identity--like, if there's not someone who knows every little thing that happens to you, you're less real somehow. I'm wary of serial monogamists, who always have to have the bf/gf position filled. It seems like a somewhat addictive situation, and I'm not interested in that.

I'll agree, some people just want to be alone. I feel the same way, but not as isolated as her. There are times when I just want to go home, rest, and just do nothing...alone. Occasionally i go to a friend's house and chill, but too much of that usually drives me crazy for some reason and sometimes people just piss me off.

Well anyway, if she's happy this way, then she'll be alright. You said it iyourself that you tried to be friends, but she rather stay isolated. It's just the way she is. You could still try, but dont go over the edge. Then you'll just be annoying to her.

i like to be alone most of the time well all of the time and i don't really talk much i just listen you should try that once in a while

Sometimes I feel like that. I like to talk to people at school and stuff but I usually don't go to parties or go over people's houses. I'm kinda introverted especially at home.

i'm pretty introverted myself.


i'm a hermit, but nicer. i'll smile and nod my head (like saying 'wassup')... but don't expect me to come over and talk or chill w/you.

especially true at parties. i go only for the music. i just want to dance until the music stops and get kicked out. i could never be bothered w/socializing at a party... -i'm busy getting my groove on. much the same way you don't bug someone who is praying at church.

i think one of the things that keeps people like me alone, and happy too, is that there other things we are interested in.
me, it's music, nature, internal arts, personal growth, dreams -and chasing them too.

i'm sure these things play a roll in other peoples lives. i'm saying that these are things i place a major emphasis on. -therefore are dominant forces... so they push other things (like the outside world) to sidelines, if not... out of the picture. it's just there are other things we would rather do.

i'm guessing she's one of those girls who is on another level (i don't mean to say a higher, or lower one... just somewhere else.)
try to get her to talk to you, listen and recieve her words w/an open mind. get her to trust you, so she'll open up more. just do or say something that will get her to start talking to you. be carefull w/using humor or teasing her lightly... there might be somethings she is willing to talk about, yet be pretty sensitive, and will overreact.

like this one time, a friend of mine (we've known each other for years, and she knows i love to crack jokes) and she burned her face cooking. so she had this mark on her cheek... nothing major. she's telling how she burned her self, and laughing at all the stupid things she did that led to the disaster and joking that it had robbed her of her beauty yada, yada... and i chime in at the end w/"and now you look like 'darkman'!" (-you know, the leslie nielsen movie...) i know she doesn't have the greatest sense of humor, but i was pretty sure i could get away w/that one... guess what? not a chance. that smile turned upside down real quick... homegirl was pissed, and told me "lurker*, sometimes you are a real fucking asshole!" and she stormed off. needless to say she didn't talk to me for the rest of the day. we still chill, but we never talked about that burn ever again, never more.

the end.


*name changed to protect the identity of the innocent

what was my post about anyways?

If someone is capable of being sociable, then they are capable of making best friends. It just takes a little more effort sometimes, but those friendships are the most powerful.

Lurker -I’m not a hermit at all but I hear ya. I have so much good shit going on in my life that most of the time boys are far from my mind. I find so much pleasure in other things. I’m sure at some stage this may change but at the moment I couldn't be happier with being single.

As for dancing im so with you on that one. I go, I listen, I dance and I leave. So much freedom with music and dancing. I would never ever hope to meet my potential love in this environment so I don’t even notice who is around me apart from my friends. Music and dancing.......Got to love it.

Peace Sensi

I'm a pretty introverted person.

I'm probably going to be single for my entire life, which I try to come to terms to. I just can't find anyone who I can truly relate to on enough levels. Guess I'm just unique, lol.

I havent had any close friends sinci i moved last winter. I have no actual friends, i dont talk to talk to ppl & i choose not to. U know wat tho? i dont care. I am happy. I am not alone. I am not ur average person, not even in infancy so i have been told. lol Theres a lot that goes on inside my head & I done think that ne1 is really "meant to b alone" unless they choose to b. & no im not skitzo, lol

Simple answer rtex..........................YES.

Originally posted by Aquanina
Simple answer rtex..........................YES.

my god this is an old post hey my replay still there lol

woo hoo nina you necro

anyway, I agree too, the answer is yes, eg ME until recently. because I was a coward for 30 years