Thread: Falling in love

If you love someone without being in love, then it's more of like when you love a friend. I would say falling in love is more than just loving the person you're with. It is loving them so much that you'd do anything for them, and you're happy just to be with them. I'd call that falling in love.

Thanks for the answer. That makes sense.

I would agree, but I must also say from personal experience it is possible to love more than one person at the same time. I delt with that dilema all summer, and now I think I have it sorted out, but I still regret having to break one of their hearts..

It's just the nature of our universe. Division is the cause of all desire and sorrow while union is the cause of all bliss. The rest is just specifics.

Originally Posted by Greedo

Just wondering... what do you guys think is falling in love? If you love the person your with have you fallen in love? or is it something else. Can you love the person your with without being in love?

Mature people don't fall in love.

The fool stands before the universe.

The mature can have their maturity.

Originally Posted by ClouD

The fool stands before the universe.

The mature can have their maturity.

What is your stance on this subject, Omnipresent One?

Originally Posted by TransientOcclusion

What is your stance on this subject, Omnipresent One?

Maturity serves you well.

Originally Posted by ClouD

The fool stands before the universe.

The mature can have their maturity.

Originally Posted by ClouD

Maturity serves you well.

I am interested in how it serves you?

Originally Posted by TransientOcclusion

I am interested in how it serves you?

HAHAHAHAH

I would say falling in love can have two meanings. There is such thing as true love, but often there can be the illusion of falling in love. Recently, I fell in love with a girl, or that was what I thought. The real fact was, I got over it after a few weeks. I was in love with the idea of being in love. This is a common trap people fall into, and is the cause of many short lived relationships.

I agree, definitely not all people know if they are really in love or not. Some are as you say, and some are just in lust. But I think most people find the best match for them eventually.

Originally Posted by The Enterer

It's just the nature of our universe. Division is the cause of all desire and sorrow while union is the cause of all bliss. The rest is just specifics.

I wonder when I was divided. Oh, right - I was probably born like this.

Really I don't think people have the authority to say that some types of love aren't actually love.

For example, falling in love with a person who is very physically attractive but really quite shallow and uninteresting... well, that's still love. Just one end of the same spectrum.

Many people say they have fallen in love purely because of personality but that's a lie in the vast majority of situations, though the person may often be lying to themselves too. Physical appearance is also a very large factor, if not the main one...

Originally Posted by Xei

Really I don't think people have the authority to say that some types of love aren't actually love.

For example, falling in love with a person who is very physically attractive but really quite shallow and uninteresting... well, that's still love. Just one end of the same spectrum.

Many people say they have fallen in love purely because of personality but that's a lie in the vast majority of situations, though the person may often be lying to themselves too. Physical appearance is also a very large factor, if not the main one...

Yes. I agree
I have divided "love" into 3 different subclasses:

1) Physical attraction - Basic urge to reproduce
2) Emotional Attachment - You like be with that person as often as possible
3) Friendship - You like the personality of the other person

Which of these 3 (combinations are possible) applies to you is up to each person individually to decide.
That's what I think anyway.

Yeah I think that's true, although I'd say that emotion is perhaps a sort of subset of the other two types...

One thing I'd add is that physical attraction isn't enough; just thinking somebody is very attractive and wanting to sleep with them isn't love. For me it only counts when you get an emotional fixation with the person. But the causal factors can vary in the way I said above.

Hmmmmm I just wish it was as easy to fall out of love as it is falling in love....

Originally Posted by Adam

Hmmmmm I just wish it was as easy to fall out of love as it is falling in love....

The easiest way is to fall in love again and keep moving on. Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened.

Originally Posted by Greedo

Just wondering... what do you guys think is falling in love? If you love the person your with have you fallen in love? or is it something else. Can you love the person your with without being in love?

Of course you can be in love with out falling in love, I love my mum, but I never fell in love with her.
Plus you know when you fall in love, it's hard to explain but you know.

I like what the Oracle in the Matrix said. "When you're in love, no one can tell you you are. You just know."

Thats how it is.

Love has so many meanings, which do you mean?

So many people try to keep score, only giving as much love back as they receive, battling for love amongst each other.

It is as if they think there's only so much love inside them and they need to get refilled again or something. There is infinite love inside all of us, for ourselves and the world around us (synonyms)

Originally Posted by Omnius Deus

There is infinite love inside all of us, for ourselves and the world around us (synonyms)

Yes.

Imagine falling in love with all that is - the entirety of creation.

Originally Posted by really

Yes.

Imagine falling in love with all that is - the entirety of creation.

For me love is means the love between a man and a woman.
The "love for the world" I call appreciation and admiration. Unless you mean real love, in which case I call it drugs.