how to become good lucid dreamer in our world

Hello!

I am first time on your forum and for the begining, pardon my language, i am form Europe and not very good english speaker.

So i would probable find the answear of my guestion if i checked all themes but there are too many so i would like to open new topic.

I would like to discuss about how can we be good lucid dreamer if live so fast, we have so many other things to do and some many factors are important. For example, i study in our capital and i have room-mate and that is quite a big obstacle. on the other hand, i have girlfriend and we sleep in the same bed and that is another problem... how can i have a lucid dream, if somebody is in my room or even in my bed? do you have the same problems?

Have you ever have to make a choice beetwen lucid dreams and some other stuff (good grade on college). I study quite a lot and that is a problem because i can't concentrate on lucid dreams cause i am nervous or i am going to bad late...

Do you think it is possible to be a good lucid dreamer (i mean to have lucid dreams about five time a week) and "important" member of our society (here i mean for example boss with quite responsible job)? I think that is very dificult, but hope you will convince me just the opposite.

has anyone experience how is it if you have lucid dreams and somebody wake you up?

hi! Anyone can be a lucid dreamer, and you can get good grades and be "important" during the day and superman at night. I see no reason to the contrary- reality checks take a split second so that shouldn't be an issue.

Room mates/ppl sleeping in your bed- no idea sry :)

bottom line: it's not the lifestyle you keep- even a farmer on an uninhabited island can be stressed out/nervous for whatever reason like fish supplies, it's all about how you perceive life

Hi, jerry! At first I thought you were another member on this forum because of your avatar. :)

Anyway, to answer your question some types of LDing do take time and would be hard to do with a roomate or someone in your bed. There are many styles to get a lucid dream. (WILDing and WBTB usually require you to set an alarm for the middle of the night or stay up late. Or take a long mid-day nap. You might not be able to do that.) But other types of lucid dreams, like the most common type of lucid dream called a DILD, don't interupt your schedule or your life at all. You go to sleep at the same time and often wake up at the same time and can still have memorable lucid dreams! You should look into what are called DILDs and MILDs for the lucid experiences you are looking for.

As far as having five lucids a week, that would be very hard to do. It would take alot of practice. But, like any skill, you can get good at it and still be productive. (After all, most of your practice time you are asleep anyway!) Most people I know who LD, (meaning lucid dream,) would say that getting two-three lucids a week consistently would make you a good lucid dreamer.

If you are having a lucid dream and somebody or something wakes you up, you of course loose the dream which can be frustratingbut it's okay. That will happen to everybody.

I have the same problem as you. I'm juggling many different things, I thought I had no time for LDing. I see now that I can.

You can be an amazing lucid dreamer, and also accomplish all your other goals. And about the person sleeping in your bed, I dont see how that would stop you.

The 5 lucids a week might take a bit of practice. Maybe a few months, with the right training. I dont see why not, though. I usually have them nightly, sometimes multiple a night.

so, first replay to yuriythebest : i have one room-mate and he sleeps in his own bad but in the same room as i :)

Spockman, that is some good advice. I have some issues in my hed, because when i first time become lucid (about five years ago), when i woke up i was getting some kind of body paralises (i couldn't move but my brains were working normaly). and since that event, i am afraid of being woken up during lucid dreaming... ok, i will try DILD and MILD and report how is it progressing.

And how often do you have lucid dreams. When i started with i had about five a week (but only two weeks). and that dreams were not on high level of awarnes. Now i am lucid about once a month, sometime spontainously sometime caused with practice).

and which method do you use?

No, problem, Jerry. As far as the paralysis goes, that usually happens during WILDs and not MILDs or DILDs. So not much to worry about.

During a period where I was most dedicated to lucid dreaming I had about 4-5Lucids a week. They usually lasted fairly long and had high quality. This period was about a month into intense Lucid practice and lasted maybe a month or so.

The past couple months I really haven't LDed much, but I'm starting up again. I used to use MILD a lot, as well as WBTB, (wake back to bed,) but most of my lucids have been DILDs,