^^ [Before I start, Kir4ee, I have a request: Please, please, please use punctuation and capitalization in your posts. It is extremely difficult to decipher posts like this as presented, and I really don't want to misunderstand you. I know it's easier to just hurl all the words out as they come to you, but there really is a reason that we've all been using grammar for the last few centuries, and that reason is so that we can communicate as easily as possible. I hope, in the future, you'll do what you can.] Anyway...
From what I could gather from your account, it seems that you may have been paying way to much attention to the noise. When it "got weird and funny," as you noted, it was probably time to say to yourself something like, "Hey, the HI (aka, the noise) is getting pretty weird/intense, so the dream must be right around the corner."
I'm not sure what you meant by deciding to separate, but I'll assume it was similar to metaphorically rolling out of your body and into the dream; that separation may have failed because you were too focused on the stuff going on around you than you were on beginning your dream. So next time, I suggest that you be patient, and let all the noise happen, including imagining that someone was controlling your body (no one was, of course; you were likely just feeling your body preparing for sleep, and that can get weird, especially if you give it too much attention).
Here are a couple of specific thoughts:
Your subconscious really doesn't control your body when you are asleep; your body is essentially shut off when you're sleeping, so any sensations of movement or of someone else controlling you are likely more centered in your imagination than in reality... I don't say this to be harsh or negative, but rather to remind you that everything you experience in your WILD is coming from You, in one way or another, and is never the doing of some force outside your ultimate control.
Originally Posted by kir4ee
More important, though: If you have to think or wonder if you are in SP, then be assured that you are not. Trust me when I say that if you are truly in SP, you will know it.
This might run contrary to what they tell you on these forums, but your IQ really doesn't change in dreams. The machinery of you consciousness is working just fine, and your intelligence is as high as ever, throughout the dreaming process. What is missing isn't IQ, but memory: if you lack a reference point from which to confirm, say, that the ceiling you were looking at is wrong, it isn't that you're any stupider, just that you cannot remember that what you're seeing isn't right.
... also at that point i did have self awareness and a little bit of memory but i think my IQ was low at that point when i rolled over to my back i saw the ceiling but not really it was a dream felling disappointed i decided to go to sleep when i closed my eyes i was in a non lucid dream and it ended around 1-2 minutes
So, in the end, you might have thought you were in possession of high self-awareness and had access to memory, but your connection to waking-life consciousness might have been a bit weaker than you thought.
WILD's are inherently unstable, I think, if only because we are not supposed to stay awake while we are going to sleep. This stability is the main reason why we do all these techniques to manage a WILD transition. After you have begun your LD, though (meaning the WILD transition is actually complete, and behind you), stability is up to you; so yes, perform those stabilization techniques.
are WILDs unstable should i perform stabilization techniques ?
I personally believe that REM is defined by dreaming, and that dreaming is not dependent on REM. In other words, a successful DEILD will certainly bring about more REM, because You have determined that you want to dream some more. In even more other words: REM is a reflection of dreaming, not its controller.
can i DEILD when the REM cycle is over i did this couple a days ago waited 10 minutes and felt REM atonia for 10 minutes should i wait more will something happen ?
So yes: I highly recommend that you wait longer, because something, something like a LD, likely will happen.