Help Attaining Lucidity

Ive been trying to attain lucidity for ages now. I do constant reality checks and everything, But I relies the only thing what REALLY sucks is.. the fact that. Every time I dream that I know im dreaming as in, I don't just remember it in the morning I watch it while I am dreaming. Then wake up and remember this I don't know if this is normal but seeing that I can see whats happening in my dream . Why cant i control it , Its basically like my brain is turned off and im watching a DVD movie or something, I cant do anything in my dream just watch, Cant even basically think to myself consciously... So, im asking a 2 questions here.

1. Does anybody have the same issue?
2. Reality checks basically mean that you can watch your dream, then it'll make you lucid? because your activating something in your brain??

I'm sorry, I honestly don't understand your question. Are you saying that you are having trouble with DILD because you don't have good dream recall, and so when you become lucid you're not sure if you were just dreaming that you were lucid or were actually lucid?

Also, have you read the reality check tutorial? If not, click the teeth in my signature, it will link you.

when you become lucid you're not sure if you were just dreaming that you were lucid or were actually lucid? <<<----
Thanks for your reply Shift.
Like when i try and go to sleep i see visions in my head randomly pop up, weird ones ive NEVER seen, example, a hot babe or something.

Then my brain will start to create or, i will start to create a scene. after that i just watch it. but its not like... visions as in looks real its more like , when u imagine something...
Whats this called?
am i getting close?

The random images sound like hypnagogic hallucinations. I'm not sure if you mean those hallucinations are strengthening, or if they're turning into a dream when they get more complex?

It seems like i got hypnagogic dreams then, Fully imaginised but not in a dream state.