Thread: Moving The F Out (rants Too)

If you wanna move out... then do it. Go to college if you haven't, if you have get a job. Get a job anyways.

I understand you are upset, but that tirade was a tad bit incoherent and all over the place. People say, how you write is a reflection of how your thoughts are organized so I would say that's where a part of the problem lies.

First and foremost before moving out, you need to find your center and get your thoughts together, man. I'm sure that may be hard to do right now, because of your parents. However, making causal excuses and assigning blame is gray most of the time. Especially, when trying to pin the proverbial tail on the donkey. As I said in one of the lines of one of my songs, 'Cuz, there's a one-sided story in us all'. Generally, everyone sees everything from only their point of view, and rarely takes the time to step into someone else's shoes, or if they try to it's generally for selfish reasons so they fail to truly understand or see the motivations of others. I'm not excusing your parents behavior, but if you act even a fraction of how you were just talking on here than it's not surprising that they are in your hair constantly. You have to learn to walk the path of least resistance. It's really easy to manipulate people to do what you want them to do if you know how to talk to them.

Moving out probably won't solve the problem if you don't have your shit together first. A rash hasty decision made in order to stick it to someone, will most likely end up with you shooting yourself in the foot.

BTW, Those 'pieces of shit' that you speak so ill of are the two halves that make up your own DNA, so I would have a little more respect for your roots, man.

Remember the saying...'The apple doesn't fall far from the tree'

Just move out, ASAP. You have pretty bad parents : / They might act normal if you would see them less. They are border-line insane if you ask me.

*sigh* It's always the parents fault.

My daughter is moving out in a couple of months. Although we pretty much let her come and go as she pleases, she feels we are not giving her enough freedom.

She is a full time student and works enough hours to support herself, barely, if nothing goes wrong like missing work for a week because of sickness or something.

My suggestion is for you to get a job and make a go of it on your own, you will probably find a little respect for yor parents when you get a taste of what it is like to support yourself.

im 22 and I'd like to move out too, not becuase I hate my parents but, its about time to go. but things for me still have to happen one step at a time, and those steps can take a while focus on one step as you go, and try not to stress yourself out if you arent where you want to be in life yet. my first step was getting a decent job. finally got one after months! but during my time off I focused on other things, like my artwork

use your time!

I would like to add that it is easy to yell 'move out! move out!' from the side-line (like I did). If you have a job, and can afford living on yourself, that would be a big plus. You don't Want to have to come back to your parents, your parents might act like assholes if you do. At least, I would feel bad if I had to come crawling back.

I guess you could be just go over the finances, and talk about it with your parents.

Yeah that is about it.

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Also, are you used to taking care of yourself? As in, would you even get out of bed ever if you mom didn't wake you up, or would you eat nothing but pizza? : ) Otherwise it might take some time to get used to living by yourself, but you will (get used to it).

I live by myself, and I have always enjoyed relative freedom from my parents, so actually I don't really notice the different, now I just cook myself, wash myself (I didn't know it was so easy&#33 and yeah, that is about it : )

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Just be prepared I guess.... Good luck

I think that if you want to do things that your parents don't allow, you should move out. My parents raised me telling me, 'Our house, our rules'. So, I respected that, and went to college. I think that you need to assess your own behavior. Your parents love you and they probably think that they are doing the right thing. Respect them for what they have done for you, raising you and all.

Originally Posted by SolSkye

Generally, everyone sees everything from only their point of view, and rarely takes the time to step into someone else's shoes
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Before you diss anyone, you should walk a mile in their shoes. That way, when you diss them, you're a mile away, and you have their shoes.

Originally Posted by SolSkye

My suggestion is for you to get a job and make a go of it on your own, you will probably find a little respect for yor parents when you get a taste of what it is like to support yourself.
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Originally Posted by SolSkye

Your parents love you and they probably think that they are doing the right thing. Respect them for what they have done for you, raising you and all.
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That may be true for most people, but I have no respect for my parents. Firstly, for my dad who left, and then for my mother who would have raised a complete retard had I not had some smidgeon of intelligence.
"Yes, mother, I can look after myself at age 7 while you go on the piss with your new crack-selling boyfriend, and come home drunk, waking up saying oh shit I'm pregnant again red wine makes my fanny sore"

So yeah, maybe the dude has some serious issues with them. Anyway, I moved out of my mothers house when I was about 12, and went to stay with my aunt and uncle.

My aunt and uncle had their rules, which I obeyed generally (hey, I was a kid) but by my last year of school I hated living with them, I couldn't wait to get away from home. I had seriously considered moving out without a job or anything, just up and leaving and seeing what happens.

But I didn't do that, I stayed and went to college for a year, and got a diploma. I eventually moved in with my girlfriend, at 19, because I hated going home with a passion, and hated the shit I had to deal with regardless of whether I obeyed the rules or not. I looked at things from their point of view, but my main problem was that they didn't look at things from my point of view.

So yeah, I moved out when I got a job. Then my girlfriend moved back home, so I moved with her in her parents house. Then she had to go away for 6 months, to work, and I, well I stayed. So I now live with my girlfriend's parents, and I'm loving it. I love going home, I enjoy their company, and everything is cool. I still visit my aunt and uncle, and we're all good. But everytime I get into my car and drive home, I think how glad I am that I'm not doing the trip the opposite way around.

Move out when you can afford it, and maybe pay a visit to the folks every now and then. But do remember that they've done what you're in the process of doing, and that they've given you everything you own, so you have to buy your own curtains and pillowcases.