Thread: ask me about love

Originally Posted by Spartiate

What if the power of love drives people to jealousy-fueled murder and battle, Iliad style.

Well, considering I have an unquenchable thirst of love for people I don't even know, no matter how stupid they are, I don't think so. I don't think I've ever been jealous in my life.

I think love and empathy go hand-in-hand.

True Love lasts forever?
Real life is nothing like "The Princess Bride"
True Love is just Love. Love either lasts or it doesn't. I am feeling that romantic love does not last. But while it does last, and before it fades away, the two people involved can make an effort to earn each other's trust and to build a strong foundation of friendship. Friendship is true love. That is my current feeling on love. Friendship...nothing razzle dazzle, no fireworks, no Fairy Tales, just friendship.
The best you can do is have a mutual lustful relationship with your best friend. If the both of you are passionate about the same things that is great. Otherwise, if your partner isn't your best friend, no matter how enchanted you are by each other, it won't last. Which is fine! Don't get me wrong, it is fine if it doesn't last forever. As long as both of you can remain grateful and thank each other for the good times you shared, and you let each other go free with no regrets and no anger, it is very beautiful. No demand that the relationship be anything other than what it is. Accept it for what it is, just like you accept your friendships for what they are. Then you two may meet again and pick up where you left off and share some more time together, before both of you go your separate ways. And each time builds more love and friendship. Who knows if you will end up with that person when you are 70 years old and have a lot to remember together and talk about.
But there is no such thing as "true love" and you don't come into this life with a soul-mate. You can meet someone and mate souls, but it won't be a fairy tale, it will be a great friendship.

in the beginning romantic love can happen ... it's biochemical.
and you're right, the biochemistry changes. then you have to rely on everything else - like what kind of person you are - if you want to give and receive love with this person.

I looked back at this and say I have knowledge of a wise man. I can't believe I said these words of wisdom. It actually reminds my self about true love and not being stupid with women.

so who ever was saying this was a fail I beg to differ. It was a win and for those who where saying it was a fail well F u C k off I don't care.

Why can't I get a girlfriend?

Or any friend for that matter

Originally Posted by slayer

Why can't I get a girlfriend?

Because the great god Vishnu didn't create girls with cat ears and long vestigial tails bones.

Originally Posted by slayer

Or any friend for that matter

This is the information age. A lot of friendships have migrated to being exclusively online. Here, you are one of the most wealthiest men online with so many friends.

Yeah but I can't kiss or hug or take my internet friends out on dates...


WHERE IS THE LOVE MAN?

Originally Posted by slayer

Yeah but I can't kiss or hug or take my internet friends out on dates...

Slayer homie, there's always plenty of fish in the sea. Though you may run into some you like but are taken in which case I'd say life's short. Have an affair. At any rate, don't get over anxious. There are ways you can go about finding romantic harmony in the electronic world of today. It's not so much as "where" to look as it is "how to look." Love can be a bittersweet experience that can lead to yellow fever if you let it go that far. But if just fall flat on your face in the world of romance, maybe you should rest and indulge in chocolate to get you back on your feet again.

Originally Posted by slayer

WHERE IS THE LOVE MAN?

jeff will you date me

Originally Posted by slayer

jeff will you date me

I'm only attracted to those attracted to doggirls. Sorry.

Originally Posted by etereo

so who ever was saying this was a fail I beg to differ. It was a win and for those who where saying it was a fail well F u C k off I don't care.

It would be "wise" of you to use proper punctuation and spelling. Your answers haven't been all that helpful, so I'm unsure why you think so highly of yourself. You've also blown off good suggestions of improving your grammar.

Originally Posted by Jeff777

I'm only attracted to those attracted to doggirls. Sorry.

forever alone

Quit being faggots about grammar, all of you. It doesn't fucking matter.

• Why do people use "love" as a way of manipulating others?
• Why do people throw the word around so much these days?
• Why the hell does the phrase "love to hate" even exist?
• If everyone's experiences with love are different, why do people speak of it as if it's some sort of constant?
• Is professing love for a person the same as saying, "man, I love this song"?
• If you love a person, does that usually come with some sort of unwritten/unspoken disclaimer [as in: I love you!...but if you say/do ____, then obviously I won't love you anymore]?
• Why do some people go on loving even when they know it's not good for them?
• How is it that when "love" ends, the results too often are resentment and anger?
• Can the "romantic love" some people speak even be considered love in any genuine sense?
• Why do some people use "love" as justification for acting a fool?

And, if love can conquer all...why are people still mean to one another?

My views are subject to change.

Originally Posted by acatalephobic

Why do people use "love" as a way of manipulating others?

Some value social leverage over compassion, and will use the emotional attachment of others to their advantage. Probably most easily exercised by those who have little regard for the well being of others.

Why do people throw the word around so much these days?

I think the word "like" became an inadequate descriptor for preference when when it began to get used as a filler word, as is seen in the day-to-day speech of particular groups of Y generation's youth (stereotypical "mall girl," etc). The word "love" was substituted as it could be used to display a favorable and even strong emotional response to anything, like music or other people (friends). If "love" was used to show preferences like this earlier on, someone will have to point that out and add to this.

Why the hell does the phrase "love to hate" even exist?

Since love can be explained as a kind of obsession, or at least that obsession can come out of love for something, it was a short step to making a phrase that essentially means "obsessed over hating." Also, it's wordplay. The phrase uses two very distinct and opposing emotions. It makes it to-the-point and memorable.

If everyone's experiences with love are different, why do people speak of it as if it's some sort of constant?

It's the best they can do. No one can know how another person experiences the emotion, so it's done out of convenience.

Is professing love for a person the same as saying, "man, I love this song"?

Not necessarily. If the love is professed from feelings of infatuation, there can be similarities (again, it would be obsession in this case), but the kind of feelings one has for another human being and for an arrangement of sounds is vastly different. At least, I would assume so. Long lasting love, the kind one shares for family, friends, and for a permanent mate (each one varies) is nothing like the love you'd feel for a song. A song that one falls in love with is used as a thing that identifies that person, or 'speaks to' that person. Human relationships are dynamic. I don't think they're comparable. It can depend on the person though, this is just my understanding of it so far.

If you love a person, does that usually come with some sort of unwritten/unspoken disclaimer [as in: I love you!...but if you say/do ____, then obviously I won't love you anymore]?

That would be conditional love. If a person loves another for who they currently are (or for who they think they are), the love for that person may be compromised if all of a sudden the person being loved expresses behavior that's contrary to the lover's understanding of that person. Technically though, if you love someone for who you think they are and they turn out to be otherwise, you can view the original persona and the actual, real person as two different things or concepts. You can love the idea of them and not love the real version, because they wouldn't be the same people.

Of course, there is also unconditional love as well, which means love for the person as their personality grows and changes.

Why do some people go on loving even when they know it's not good for them?

It's addicting. The thought of not loving when you are in love can be terrifying. Think of a particular food that's detrimental to your health, that you're addicted to. These are different kinds of addiction and the example is probably not a very good one, but I think it gets the point across.

How is it that when "love" ends, the results too often are resentment and anger?

A lot of trust goes into serious relationships. There can be feelings of betrayal if the other partner decides to call it off, even if they mean well. Some things are shared that a person might only feel are appropriate to share with an intimate lover, so if and when that lover leaves they end up taking those shared thoughts/feelings with them without fulfilling the role of lover any longer.

Can the "romantic love" some people speak even be considered love in any genuine sense?

Romantic love, to me, is a playful expression of love to the person being loved. Sometimes this is done through great effort, and at other times through simple actions that the other person considers sweet. This should not be confused with romance.

Why do some people use "love" as justification for acting a fool?

I'm not sure what you mean by fool here. What you consider foolish behavior may be the other person's way of displaying affection.

And, if love can conquer all...why are people still mean to one another?

A few reasons. Some don't care to love, and some prefer not to. Some prefer to dislike or remain defensive. Some are completely oblivious to their effects on other people. This question is similar to asking, "If we have the power to destroy all human life, why are people still alive?" We just haven't chosen to kill everyone, just as we haven't collectively chosen to open our hearts to our fellow human beings.

Well the last part leaves me with a little hope I guess.
Thanks for taking the time.

Love = sex wild orgies.

I wish to be in love, but I haven't found the right person yet. It seems that the people who ask me out, I feel nothing for, even if we get along great

But I'm young, and patient!

nd guys its not lyk hes tlking in txt talk cmon u can make it out.

Grammer ain't everything.

Originally Posted by Grod

Quit being faggots about grammar, all of you. It doesn't fucking matter.

Yes it does. It can actually tell quite a bit about a person.

Originally Posted by Drokens

It would be "wise" of you to use proper punctuation and spelling. Your answers haven't been all that helpful, so I'm unsure why you think so highly of yourself. You've also blown off good suggestions of improving your grammar.

Are we on a college campus, no! I am not here to worry about proper grammer! You elitist prick! This is a dream forum/community. We are suppose to get along with one another. This thread wasn't intended to flame one another.

Originally Posted by etereo

Are we on a college campus, no! I am not here to worry about proper grammer! You elitist prick! This is a dream forum/community. We are suppose to get along with one another. This thread wasn't intended to flame one another.

Sorry, just trying to help.

Its not a problem just be more considerate to others next time. No one is perfect.

I want to love you