Why oblivion instead of lucidity?
Now that I'm actively trying to get lucid dreams again, a realization came of which the knowledge was there all the time - when I dream, I am not aware that I dream. Well, hallelujah, I finally figured it out, huh?
Due to my recent studying of NLP and hypnosis, it came to me that maybe we aren't being lucid since our subconscious has anchored (an NLP term, which means basically to group certain concepts, feelings, emotions, thoughts together) dreaming to being unconscious - non-lucid. That might explain why beginners have such hard time to maintain their lucidity - since you are basically conscious in the dream, your subconscious takes that as a sign that the dream is over and chucks you out!
My theory is that babies are lucid all the time they dream. This explains why there are "naturally-gifted" lucid dreamers and the rest of us. Babies need to dream to develop their brain and nervous system, but when the need for that is gone (i'm guessing at the age of 2-3) and because the children are not aware that they are doing something absolutely amazing, most of them consciously forget that they can lucid dream. For some the skill remains.
Now this may seem rather obvious, but when we have forgotten something then the remedy would be to remember! I know the self-hypnosis induced lucid dreams are not a novelty, but the ones i have seen lack the reasoning behind why it is so damn effective. You are basically switching your subconscious' lucidity switch from OFF to ON.
Specifically I have in mind to anchor dreaming with being lucid - so that there can be no dreams without lucidity, because at the moment my subconscious thinks i must be unconscious while dreaming, but after it'll think that i MUST be conscious while dreaming!
I'll try this tonight and report back. Hope many of you try this too:p