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Talking to girls is just as easy as, if not easier than, talking to guys, man. Basically, just remember that girls are people, too. Next time you're out somewhere and see a gorgeous girl, go up to her and strike up a conversation. If you can't think of what to say, don't give a damn. You're not talking to her to demonstrate your superior conversational ability.
Maybe she's got a cool green scarf, or a Pacman t-shirt (that you should be so lucky). Ask her about it, relate to it. If there's nothing you can notice to relate to, try a simple but intriguing opener (not a pick-up line, heaven forbid). The good old, "I need a female opinion on something really quick. Can you help?" approach is a good one. It can be anything, from a predicament a friend of yours might be in, to what you should get your mom for her birthday. Be creative.
Unless you're just incredibly nervous and stumble all over yourself, that'll be enough to get a conversation going and allow you to keep it up for a bit. Give yourself a time constraint, though, so you won't run out of something to say. Tell her you can't talk long, that you need to get back to your friends. This gives you an opportunity to ask for her email or phone number, too, in order to continue the conversation at a later time. If she's interested, you'll get it. If not, you haven't lost anything.
Be confident. Take a deep breath before you walk over to her, feel the breath pooling in your abdomen as energy, then exhale powerfully, feeling that energy shooting up your spine and through the top of your head. Keep your chin up, shoulders back a bit, chest out, back straight. Walk relaxed, but not loose. Make eye contact, but you don't have to hold it the whole time. Be yourself, but be the best bits of yourself.
Speak clearly, enunciate your words, and try to convey your confidence and masculinity in your voice. You can do this by intentionally speaking just a bit deeper than usual. Don't rush your words. Go with the flow of the conversation. Don't talk about yourself too much, but do relate things she says to your social life. Not what you think about when you're alone, or what your parents did to you for getting caught smoking weed, but things you've done with friends. Don't brag; mention any skills or feats of yours in an off-hand manner, just referencing them, and only if it relates.
Be in charge of the conversation, lead it where you want it to go, but pay attention to what she's saying—with her words, with her tone, with her body language—and try to notice the cues. Don't introduce yourself. If she wants to know your name, she'll ask, and that tells you she's starting to get interested. Does she want to know if you have a job? She's more interested. Don't show interest in her until she shows interest in you. Let her earn your interest, just as she wants you to have to earn hers.
Don't be afraid to kid around, poke a little fun at her, be playful. You're not going to scare her off by playfully asking her what made her think those red Chucks were still in style. Quite the opposite, if your tone is right. Don't be afraid to throw a little BS her way and see if she'll fall for it or call you on it. Tell her about the time you were attacked by a pod of dolphins and a shark saved your life, with as serious a look on your face as you can manage. With the right delivery, she'll want to get to know you better. Above all, be interesting, but not strange. Be different, but not creepy. Be yourself, and don't be afraid of rejection. You're not planning to marry her. Learn from any mistakes you make.
Oh, and don't be afraid to walk away when your time limit is up. If you haven't already got a number, and you don't feel like you'd get it in the next minute, walk away. Or just go for it and ask, and whatever her answer, walk away. Though, sometimes, if she hesitates at giving a total stranger her number, you can just say, "It'll be okay. Write it on this." You never know till you try.
Bottom line: there's nothing to fear here.
