Old flame still burning

**Sazhure** · 11-26-2005 11:32 AM

OK here goes...

I was so glad when I found this site; I’d had a few "accidental" LDs but I didn't know much about it. I was also glad to find so many people who believe that dreams can be something more than just our subconscious hallucinating. I sometimes think some dreams are just meant to be experienced, rather than interpreted. But you people are so cool for helping with interpretation.

I'm pretty good at interpreting my dreams, but some are too emotional for me to remain objective. There's one in particular that perhaps someone could help me with...I’m a bit shy to tell it.

First I’ll give you a quick overview of the context; a relationship.
Sappy, I know.

One paragraph, I promise.

-Paragraph edited due to graphic content-
...we went our separate ways, but it’s years later and still I think of him. Then when I manage to stop thinking of him the dreams come.

These are the only dreams I keep a journal of. I dream of him and we’re always together, or arranging to meet over the telephone. Sometimes they’re so real I wake up feeling happy but also almost guilty like I’ve invaded his…I don’t know, spirit-space or something.

Anyway, one dream stands out in my memory; this one affected me the most and I remember it the best.

Outside in a rural setting. We were standing in a flat ground-level cement structure, like a small dam or waterpass, but there was no water flowing; we stood right in the middle of it. Nearby was a small “control house”(???) and some trees were in the distance. I walked up to him and noticed he was wearing a pink shirt. Long sleeved and collared, like an office work shirt, but a nice pink! I always dream in colour, but rarely do the colours stand out to me the way this did. Also nearby was a car, with two people in it. It was too far away for me to see who they were, but I knew they were watching us.

As we embraced, I then took particular notice of a black band he had tied around his chest/torso; it was about 5cm (2inch) thick and tied up at the front. I remember looking at it and wondering what on earth it was. I then decided the band had something to do with his culture, or cultural traditions.

I was loving being in his arms. I looked into his eyes and said “it takes a brave man…”
I don’t remember finishing the sentence, but for some reason I was talking about the colour of his pink shirt.

So…can anyone help??? The colours pink and black seem to stand out. Is there some psychic meaning in this one? Or is my subconscious making up for an otherwise boring love life?

I’d be grateful for any input.

S.

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**Leo Volont** · 11-26-2005 08:22 PM

Dear Sazhure,

Well, you are rather telling your Dream Mind that these romantic dreams with this former love of yours are the only dreams you consider important... the only dreams you bother to record. This is probably why they are repeatedly encored.

The details represent the only problems of interpretation -- pink shirts, black stripes, carloads of voyeurs. The car at a distance which you know contains people who are watching may indicate that at least a few people do indeed suspect that you have this emotional pre-occupation.

The Pink Shirt is Love from the heart. The Black band is loss and mourning.

Now, regarding the overall context for this dream... if you are young and still pursuing your education or establishing your career, then it is a good thing that you have found this channel through which you can funnel all of these feelings which would ordinarily be a huge distraction. But if you are well set on your career path and could use an actual Life, then you will have to stop recording these dreams... that should be enough to make them stop, and then your own heart will be freed up for some actual relationship.

**Sazhure** · 11-27-2005 06:27 AM

Hi Leo,

Thank you so much for responding, I'm truly privileged by your reply. You certainly surprised me with some of your insights. Having other people interpret "symbols" for you can give varied but objective viewpoints, I think.

... the only dreams you bother to record. This is probably why they are repeatedly encored. [/b]

The dreams were recurring before I started keeping a journal. I didn't start recording them until I found this site; after reading some of the advice I thought I should maybe start a journal to help make sense of them. Perhaps I was wrong.

I am still young and pursuing an education in science (though I also nurture a love of the esoteric).

then it is a good thing that you have found this channel through which you can funnel all of these feelings which would ordinarily be a huge distraction.[/b]

Does this mean you think I did the right thing by posting?
I was sure everyone would think "groan...you're dreaming 'bout the dude you're still hot for...big deal...GET OVER IT!!!"

BTW, you're right, it's been a terrible distraction.

S.

**willthepathfinder** · 11-27-2005 06:47 PM

Well here's my twist.

A good technique to use is to find themes in the dream.

You are out in the open with him together being observed. Sounds like exposure.

A pink shirt being worn by him represents his love. It is then bound by a black band around his heart.

Perhaps your dream is telling you to expose this relationship for what it was, more then what it seemed.

Maybe he held back love for you or that is what you felt. Perhaps you expected more and that was never realised.

Your subconsious maybe trying to get you to deal with deep seated emotions that are lingering from that relationship. Possibly holding you back from fostering healthy new ones.

**Sazhure** · 11-28-2005 05:59 AM

See this is why I love forums. People who've never met me (even online) just giving it to me straight.

Will, I love your interpretation. Thanks for posting

deep seated emotions that are lingering from that relationship. Possibly holding you back from fostering healthy new ones.[/b]

I'm hearin' ya...

A good technique to use is to find themes in the dream. [/b]

This is my problem. I can see the themes and symbols quite clearly, but sometimes it's hard for me to be objective when assigning meaning to these themes. That's why I thought I might ask all you fine people about this one.

This is the first time I've told ANYONE about it. Too complicated to tell my friends, they probably wouldn't believe me anyway. Although Leo V suggested someone suspects the truth. I would FREAK if that were true.

Should I change my username now??

S.

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