The Characteristics of Success
Hey guys! Today I am just going to share my thoughts about success, eventually this will lead to some theory of how to make lucid dreaming a natural thing but I will talk about different topics that will lead to that so have patience with me.
I have been totally off this forum for some months in order to take care of some different things in my life.
And the main focus was my confidence, so I have been out talking to random strangers and actually managed to kiss a girl in less than 10 minutes of meeting her, and this was not in a club or a bar this was in the day and I met her in a mall. Well I approached her. :roll:
The second thing I was focusing on during these days was my philosophy studies.
And what's interesting is that the main principles that I followed to succeed with girls was the same principles that I used to write to people on this forum to help them out with lucid dreaming. So when it felt tough I actually read my own posts and advice about lucid dreaming such as:
"Don't focus on the results, enjoy and focus on the process itself and the result will come faster and naturally."
And now when I read philosophy I started to realize that the path to success is the same no matter what you are doing.
Today I went back to this forum again and saw that not much had changed when it comes to the beginner's mindset.
They still look for the BEST METHOD or TECHNIQUE.
And ironically enough the pickup community looks similar: "What's the best way to get a girl to laugh?", "What is the best thing to say to start a conversation with a girl?", "How do you deal with guys who blocks you from getting the girl?" which sounds very similar to these questions:
"What's the best way to get relaxed?", "What is the best thing to do in order to trick your body to fall asleep?", "How do you deal with itches that prevent you to lay still?"
Ok before I reveal the epiphany I had, I am just going to quickly explain how ancient Greek moral philosophy looks like:
Modern philosophy is focusing on consequences and what action that is the right thing to do.
Greek philosophy on the other hand is instead more focused on what characteristics of a person that provides happiness.
So Greek philosophy isn't really trying to provide a solution to every situation and an answer to the question of how to act.
Instead the they give an answer of how to be through virtues in order to achieve the best result automatically and this end result is happiness.
And a simplified version of the Greek Philosophy I talk about is "If a person is truly happy with himself, he will act morally to other persons as well."
Why would a truly happy person look down on others? This is a powerful lesson because this shows that you never should take anything personally, because it never is!
This mindset of being instead of doing really affected me and funny enough this was the answer to the questions above.
"What's the best way to get a girl to laugh?" - There is no way to make every girl laugh (unless you tickle them, well not even that because all girls isn't ticklish...) the point is that if you are a person that have fun she will most likely also have fun and instead of desperately trying to make her laugh which will most likely result in you being needy and she becoming uncomfortable, you do something that you find funny and she will most likely find it fun as well. If she doesn't find it fun, it's not a big deal because you are not there to make her laugh you are there to have fun. And this is the mindset of a guy who gets girls, to have fun!
"What is the best thing to say to start a conversation with a girl?" Again there is no universal solution for this, if you have fun no matter what result you get from the girls you start to talk to, you will convey the personality that will make the girl interested in you and they will hopefully stay. ;)
"How do you deal with guys who blocks you from getting the girl?" Be what you want to happen. You can't control this from not happening, so if you focus on trying to ignore or get rid of the guy he will most likely not leave you alone. But if you just accept his presence and actually talk to him like nothing has happened, he will block himself because he will seem insecure and rude. But this result can't be guaranteed you can just be what you know is right and more often than not this works in your favour.
So the moral of the story is, accept your problems and be what you want to be and your problems will erase themselves and you will be what you want to be.
Ok you might wonder why I use pickup examples... But I just want to really show you how universal the principles of success and happiness really is.
"What's the best way to get relaxed?" - Instead of looking for the best relaxation that works for the majority of the 6 billion people on earth.
Ask yourself what makes YOU relaxed. Instead of desperately trying to get relaxed which will most likely result in you being anxious and uncomfortable, you do something that you find relaxing and you will most likely become relaxed automatically. If this way doesn't work for the majority of the rest 6 billion people, it's not a big deal because you are doing this to find a way to make them relax, you are doing this to make YOU relax.
"What is the best thing to do in order to trick your body to fall asleep?" - Again there is no universal solution for this, if you are enjoying the process of relaxation you don't even have to think about tricking your body to fall asleep, because you will automatically do the right things and it will take care of itself.
"How do you deal with itches that prevent you to lay still?" Be what you want to happen. You can't control this from not happening, so if you focus on trying to get rid of the itch it will most likely not. But if you just accept it's presence and actually focus on it and continue to relax like nothing has happened, it will block itself and dissapear. But this result can't be guaranteed you can just be what you know is right and more often than not this works in your favour.
So the ongoing theme is that you should just do what YOU find amusing and not judge yourself.
This is the solution to everything because that is usually what the problem is.
We are all just people and we can achieve anything if we just work for it and don't stop.
Stop identify yourself with your problems (that all people have) and just continue to work for change.
If you go out for 11 years how do you expect to be bad with people and women? The only thing that is stopping you is yourself.
How do you expect yourself to be bad at lucid dreaming after doing it for 11 years? The only thing that is stopping you is yourself.
There is a tool that helps you with exactly this that I use both to improve my sleep and my pickup and my whole life really.
And that is MEDITATION :meditate:
Your first reaction was probably, "BUT, BUT THAT's A METHOD..." my answer to this is - No and Yes.
This is something that will make you more aware, have more vivid dreams, stop overthink, get less stressed, calmer and happier etc.
But meditation isn't something that I do, it's something that I AM 20 min every day.
In modern society we are so much in our head, in the future or the past that we are rarely in the now.
That's why it is so hard to WILD, we think about what we are going to do, we think about what the best method is etc. So no wonder why people think it's hard to relax and to be present in the moment. And to be present in the MOMENT is exactly what we want to be, I mean that is what awareness itself is all about. But instead we judge ourselves and get anxious and are worried over not having results, in other words we are in a negative circle because we are NEGATIVE ourselves.
Meditation helps you to stop judge yourself, be present in the moment, and helps you understand and to focus on enjoying the process.
I hope that this text was helpful to you and to round this of I am going to share a really good meditation tutorial:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8a5fO8jE7mc
I am also just going to say that meditation is just like life, sometimes it flows perfectly and everything is all good yeah. :shadewink:
But sometimes it's boring, awful and annoying and hectic :panic:
So the first time you do meditation, don't give up on it just because it felt horrible the first times. Because then you are missing something BIG.
By having this mindset you are naturally doing the things required to become a successful lucid dreamer, just combine the principles with whatever induction method you want and it will make the journey more enjoyable and faster.
From Pickup to Greek Philosophy to Lucid Dreaming and Meditation I am finally done and have reached THE END.
Principles of Success:
- Enjoy the process and the lesssons, don't focus on the results.
- Never judge yourself.
- Take nothing personally.
- Be in the present moment.
- Be what you want to be.
- Have fun!
