Thread: A little help for a confused someone

Hi Veruca,

One approach to your dream is to view it mostly as about yourself as opposed to involving your ex boyfriend directly.

A car in a dream usually points to the dreamer’s overall energy/interests and how they are used and interacted with in a daily way. Although colour symbolism is very complicated, blue often symbolizes thinking and the intellect.

Your boyfriend in the dream is shown as being “in the driver’s seat”, that is, a certain fairly unconscious part of yourself might be controlling the energy involved in how you deal with thoughts and opinions for instance. The car being new might symbolize how strong this control over you is currently.

Your ex’s having hair on his head also emphasizes the idea of the intellect (head), and hair in general often symbolizes the spontaneous flow of ideas, fantasies and thoughts.

Although this should be a good thing, perhaps there is a certain tendency for you to sometimes have negative thoughts floating through your head such as “You shouldn’t try for that job, you’ll just make a fool of yourself”, “Everybody hates you, they just pretend to be nice” etc. etc.

It’s possible that your ex somehow reflected such negative self doubts in you for example and this fascinated you because you might not tend to recognize that it also existed within yourself.

The anger and hate you feel in the dream is likely how you unconsciously feel about such negative thinking. His waiting there to see if you will approach probably is pointing to the idea of whether you will “approach” this problem inside that you’re not currently in contact with very much (not speaking).

However, without knowing anything about you, this interpretation might not fit your personal situation very well. But if something seems to click in some way about the negative thinking, an inexpensive and good book is available that might help. Don’t be put off by the title (“The Cognitive Behavioral Book for Depression” by William Knaus) because a person doesn’t actually have to be depressed to benefit from the extensive exercises in the book that can help with negative thoughts and feelings.

I hope these ideas will help and you won’t end up with such a nasty guy again.

Hi There,
Thank you for your reply, it kind of helped me. Some of the things you said hit the nail on the head so to speak.
I feel that the car perhaps represented how I was not in control of my own feelings towards him (that he still controls my feelings), It has been on my mind frustrating me that i am having trouble letting go, since i did not have much of a closure.
Still the thing you said about the hair i am not sure about but perhaps it means change, or "growing" so to speak. Maybe i will grow up from this experience.
Thank you for giving me another opinion i like to see what other people think then mull over it as i might have missed something that is obvious to someone else. Though you are right, it is hard without knowing someone and having all the facts to determine what it could mean...
I think it just represents a growing up and change in my life, he represented a new life in the dream and me leaving him behind, which i think could be a positive.
Thank you again.
Sorry for the rambling.