Falling in love in dreams
Obviously this thread has been done before, but I think it needs refreshing.
Most, if not all of us, have probably "fallen in love" with someone in a dream, waking up wishing we were back in the dream, when later, we wonder at our infatuation. Some of us have dream after dream about the same person. And some of us have even lucidly fallen in love. Besides being an interesting experience (or strange if you have a wife) there are times where waking up is a literal nightmare, a paradise lost. I thought it might be interesting to hear some stories of this, and of people who literally have someone to look forward to at night. To further deepen the discussion, is lucidly falling in love a healthy or safe way to enjoy your nights?
I have had 2 types of love dreams
One is where you fall in love with someone you don't know, this can be the most wonderful experience of your life. But when you wake up it can be so painful. Like loosing the best thing that has ever happened to you.
The second is falling in love with someone you know. This can be a good thing or a bad thing. If you fall in love in a dream with someone you know, it doesn't mean that your chances with them are any higher than with the person you never met. For instance, falling in love with a teacher, or someone who it's just not going to happen with.
But sometimes you will have a love dream about someone who you know, and could get with. One of my earliest girlfriends, I asked out only because I had a dream about her, and it gave me the confidence to really pursue her and go for it.
But there is nothing more awful than those amazing dreams with the people you could never get with, the ones that clearly show your truest desires, those ones are the worst
Still sad after inappropriate dream
Falling for someone in a dream can be a wonderful experience but sometimes it can be really painful. As most of you suggested there are 2 possible scenarios-falling in love with a real person or with someone you met in your dream which may or may not exist in real life. However wonderful you might feel in your dream this can bring a depression in your daily life like in my case. This is very possible in both cases due to the fact that the person you fell in love with might already have a boyfriend/girlfriend but also due to the fact that the person may not like you. I think that falling in love in your dreams , even while lucid isn't the best of choices due to the fact that most of us want the things that aren't tangible. For example a celebrity, the girl next door which already had a relationship with someone for a long time. Another reason why this isn't a good idea is the fact that in order to fall in love while dreaming you don't need to know the person nor do you really need to like him/her. Well that is my point but everyone can chose what they want to. I wish i would never have to face this kind of dreams before because i had one last night and will probably feel miserable for at least one week or so.