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To have a dild you must have the correct mindset correct? Im going to have lucid tonight or there is no way i can fail. Well every time I do a reality check or think of lucid dreaming, my mind is instantly negative about it even though i've had a lucid before. I just can't stop thinking negative thoughts about attaining lucidity. help please.
You are not really believing then, you are pretending that you believe you will not fail. Keep in mind that even though a positive mindset does help, it is not crucial to have lucids. The first time i tried lucid dreaming, i was skeptical on the concept to say the least. But once i had my first lucid, that all changed and I started having them a few times a week. Just know that ALL people can lucid dream and if you keep at it, its almost guaranteed you will succeed. :p
Don't fret too much when negative thoughts pop up. Try to simply acknowledge them, let them pass through you, and then gently set them aside.Quote:
Originally Posted by Sl137
Put no energy into fighting them. Instead, dedicate your energy to positive thoughts. Imagine your past successes, your future successes and all of your lucid goals.
By pouring your energy into positive thoughts, you will eventually crowd out the negative thoughts. They're your thoughts, so all of their energy comes from you. Without you, they will wither and die. These negative thoughts are just stories your mind tells itself. Focus instead on your inevitable successes. Know that if you put in the work, the time, and the dedication, you will succeed.
Good luck!
I agree with CL. Also, maybe you are trying too hard? It looks like you are letting it stress you out. I've been guilty of this several times. I would take a few nights break from trying to have a lucid dream and just work on recall. You might be surprised with the results you get. If anything I think it will help you stay calm and refocus.
Also, another thing that helps me when I an feeling negative is to repeat a positive mantra during the day. This goes with what CanisLucidus is saying. Positive thoughts really help!
For whats it's worth, I was really skeptical before I had my first LD. I kept reading the forums of all the other people who were having lucid dreams and I soon realized that anyone can do it. You will get there. Don't worry. We're all rooting for you.
I won't repeat what other have said but I will say this. If you are being skeptical about your positive mantra of getting lucid without failing then you simply have to find a way to get that message to your subconscious without your conscious mind knowing about it and thus doubt yourself. Lol I know I am sounding all scientific now. But basically what I am saying that you should try out subliminal messaging. There is a lot of subliminal software you can download for free. You can set it up to display any message you want and from then on it will display the message. Just in case you don't know what sub messaging is, let me give an example. If you type in " I will have a lucid dream every night" into the software, it will flash that message so quickly that you won't even notice that it happened however your subconscious will have noticed it and will process that message without you ("the sentient being") ever knowing it happened. When we use a mantra we are trying to influence the subconscious anyway, so it's a great way to influence it without having to truly believe in what you say to yourself.
If there's one thing I learned about having DILDs, reinforcing a positive mindset is not going to cut it at all. You can only sustain a positive mentality before you become mentally exhausted again. Trying to think that just shifting to a positive mindset can set the standard for having frequent DILDs has less chance than if you focus on doing something gradually.
Subliminal messages are enticing to those who think their mind will suddenly just pick up on quick and random flashes of mantras, hoping that it'll get a hint and start letting them have more DILDs or any form of lucid induction; it may work for some, but I doubt anyone can consistently look at subliminal messages without being distracted with doing something else. If you want a practical approach to getting into a mindset, completely eradicate the endeavor of trying to have a positive mindset. Fixating on it only distracts you from awareness, which is the whole point of performing the DILD.
There are many factors such as making sure:
- You're consistent with your Dream Journal, since after all, you have to be aware of your dream signs and see what's abnormal in the dreaming world compared to waking life. It wouldn't be a DILD if you're not aiming to be more aware of dream-related themes, it would just end up being a MILD. DILD in its fundamental aspects is simply being aware of dream related events, that's it. MILD is just insurance in case a person isn't able to recall that they're lucid or not from a DILD (which is why keeping a dream journal is important)
- You have to realize that just because one person does well with subliminal messages, it doesn't mean you might succeed as well. You might have a chance, but you have to think about the practicality of subliminal messages. It depends on your attention span, and not many people can pull off staring at a screen and doing something else. Doing that is similar to people who want to lose weight without exercising.
- Be aware of your emotions: Sad, happy, angry, joyful, and more. Being aware of your dream self and comparing it to yourself in waking life makes things a lot easier. If you see that you're usually expressing repressed behavioral in your dream self, and you feel just fine in waking life, acknowledge that. It takes time to really understand the basis on how you feel in your dreams. Which again brings back to the importance of having a dream journal
- Be aware of your environments. If you want to get into the right mindset, you have to know you must work for it. There's no such thing as "kinda" right mindset where you just become lazy and use things like subliminal messages that have little chance for success. ADA (All-Day-Awareness) is honestly in my opinion one of these most helpful guides towards becoming lucid.
Check out KingYoshi's guide here:
http://www.dreamviews.com/induction-...kingyoshi.html
It's about having a progressive mentality, to acknowledge the relapses that comes with DILD (trying to keep up with a Dream Journal and being aware of your emotions, environment and how you interact with others in dreaming life and waking life). Focusing on sustaining only a positive mindset is going to make you exhausted. Focus on what you can do now, learn from it, take gradual steps. The subconscious doesn't just work proficiently by you looking at random flashes of subliminal messages or trying to be so into a positive mindset to where you're practically begging for your mind to make you aware in your dream.
You have to do things gradually, you wouldn't want to go into a pool of water without first testing the temperature. You put your feet in first, then you gradually immerse your whole body into it. It takes time, but when you just do things progressively and in a reasonable manner, the processes will come back quickly, and that's when you start becoming a "natural." It's about connecting the dots, one step at a time. If you really want to enjoy the wonders of lucid dreaming, you can't slack back with just subliminal messages. Know how your mind works, know how it works on the present, be honest with yourself, be honest with how you feel and how you react to others and events.
All of these things are going to pick up, and don't expect to have progress immediately, it might work out for you and others, but make sure you aim for practicality rather then idealism. The right mindset is a practical mindset, one that consistently maintains the mistakes it went through and learning from them and constantly modifying if needed; it's ongoing and it doesn't try to fixate on one goal (which everyone seems having positive mentality is the key).