So anyone have any thoughts on this? |
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This is in USA. I'm a shy male adult, i have something like aspergers too and disabilty so i'm not good with language and i'm not cognitive level of my age. But anyways i keep hearing that there is somebody for everybody, but how come no girls ever like me or even say hi or ever approach me? |
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So anyone have any thoughts on this? |
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You can get into a relationship from looks first, which is what wanting females to approach you sounds like. Same with men approaching females, or any which way. That begins with outer ques and appearance to hopefully form a relationship, then who you are in the inside comes secondary. I don;t find that appealing personally. But another type would be putting yourself out there focusing on showing who you are to people, humans, everyone anywhere whenever you're out. The best relationships or friendships happen when you aren't looking for one. So just put yourself out there not looking for anything from anyone but just to know them, and if you and someone simultaneously fall in love with each others personality, interests, mind, soul, then these pods we walk around in and call our body never need to experience the visual ques of approaching. |
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Your whole mind is made in a special way,
We share the same glow.
Do not worry my friend, looks are not everything, though some women may think so. What really stands out in a man is his confidence. Even more so, women are strongly influenced by a great sense of humor, and also how a man smells. So if you just loosen up around women and be confident you can really do ALOT for yourself. Another thing is making a woman feel good about herself. My friend, who literally weighs like 300 pounds really liked this one girl that you could say was "way out of his league". This girl was gorgeous, 9 out of 10. So my friend starting going for her and really made it obvious that he liked her and she knew this, but she didnt like him back, at all. Eventually my friend realized this and did something I never thought he'd do. About once a week he would go up to this girl and compliment her, you know something simple to start off with- "Hey you look really good today" and he got up to the point where he even bought her flowers a few times. After some time of doing this, the girl went out with him and they later got married. As you can see, looks dont matter at all even though some women would tell you that looks are everything. Dont worry about if you are "not good enough" or you think you are ugly or anything like that. The only thing that makes somebody ugly is an ugly personality. So try some of the things I said out- be confident when talking to girls- look them in the eye when you talk to them, compliment them from time to time, wear cologne- as wierd as it sounds, but most of all- Be yourself man, that'll bring you really far. |
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"If we doubted our fears instead of doubting our dreams, imagine how much in life we'd accomplish." ~Joel Brown
"Your background and circumstances may have influenced who you are, but you are responsible for who you become." ~Darren Hardy
Goals:
-Become Lucid in every dream every night
-Perfect the time dilation watch
-Continue to have a dream plan for most of my lucid dreams
Go to the internet for advice on how to pick up chicks, they said. Those people know exactly how it's done, they said. |
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Everything works out in the end, sometimes even badly.
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Just be a member of a rock band. It doesn't even have to be good as long as you play gigs... anywhere. Doing that will turn everything around. |
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How do you know you are not dreaming right now?
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Last edited by Original Poster; 03-04-2014 at 08:34 AM.
Everything works out in the end, sometimes even badly.
I've pretty much been in just one long-term relationship so I guess I can't give great advice here, but I still think confidence is a an important thing to have (as long as you stay true to yourself). |
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"If we doubted our fears instead of doubting our dreams, imagine how much in life we'd accomplish." ~Joel Brown
"Your background and circumstances may have influenced who you are, but you are responsible for who you become." ~Darren Hardy
Goals:
-Become Lucid in every dream every night
-Perfect the time dilation watch
-Continue to have a dream plan for most of my lucid dreams
"If we doubted our fears instead of doubting our dreams, imagine how much in life we'd accomplish." ~Joel Brown
"Your background and circumstances may have influenced who you are, but you are responsible for who you become." ~Darren Hardy
Goals:
-Become Lucid in every dream every night
-Perfect the time dilation watch
-Continue to have a dream plan for most of my lucid dreams
Honestly, voByJunior2013, you seem a little too concerned about girls in general. |
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Last edited by Laurelindo; 03-09-2014 at 07:49 PM.
Stephen LaBerge's Full Seminar in Russia, 1998
Стивен Лаберж - Осознанные сновидения. Весь семинар 1998.
I grew up with OCD and depression, among symptoms that indicated that I even might have been schizophrenic, too. I've always had trouble getting girlfriends, and my first one was definitely somebody I unhappily settled with. But it's my fault as a person, too, because I didn't aggressively pursue the ones I crushed on. |
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naturals are what we call people who did all the right things accidentally
Some women are shy. I know I am very painfully shy. I say hi at most and then quickly walk away. Its sad really. Hopefully, I become more outgoing at least meet a guy who will take the initiative. I just hope I can find someone special some day. |
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Dream Goals:
[] Create device that will make me instantly lucid.
I'm surprised that's the main thing you're worried about: girls liking you. But not everyone is a social butterfly, and then ask yourself, "Why would someone want to talk to me a stranger?" It's probably not personal. I didn't see you mention anything about them rejecting your greetings. If you want to talk to them so badly, take the conversation to them. Otherwise, you'll be convinced you're this forever disliked person, you'll never try to engage a conversation, and then you really will be lonely. The solution isn't complicated (not to sound mean). |
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You won't get approached cause it isn't feminine to approach. There's a polarity between the sexes and the masculine does, feminine reacts. You are putting yourself in the wrong end of the equation hoping to get approached. |
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It's people like you that cause me to troll. What's better than the advice I've given him? Did you even read it? Did you comprehend it? Could you summarize it back to me? I don't mean to take your oblivious mumbling personally, I know you meant no offense by it, but I'm curious if you even know what my advice is considering you've thought it necessary to denounce it without an explanation. |
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Everything works out in the end, sometimes even badly.
As a woman, I find it funny that everyone tends to think there's a formula to make the general female/male population like you. Not all women/men are the same, nor do they have the same tastes in women/men. |
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“Not much touches us, but we long to be touched. We lie awake at night willing the darkness to part and show us a vision.”
Also good reminder for OP is to never listen to women's advice on how to pick up girls. They are in cognitive dissonance about what they themselves want bar for maybe few super-aware ones (1 out of 10 000 maybe). |
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You bumped your own pity me thread, for starters. It's in your head. |
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I wouldn't necessarily say that. |
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Last edited by Laurelindo; 03-21-2014 at 02:29 PM.
Stephen LaBerge's Full Seminar in Russia, 1998
Стивен Лаберж - Осознанные сновидения. Весь семинар 1998.
^^^Already just said women are different, denies that women can't give advice on how to pick up other women. |
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Everything works out in the end, sometimes even badly.
I wondered this once, but then I remembered that I hardly approach anyone myself, so it is fair enough. |
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"You Can't, You Won't And You Don't Stop"Lucid Goals: [Ask a DC: "Am I dreaming?"] [Ask a DC: "What are you?"]
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