Originally Posted by Dianeva
I'll make eye contact as much as the person I'm talking to is making it. If she's looking at me about 20% of the time then glancing off for the other 80%, I'll try to do the same. But I get the feeling others do the same, so if I fail to make eye contact for the first moment, they'll copy me and not, and it's determined from there. Making eye contact used to be a painful experience though and I'd never do it, until I started forcing myself to.
That's passive aggressive behavior and after extended contact with you people are going to pick up on that. Eye contact is a subconscious indicator to determine if the other person is actually listening to what you're saying or respects you enough to maintain eye contact. It's incredibly annoying when the other person doesn't maintain eye contact with you. I'd cut that out. You don't have to look people directly in the eyes. Look between their eyes or at their nose. They won't be able to tell the difference and it won't make you nervous. Actually, maintaing direct eye to eye contact for more than ten seconds becomes intimate in any situation. Between the eyes or nose.
Originally Posted by dakotahnok
I CAN look people in the eyes. It's just a bad habit that I don't. Like in a job interview I make sure to look them in the eyes. Or when I do any public speaking. But in everyday life I just tend to look at some one and then glance down or away. Even when I talk to them. So I guess I should work on it. But it's not like a mental disorder, or a fear, keeping me from it.
So you only bother to maintain eye contact when it's someone you have to impress? That speaks a lot about you.
Originally Posted by acatalephobic
Also, i drink and smoke too much.
Oh god, me too. I managed to get down to three cigarettes a day. It's not that difficult as long as you don't build it up as a herculean task in your mind. I quit for a couple months, but I like smoking enough that quitting became boring.
Originally Posted by littlezoe
I hate it when someone stares at me. Especially when a stranger does it. I would just like to walk up to that person and tell them to buy a TV and watch that or just put the TV up in their asses.
You're either abnormally attractive or ugly/odd looking. But this is Dreamviews, so I fear for the worst.
Originally Posted by Crashyy
I sometimes cut, it's such a bad habit lol xD.
How old are you? Cut that out right now. You're marring your body for the rest of your life. Five years from now you're going to regret the hell out of that. There are much less destructive ways to release dopamine and endorphins. And no, I'm not just saying to exercise and eat better, though you certainly should. I'm talking about -other- (yet less unhealthy) activities. However, these activities won't make your body ugly and undesirable.
Originally Posted by LifeDreamer
I dance in my room alone...
OMG SO RANDUMB xD Everyone fuckin does that. You are not special.
Originally Posted by Brock
Food. I can't stay healthy for the life of me. It's so different because working out is easy cause all I have to do is start and get going but with being healthy it's not going out and forcing yourself to work its just... Waiting. It's horrible but if too much food is my worst problem im a very very lucky person
Have you actually started working out? If you have, then disregard this. This is intended for those that haven't started and are apprehensive, and come up with a million excuses to not start. But if you haven't started...and to all of those that haven't started, I know you probably feel very guilty and restless. Those feelings dissipate the first time you go. It's easier than you think to start, and it feels good. REALLY good. Like a drug high. Of course, you'll have to actually work for that high. That incredible release of dopamine, endorphins, and serotonin among other "feel good" brain chemicals is half of why I do it. I work out four times a week and I eat whatever I want. From exercise alone I have a low body fat content and apparent muscle definition. I should mention I'm a vegetarian so that means I can't eat a lot of the popular junk food, but my experience is certainly not unique and very attainable even with meat-based diet. Exercise is addicting....in a good way, for once. I do an hour of cardio (35 minutes stationary bike/25 minutes swimming) and about twenty-five minutes of weights four times a week. I'm working on increasing the intensity of the cardio and weights every day.
This is an extremely unpopular professional opinion, but the first times you start going to the gym, don't bother reading up on proper material or exercise literature. I'm serious. Don't do it. It will slow you down and you'll never go because you can make the excuse to yourself that you don't know how to do it right, yet. Just go, get out there, and damn the consequences. Obviously, start on -very- low weights so you don't hurt yourself those first few times. Don't do a lot of lifting either and don't exert yourself too much because your form will almost certainly be awful. The important thing is that you GO. Once you go a few times and get past those damned mental barriers THEN look up proper form. This is very important. I started going with a friend who had been going to gyms for years, so he showed me what to do. If you have a friend who exercises go with them because they will probably be happy to to help you out.
Originally Posted by Kevs
most of the time I daydream... I also bite my nails(most women habit actually)
I don't think that's a habit unique to women. I bite my nails constantly and I catch both men and women doing it all the time. I think it's a young person thing, if anything.
Originally Posted by LightofHeaven
You guys are weird.
You don't have to hold back on the internet. Find odd idiosyncrasies on the internet is to be expected. For example, I find many posters aversions to maintaing eye contact uncommon, but far from unusual. This is the internet, and a niche internet forum at that. I'd wager a good portion of the people here, especially in off-topic, are socially awkward, incompetent, or reclusive. That's not a dreamviews thing. That's an internet thing. I find your reluctance to share your "normal" addictions with the rest of the class more funny than anything.
Linkzelda. I see from your post count you're clearly a regular on DV, and I'm sure I've seen you in chat often. You seem like a nice guy. But, you should seriously consider a username change. I keep forgetting who you are because your current handle is so generic and common. Don't take that as a personal insult, because it's not. Come up with a unique handle that's memorable. I remember four or five other Zelda username based posters on Dreamviews. While their posting styles and personalities were different and respectively unique, they're hazy in my mind because usernames like that tend to blend together.
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