is there a way to use this as a sign to become lucid??

Hi guys! So glad that I found this place!

So I have been prett much obsessed with the concept of lucid dreaming as well as astral projection.
For the past 2 weeks, I have been recording multiple dreams I have a night, every night. I also try to check my hands throughout the day as a reality check. However, I've been struggling to become lucid in my dreams. Sometimes I wake up, realize how obvious the signs in the dreams were and kinda beat myself up over not recognizing them in order to become lucid. For example, ever since I've been recording my dreams, I noticed that my mom who passed away 4 years ago often makes an appearance. However, she is alive in my dreams and the dreams seem normal, not emotional. I keep telling my brain that next time my mom is in my dreams, I will use that as a sign to become aware, but fail to do so every time. I even tried using dreamleaf supplements for the past 3 nights, and no luck with lucidity. Do you have any helpful tips that can help me make the connection while in a dram state? Thanks in advance!

Try building the situation in you imagination as close as possible to how it happens in the dream. Then imagine yourself in that situation doing a state test and realising you are dreaming. Do it several time so that the next time a similar situations occurs you will automatically be inclined to do it.

When you go to bed, before you sleep, imagine seeing your mom, doing a reality check and getting lucid. Imagine the specific dreams you were in and in that situation, doing a reality check. If you do that enough, the next time you see her, you will most likely get lucid.