It's good to hear that isn't a bad thing, and I guess that you got many positive experiences out of it so far as well. Supression have it's functions, but it's also worth knowing that what we try to supress will always come back at us and probably stronger, since the energy either builds up of what is supressed. Or that the supression itself might take to much energy to maintain in the longrun. Supression is like holding down a beach ball under water, it can be kept there as long as we use our energy to push it down, but it will come right back up as soon as we stop playing the push down game with it.
J.O. cant stay fulfilling for very long since it is only a repetitive way of temporary taking away all the sexuall energy and leaves without finding anything new or gaining experience to it. That is why the negative or sense of empty feelings takes place instead of the fulfilling one's. It's interesting that you take up the detail of the bearded man. I think it might show you your natural direction, in how to use your energy in a fulfilling way. You felt awful, but it might have also made you more attentive of the opportunity to compliment someone before it was to late. In this case or day, you lost your goal of supressing the sexuall energy. And that left you empty of a goal and therefore unfulfilled. You did find find a different kind of fulfillment, and that was to share some of your energy you had left in a unselfish way by making the compliment. That's just my take on it.
I think you have a good chance to change your thoughts and beliefs regarding sexuality, and by doing that. You change the direction of your energy, sexuall energy can also be used to in other areas than just sexuall attention. It's just that if beliefs becomes desires about sex. Then will our attention naturaly remind us more and more about sex depending of how strong our beliefs about sex are. I have read some pages back before, but not so much. The thing is that the transition between change, is always hard and usually scary as well. Because when a bigger shift of awareness is taking place, we can easier lose our sense of inner direction. This inner direction is all about how we cooperate with our inner energy and how we have learned to use it. When we become to efficent to use our energy and put it into use all the time, then we also become scared to hold and feel the raw energy inside our self to get to know it's power and usefulness in a wider sense.
"WELL there goes my life!" (in other words, "I traded self restraint for what wasn't it. What's happening next? How will this one thing effect my life as a whole?")
Some of the most important things in this is to realize is that these words holds alot of energy to it, so there is normal to feel flooded with emotions that might feel overwhelming since there is a strong hold of beliefs in those sentences. None of the restraints was unusefull or unimportant, because our actions always holds the potential for further realizations and expansion in this very moment. We should never hold the expectations that we should have known what we didn't come to understand after a realization. Fulfillment and failure are two sides of the same coin, the fruitful part is to learn to see the potential in both sides to get the very best out of it.
What I essentially want to say, is that what we supress is what we will regain and make stronger. Since what we do want or what we dont want, works by the same principle. If we use our energy on what we do want, we get a greater chance to get it. And if we use our energy to focus on what we dont want, then we get a greater risk of getting that which we dont want.
Haha I feel like I have just said to much about everything and nothing, because of what we seek can probably not be explained away in words anyway. Anyhow, it's interesting to see someone like you with such a determination to explore an idea and stick to it as far as possible. Congratulation on getting past the 8 months mark!^^
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