how do i control myself when i realize that i am dreaming?

Hi i don't know much about how to attain lucid dreams.
but i tried it for about 14 days.

one day i got this dream :
i was going in a bus with some people(it was a hill station)
the bus reached some place and people started coming out of the bus and
i also came out as other people were coming out.
As i just moved out of the bus a lady came along with her kids and reminded
me that i have forgot something very important to my home(i dont rememember what i forgot)
then i told the lady yaa you are right and i started running towards the opposite direction so that i could get back home and bring back what i forgot.
as i was running i came across a market with lots of people and there was a two way.
and suddenly I saw a huge wave of water coming down from one of the road down the hill and everybody was scared and running away....i also chose to run and
chose the other way but as i ran the other way i A huge wall dropped on the road and blocked the road(A very huge wall)
and everybody seemed to be trapped i was among so many people with that huge wall around me.
at that point i realized that its impossible i am dreaming...this is all just a dream and i am inside a dream...
so instead of trying to continue with the dream... i started slapping the person standing beside me ..fighting with him..so that i could wake up from this dream.
i took some amount of fight with him ....and some other people in my dream.
finally i woke up.

If your asking how to control yourself in a dream, just stay calm, really take the time to realize that your dreaming, and tell yourself you can do whatever you want.

Welcome! :)

To learn is to read to fully know and understand is to experience. So read about some different techniques (DILD and WILD) and methods and then gather your own knowledge by practising and experiencing. You can't learn to play soccer by reading about it in a book, but you can both learn, know and understand by practising it yourself.

It's the same for lucid dreaming, you can't just read about some method and suddenly know everything about lucid dreaming, no matter how accurate and detailed the method may be.

You can only learn by doing, so keep practising and research the matter yourself. Ask yourself exactly what kind of induction you want do you want to know how you:

A. Just go to sleep and then wake up in the dream. (DILD)

or

B. Start dreaming immediatelly at bedtime and begin the experience right away. (WILD)

It is of course not this simple at first, both techniques or ways to go have their problems. DILD inductions feels a bit out of your control, however WILD feels too much in your control it and can feel to advanced. But your task as an oneironaut is to learn how you master each technique by learning from your experiences.

I have find my way to understand these two ways, but every individual is different so it's not guaranteed to be the way you will have to do it.

Which is why lucid dreaming can't be understood by reading, you'll learn it by doing. I can't stress this enough and it seems obvious, however so many people forget this, and I also do at times.

But this is what the forum is for, to remind us and help us find our path, to share our experiences and to get motivated and inspired by them.
So if you need help I can help you get on the right track but you are the one that has to do the work.

I can only open doors I can not drag you through them ^-^

Namaste. :meditate: