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Principles of Success - Lose Your Ego!
Secret of Success
I have learned so much since I started. And the reason for this is because I have been working on progress and finding the secret and general principles of success.
Here are some areas of my life that I have fixed because of my hunger for understanding success:
(If you wonder why I use pictures, it's not to brag or anything, anyone can do what I have done, it's just to make it a little more eye-catching than a big wall of text.)
Lucid Dreaming: Honestly I just became a really good writer and learned some good theories. I had alot of success but I was definitely not a guy that could lucid dream at will. But at my best I could have one short moment of lucidity once a week.
But I did become a Dream Guide on the forum and later on a Moderator. I then let go of this position for a personal reason that I will discuss later on in this text.
Understanding Female and my own Male Psychology (Game, Pick-up): I went from being a shy, insecure little boy to become a confident, witty, leading man. Stopped worrying about what people thought of me (but especially what I thought of myself) and from having lots of crushes on girls that just friendzoned me, I am now well what people would call a player probably.
But I am not a douchebag, I am honest with my intention with girls and now girls got crushes on me.
I went from being worried about how I walked with my feet on a sidewalk (yes I was that messed up!) to now being able to run up to a total stranger and get numbers, dates etc.)
Building Muscle: I used to be skinny and not even being noticed by girls. Now I got girls and even guy friends pointing out how lean and buff I am. And well I am still working on this area, but I have learned how to get result.
Becoming a Teacher: I used to be afraid of talking to a crowd or even small groups. But now I am studying to become a teacher and by using the principles of success I am striving to become the most entertaining and outgoing teacher in the world.
I have always had a high willpower and worked on my self. But when I found the videos by Owen Cook on Youtube, my life basically exploded! And I have learned the principles of success and got it confirmed through experience.
I will soon talk about the HOW (How to get success), but first I need to mention the WHY. Why am I even mentioning my success with things outside of the lucid dreaming topic?
And the reason for that is partly that I want to make it even clearer that it's the same principles for success no matter what you want to improve at. And it's partly that it might helps someone else.
I will begin by sharing a very long speech by Owen Cook aka Tyler:
The Truth About Success 2 -- Execution, Learning From Failure, Not Being A Lazy Slug - YouTube Skip to: 09:00
I am so hooked to his videos that I can watch his 2-3 hours videos without a break.
What I noticed after starting practising lucid dreaming and flirting with women at the same was that it had the same principles. So I then started to apply that at everything in my life. So to make it clear I am going to explain the process of mastering lucid dreaming and contrast it with learning to flirt with girls as odd as it may sound.
Here goes:
LOSE YOUR EGO!
This is what differs a successful person from a well.. a newbie or a person that gives up.
Most people that hears about lucid dreaming, read about some technique and get really high expectations and try it out and when they don't get their desired result, they blame the technique and say "It didn't work..". A good example would be the REM-Mask that promise you to get lucid instantly with the help of blinking lights while you are in REM sleep.
Why do you think the term pick up lines exist? Because our society and people are addicted to FAST, NO EFFORT based solutions. Is it realistic to think that a girl would like you just because you said "Did it hurt? ... When you fell from heaven angel." or to think that a cheap eyemask can detect rem sleep and make you lucid in well a blink of an eye?
Of course not! The reason to why we want to believe this is because we don't want to admit to ourselves that we need to take a journey and gain experience and knowledge of our own awareness and when it comes to girls, female psychology or maybe just social interactions. Although our brains is actually designed to save time and energy, so it's not entirely our fault. But now when you know it, you basically took the red pill and don't have any other excuse to not execute other than that, that you are lazy.
Sorry but that is the truth and if you get offended by this, you can come up with some lame excuse like I don't have time for meeting girls or I don't have time for lucid dreaming. This excuse is the blue pill that the majority of the population choose to take. And well I have taken that blue pill many times: (I don't have time for a Dream Journal, I don't like clubs, girls in clubs are so uptight, I am too short and skinny for girls to like me etc.)
If you erase the lazy mind, your excuses and ego (the self-image) out of the equation, you will see that anything that you want to be successful at is a really easy journey in theory.
How to get good at lucid dreaming: Practise every night, and even if you fail a hundred nights in a row, you will still slowly improve and learn from your failures and eventually atleast get one lucid dream. And now you got one lucid dream, then you continue to practise and learn more lessons and then you get another lucid dream. After more nights you will see a pattern and have had 5-10 lucid dreams and understand lucidity and your own awareness more and more.
How to get good at flirting with girls: Go out! Clubs, parks any place where you can meet girls. Approach lots of girls and even if you get rejected 25 in a row (I did, because I was a nervous creep), you will always meet atleast ONE girl that likes you, and look at that now you got one girl. Then you keep going out and slowly improve the way you behave, all wrong behaviors will fix themselves if you go out alot. And then you'll meet another girl, and after months of doing this you will have 5-10 girls that likes you and then it just escalates because you understand yourself, female psychology and social interactions more and more.
Tylers video about this: Tyler's Bizarre Voices Explained -- How Vocabulary Influences Perception And Emotional Response - YouTube
If you practise every night for 11 YEARS?! How is it even possible to be bad at it?
Ok I do realize that it is not easy to approach a random stranger or to practise lucid dreaming every night.
But it wouldn't ben fun if it was easy, it's the very reason that it is hard that makes it great!
Believe me I have had nights where I went home and cried because I was too afraid to approach someone for 4 hours!
Or had mornings when I wake up and not had a lucid dream, because I fell asleep by WILDing.
But also keep in mind that this is really irrational, because practising flirting by approaching strangers or practising lucid dreaming is almost as rare as have traveled to the moon. Ok it might be an exaggeration, but you get my point.
Almost nobody does this! So don't judge your result, judge your inability to take action!
So the paradoxical lesson of losing your ego is that if you want result don't focus on result, focus on the actions that gives you the result.
My original idea was to share all the principle of success, but I realize now that it would be too much to read, and this is already becoming a wall of text. So I am going to wait with that and if people find this helpful I'll continue the writing.
Also a shout out: I am going to lose my ego and admit to myself that I don't know ANYTHING about lucid dreaming.
And I am basically going to restart my journey to really demonstrate the power of just taking action.
So in my Dream Journal from now on, I am going to write down as many nights of practise as I can.
I will share it in my Dreamviews Dream Journal as well from time to time.
That was all from me, peace! :meditate:
