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Nervous
So, my brother told me about lucid dreaming and i was interested, but im one of those people that get scared and ask millions of questions. So i have been researching about it for 2 hours. The thing is im 13 and im scared ill get paralyzed when you are supposed to stay still. And if i do get a lucid dream, i already know that im gonna think of something creepy as H**l. Is this life threatening for a 13 year old like me?
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life threatening? not in the SLIGHTEST! worst case scenario: you get scared by something not really there.
just remain calm and try not to be scared and think positive thoughts and think of what you want to do in your lucid dream. if those bad thoughts enter your mind quickly drown them out with happy thoughts.
you get what you put out. put out fear, get scary things. put out calm and goodness and you will get good things. good luck! youre 100% safe
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Sleep paralisis is something that almost all human beings feel at least once in their lifetime. The problem is when you don't know it exists, or don't know what's happening. If you know about it, there's no problem. They can be scary at first, but then you almost get used to them, because you know that instead of fighting, you have to relax, and also use them as an "entrance" to the dream, when possible. The few times it happened to me lately, while first I get shocked, then I just think "oh... here we are again"... and just try to enjoy it as a ride in the rollercoaster. Once a shadow figure with glowing eyes came near to my bed and I just looked at it like while thinking (relaxed) "oh.. come on... you're not supposed to be here", like saying "don't bother me now...", and it vanished. And believe me, I was just there stuck to my bed, full darkness in the room, and it felt completely real. I just knew it wasn't. If you fight that, it won't be nice.
I've had a couple bad situations of SP when I was younger. Now that I know about them, the couple times it happened while trying to LD, I took them just as an entertainment, more than a thread.
One thing you have to always remember is that nothing can happen to you in the dream world. Only thing that can stay with you after waking up is fear, or stress, but that happens on normal dreams too (called nightmares). You can't control feelings on a normal dream, but you can in the lucid dream. You have to fully understand that the dreamworld doesn't exist, it's just imagery, sound and sensations created by your brain, and when you're lucid, you are "the master" of that world. So you shouldn't fear looking under a bed in a dark room, for example.
Everything you see is just false, meaning that a wall won't stop you unless you think of it as a wall, you want to touch it, or even hit your head against it. Knowing that wall is not there, you can just walk through it. Same with any scary thing or being. Even if you're shocked at first, you have to remind yourself it's not really there, neither you are trapped in some other dimension that will make you have some bad moment until you wake up. Just smile or even laugh for getting scared for a moment, and enjoy the situation.
Oh, and as a note, worst idea is to turn your back to a fear or try to run away, because that fear will become stronger, and it feeds that "monster" you're trying to run away from, making the situation more and more difficult to control, maybe even transforming into a nightmare without lucidity. So if you ever feel nervous in the dream or scared, just relax, and if you can't, better try to wake up, think what you did wrong, remind yourself how stupid you were for doing this or that, and learn from the mistakes for the next time.
Good luck.
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You know I think I was similar to you at one stage. I was intrigued by the idea of lucid dreaming but to scared to try it. One night I woke up in the middle pf the night and thought about how cool lucid dreaming is but I still decided against trying it. That night I had an accidental LD and it was a feeling like no other I have had! Thats what started my ld journey.
So my anecdote shows that 1) Its okay to be scared initially, I definitely was but it is worth it
And 2) Ld's can rarely occur naturally like my first one. If they are naturally occuring then it helps to prove that there is no health risk.
regarding SP I had two experiences with it and they were freaky during the experience but looking back on them they were pretty cool haha and after learning about lucid dreaming I could handle the next time SP arrived better and never had it properly since
So I understand why you are scared, nervous about an unknown world to you, nervous about SP but I suggedt giving it a go because you may be missing out on something you love.
Peace
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Lucid dreaming is kinda like riding a bike or riding a car. Before learning to experience it, you get scared because you imagine what will happen (you think mostly bad things). When the first experience occurs, you might get scared, because it's the first time. But after that, you will not want another thing. You get addicted. And it's wonderfull. You will even want to teach others.
Thinking about it, riding a bike or a car is way more dangerous than lucid dreaming. So, go for it. No fears.
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Why do you think of lucid dreaming as something "life-threatening"?
Lucid dreaming only means that you understand you are dreaming during a dream, there is no reason to think of that as anything dangerous in any possible way - a lot of beginners seem to like to think of lucid dreaming as something like Inception, but Inception is almost the complete opposite to real lucid dreaming in most ways - yes, it is a cool movie that can motivate you in many ways, but it is definitely not an accurate metaphor for lucid dreaming;
if anything, The Matrix is a lot more similar to lucid dreaming, although not even that movie is completely accurate (especially not the "you-die-in-real-life-if-you-die-in-the-Matrix" thing!).
And sleep paralysis can randomly happen to anyone at any moment anyway, it is totally possible that you will experience it tomorrow morning without even trying to become lucid, although the odds of that are admittedly very low.
And sleep paralysis will always end in a few minutes - in fact, it mostly ends before you wake up, so if it still lasts even after you wake up then your brain will most likely be like "ah okay, he is awake now, so I better end the paralysis thing".
It's kind of like turning on a car engine before trying to drive somewhere - the opposite usually doesn't happen.
Also, lucid dreaming is only an advantage in my opinion;
even nightmares will mosty likely be less frightening, because if you are lucid then you are at least able to change the nightmares into something better instead of helplessly endure them.
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Lucid dreaming rarely ever leads to nightmares due to the realization that everything around you is not real and the realization that you have control. You have survive a hundred nigthmares in your life time and most likely have forgot about some of them. I think you have what it takes to endure a lucid dream just don't forget it afterward.
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You shouldn't worry much about it
Sleep Paralysis, HI and other sensations are happening always when your falling asleep
But you are unaware of them because your mind falls asleep naturally before they start to appear :D
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So, not to toot my own horn too much, but I just published a nook book called "Dream Flight Academy". It's only .99 cents. The reason I wrote it was because of all the fears and misunderstandings about lucid dreaming...This tries to answer all thos fears. It can also be used to help convince parents it's not an evil, scary thing.
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So, not to toot my own horn too much, but I just published a nook book called "Dream Flight Academy". It's only .99 cents. The reason I wrote it was because of all the fears and misunderstandings about lucid dreaming...This tries to answer all thos fears. It can also be used to help convince parents it's not an evil, scary thing.