Thread: What do I do? Please help.

You're the new kid
fight back, or take it on the chin

either way
welcome to life, mate

I was hoping you wouldn't say that. im going to go back to my lovleyful private school life Edit: im not the new kid by the way. everyone is new.

the key is generally self-confidence. even if you're not, as long as you pretend you are and exhude that mentality, people generally tend to leave you alone. also, the more self-confident you pretend to be, the more you can trick yourself into being self-confident and continue the cycle of exhuding it. if people call you anorexic say something like "food is for the weak", or come up with something witty. the way people perceive/treat you has a lot to do with how you perceive yourself.

Aww. I know what it is like to be the kid everyone picked on. Damn, when I was in middle school and elementary school, I never had all the stuff the other kids had. For instance, my clothes were always out of style and never fit me properly. It's not like I could have helped it....I also read all the time (which I still do) and everyone always thought I was some sort of wierdo. My grandmother also had my hair cut really short. That really didn't help.When I got to high school, my parents got better jobs and we could afford other things...But I was like, "Why should I care about what these people think? They don't hold me when I cry." I still dress in a way that is different. I mean my clothes fit me well and all, but I don't think I have a normal outfit in my closet. I am weird and very expressive. Anyway, I don't get much flack for it now because I stopped caring. I am seeing all of my dreams come true before my eyes. I am going to the college of my dreams in the fall, I love myself, my fiance loves me, my best friend loves me and my family loves me. That is all I need.
Just be confident in yourself. Fuck those other people. You know that you are a wonderful person. Don't pay attention to them. Plus, we at DV love you

you should make some great retaliation lines...

Originally posted by mongreloctopus
the key is generally self-confidence. even if you're not, as long as you pretend you are and exhude that mentality, people generally tend to leave you alone. also, the more self-confident you pretend to be, the more you can trick yourself into being self-confident and continue the cycle of exhuding it. if people call you anorexic say something like "food is for the weak", or come up with something witty. the way people perceive/treat you has a lot to do with how you perceive yourself.

This is very good advice. High school kids are so easily manipulated. If you act like you have all the self-confidence in the world, and you don't need these people as friends, just watch as they all start thinking they've missed out on something.

And like Gwen, I've also been through the hellish phases of getting teased and pushed around. Then I joined all the sports I could (basketball, volleyball, track, equestrian) and once I started getting better and kicking ass, everyone started leaving me alone and I gained some respect by those people who were tormenting me. You need to find your own niche - something you're good at, and work hard. Not only will you have less free time to think about how these losers treat you, but you'll feel better about yourself, therefore gaining the self-confidence necessary to overcome their taunts.

Don't worry - I think a majority of people have had these experiences in middle- or high-school. Keep you head high and don't let it get to you - once they see teasing doesn't bother you anymore, they'll get bored and move on to the next easy target.

My sister had a problem like this. She told our parents and she switched schools within a few weeks. It's at least worth a try.

Or you could just try to ignore it. When they see that you give them no reacton they will probably stop.

respond with "was that a fat joke"

other than that just go with the flow

me and my friends joke about this stuff all the time like one friend does this thing with his belly to look like a bagel and im a tooth pick

Originally posted by dudesuperior+--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(dudesuperior)</div>

My sister had a problem like this. She told our parents and she switched schools within a few weeks. It's at least worth a try.[/b]

Personally, I don't think that's a good answer. You can't spend your life running away from your problems.

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Or you could just try to ignore it. When they see that you give them no reacton they will probably stop.

That, IMHO, is much better advice.

Originally posted by TygrHawk


That, IMHO, is much better advice.

it is...

i'm being teased, almost humiliated by some ppl in my school, and the only thing i did was:
-ignore them, and i learned something
-give an occasional dry, boring answer
they've stopped in 2 weeks, until now, that is

you could also say something witty, as mongreloctopus said
and you should always make yourself "bigger" than you really are... it's hard, but it works


oh! and when they say: "you cant take a joke"... you should say: "and you can?", smirk, and
walk away, matrix-style 8)




whatever you do: DONT TELL YOU PARENTS... YET!!!
unless it really gets out of hand, if you are offended so terribly, or if it becomes physical violence (as my case was), THEN you should talk to your parents...


and please, if you need help, and you don't feel like posting it: you can always contact me, or any other one you personally trust around here...


i have no idea whose it is, but aphius introduced me to a quote i've always remembered:

Never be bullied into silence.
Never allow yourself to be made a victim.
Accept no one's definition of your life;
define yourself.[/b]

(http://www.dreamviews.com/forum/view...hlight=bullied)

look it from the bright side: at least you didn't have to litterally fight through 2 classes in primary school...



and another one of my boring, long story's ended, now make your own a happy ending

Originally posted by Beef Jerky
OK heres my story. I recently joined a new highschool. I swapped from a school that was primary/highschool all in one. The hihschool I joined... was alright in the beggining... but now... i realised its faults. The highschool i can from was private. so most people were nice. i though my new school was cool cause they were lest strict. unfortunatley the facilities are not of satisfactory standards. and nor the equipment. the students... they are fuckwits. i hate almost all of them. theyll say mean things to you so youll retaliate... then theyll say "i was joking man. you cant take a joke" and im skinny right... but they call me anorexic... "its not my fault" i tell them "i try and gain weight but i cant" they persist that im anorexic... the people who think im anorexic are only a few people but hey it hurts still. they are really rough and annoying and they ALL think they are the superior. at my old school. everyone liked me and hardly anyome was mean to people excapt for nathan and matthew cause they are nerds lol. but my old school was a private school of high standards... my parents dont want me at MC cause they say theyare brainswashing me to jesus which i beleive in. my new school is a selective school btw but its public. what do i do? confront my parents or grit my teeth and bare the shit till im 18?

You know, I have had serious problems like that in middle school, except they would actually hurt me physically (punching me in the arm, stabbing me with a pencil, flicking me in the face, and more), call me names like retard, say that I was fat (making me want to lose more weight, insult me in many other ways, once wrote a profane letter that told me to go to an R rated movie and do drugs (which I will not do), told me that they were going to stab me/torch me, and my own religion back then (b4 I joined the Crescent Viewans) went to hurt me kind of in the same way the middle school kids did (not physically, luckily), but they did say that I was lying when I would tell on them, and get me grounded for months on end.

All that was the reason I lost self-esteem, self-confidence, and the ability to work at all in teams.
At least you still have friends at this point. You know they cannot affect you if you have that! Please don't let the same thing happen to you. I would rather not have you go through the same thing I went through.....because it was painful to go through it without friends (my last ones moved away), whereas, you have friends here, so remember that.

You could try to become friends (or at least aquaintences) with them.
Try and find a topic that you and them find interesting, and build bridges. This worked for me because me and this guy from school didn't get along very well, but we both got a job at the same place for work experience. Over the two weeks we got to know one another and it turned out great.

-Not that you would want to become friends with a load of fuckwits.

Good luck whatever you decide to do

I'm staying. If they start to beat me up physically I'll just bring a baseball bat to school.

Isn't this the reason for school students rampaging in the US?. Just don't listen to them, and try to find some friends outside of school or whatever, you just go there to study, who gives what everybody else is doing, always be serious.

just eat some McSteroids breakfast cereals!

Nah, just deal with it, or something. And eat more pie.

Just remember that if someone tries to hurt you, go for the groin, nose, or kidneys.... or bite them. I'd steer clear of baseball bats, though. A dodgeball may work better and appear less obvious.

Making fun of someone in a degrading manner is pretty pathetic. A person must feel pretty lousy about themself if they have to stoop to picking on someone else to feel special. Just stick it out and know you're better than them for not being so low.

Originally posted by Amethyst Star
Just stick it out and know you're better than them for not being so low.

even if it could take YEARS before they'd stop


another one:
*some stupid line about you being anorexic blablabla shit blablabla*
you: "hey guys, always remember that: anorexia can be cured... stupidity can't."



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i suck

Originally posted by CryoDragoon
even if it could take YEARS before they'd stop

Or until you become proficient in a martial art

I like Burns' advice. I also had the piss taken out of me in school for a while... You need to find something you're good at and push yourself until you're kicking arse. I was a skinny kid and my mum used to tell me I was built for speed. I took this to heart and ended up being the best sprinter in the school because I believed in myself. I would be lapping kids that were taking the piss out of me before and just laughing over my shoulder. I gained some respect that way.

Originally posted by Amethyst Star


Or until you become proficient in a martial art

and then you kick someones ass so hard you'll be kicked off the school