Way to generalize what men and women like, lol. That may be the norm, but there are always exceptions to the norm, and not just a few. |
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I read articles in the web that talk about how women are not attracted to men the same way Men are attracted to women. Men instantly are attracted to many girls as long as they are beautiful. Women need to know them and talk to them first to develop attraction. |
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Way to generalize what men and women like, lol. That may be the norm, but there are always exceptions to the norm, and not just a few. |
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I think that confidence is key. You don't necessarily have to be a social butterfly to get a woman's attention, just be confident. Carry yourself with confidence and talk to people with confidence. I imagine that this is very difficult for you but having a negative attitude is not attractive and is not going to help you get a girlfriend. It sounds to me as though a lot of your problem is mental. But that means there's hope and the situation is entirely in your hands! |
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[Shrugs] So long as you maintain the outlook you so candidly expressed in the below thread, I assure you your chances are none. |
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Last edited by Aristaeus; 12-20-2014 at 09:23 PM.
One common mistake among guys is to think of girls as some kind of intimidating project, where they have to "impress" them because they are such "goddesses" etc. |
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Last edited by Yuusha; 12-21-2014 at 12:21 AM.
What the hell? You're never going to get any women at all with that attitude man. I'm not trying to be negative, but its just the law of attraction. Girls find guys attractive just by looks too, thats not just how guys roll. |
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"If we doubted our fears instead of doubting our dreams, imagine how much in life we'd accomplish." ~Joel Brown
"Your background and circumstances may have influenced who you are, but you are responsible for who you become." ~Darren Hardy
Goals:
-Become Lucid in every dream every night
-Perfect the time dilation watch
-Continue to have a dream plan for most of my lucid dreams
Guys who are successful with girls have usually got a good headstart and been naturally social from the beginning, and also probably grew up with a lot of friends of the opposite sex. |
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Last edited by Yuusha; 12-22-2014 at 11:51 AM.
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"If we doubted our fears instead of doubting our dreams, imagine how much in life we'd accomplish." ~Joel Brown
"Your background and circumstances may have influenced who you are, but you are responsible for who you become." ~Darren Hardy
Goals:
-Become Lucid in every dream every night
-Perfect the time dilation watch
-Continue to have a dream plan for most of my lucid dreams
i'm mainly attracted to women who are true to themselves. even if it means being insecure at times. |
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I'm sorry you feel this way, voByJunior2013. I hope you don't mind but I'd like to point out a few misconceptions I've noticed in your explanation about how women are attracted to men. The first point I should make is that one should be wary of what they read online. Article writers are, more often than not, not credible to tell you, among other things, what people are thinking or feeling. Especially about attraction. Sexuality is very diverse and there is no one type of person that will attract all women. I suspect that the second and third sentences you gathered from the article are little more than over generalizations rooted in sexism and stereotypes. That doesn't mean it's false but I want you to keep in mind that many relationship related articles found online often make people feel bad about themselves. The "women are into jocks" so-to-speak idea persists because of such media. It's what encourages men to spend money making themselves be different in hopes of attracting a partner. |
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Last edited by Evolventity; 01-15-2015 at 09:06 AM.
Can't talk well. Oh man... |
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Last edited by MasterMind; 01-18-2015 at 07:46 PM.
You mustn't think of relationships as a game, just be yourself and let everything flow freely, everyone is different and love flowers from the most unexpected places; worry less and be more patient. |
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VoByJunior, I am sorry people blame the fact that you still never had a date at the age of 30 still on your negative attitude. That is obviously not true. Many men with depreciating attitudes find girlfriends. |
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Are you not even capable of speaking to people you don't mean to impress? Why not try and talk to a girl you aren't really that physically attracted to? What if you guys have a lot of common or there's something about her you like? Why not go out on a few dates just because fuck it? You haven't dated anyone before, what do you care if it is anyone that you actually seriously desire to sleep with? You might find that you like them a lot as a person, and find something more than just a sexual partner, but an actual companion that can share your life experience with you. If you wind up breaking up, then you have all the more experience to go out and do it all over again. You're being overwhelmingly negative with your attitude, you just need to do something you aren't actually comfortable with. You don't have to be a social butterfly to socialize. You just have to make an honest effort to relate with somebody, to get across to them that you are a human being too and that you recognize they are also human. It really isn't any harder than that. You might get rejected, it happens. However, when you're older, you find people in all kinds of circumstances. Perhaps going on a date with you will take their mind off something, or they were looking for somebody and felt as hopeless as you did, you really never know man. Don't pretend to, you're only hurting yourself by pretending you do. |
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I used to be a very negative thinking person myself, after getting a concussion from getting hit in the head with a discus I went through the worst depression I've experienced to date. I've had several depressive episodes since then, but none as bad as it. For about 5 years I was so socially awkward and had such anxiety from it that I was totally crippled. 3 years in, I made an honest effort to start socializing again. 3 more years later, and I can make small talk and be in social situations without much awkwardness at all. It all changed because I tried to improve my social skills, and after taking some big first steps, it got much much easier. |
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I second RSD they are the shit. Building core confidence is the key mate. And don't be yourself . Be your BEST self! Aim for the fucking glory. |
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I believe that if you believe it, it'll happen. So what I advise you is to not believe that you can't get a date or relationship; Rather, do the opposite! Have faith that it's possible for you to and that you can and then do it. Believe it. There are over six billion people on the planet now, and I believe there's one for you. |
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Let me tell you a thought that might bend your mind a little bit. |
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Last edited by MasterMind; 01-28-2015 at 09:17 AM.
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