sharing dream w/someone who doesnt LD

I once met a friend in a dream, way back in college, we were both starving students and we both happened to dream of raiding the cafeteria lines in the middle of the night. She was coming from one way and I from the other. We discussed, what was on the separate lines, coming and going. Not a very eventful dream. But the next day when we met in the hallway, we compared notes and we each knew what each of us had said and did during our dreams and they exactly coincided. Two people had shared the same dreamscape and met together in their own separate dreams... if you can call them separate anymore. And neither she nor I were dream experts... not way back then.

But in most dreams I do not really suppose most of the dream characters are actual souls. some may be. Whenever I become lucid, I make it a point of leaving whatever dream scene I am in, at the moment, in order to find the special dream that my Higher Mind had set aside for the Lucid Occasion. Every so often, when that happens, a Dream Character will follow along, who has the ability to levitate and fly, and thus keep up with me. I suspect that a dream character that can levitate and fly is probably a Real Person -- a Real Soul.

But when talking about the dreams that people have. We need to consider that some people are far different Waking from Dreaming. Our waking selves are conditioned and socialized, cultured and steeped in traditions, taught manners, rewarded for conforming and punished for acting out. That is NOT how a lot of people are in their dreams. some Dream personalities run amok and go wild compared to their Waking Personalities. and because of the wide estrangement, much of the time the Waking Consciousness and Personality is barely connected to the Dream Personality at all, which helps to explain why some people simply can't or don't remember many of their dreams -- they simply can't relate to them or they are frankly shocked by them and so they disassociate away from them.

To dream with another person, I suppose their Dream Personality or Dream Self must be close enough to their Waking Self so that they would even be able to recognize you as a friend. Or even if their is recognition, one would hope that one's friend is integrated enough between Dream Self and Waking Self so that their behavior would not seem .... well, too crazy.

Even some of the Big Names in Dream Studies are frankly quite weird in their Dreams. Take Patricia Garfield as an example -- one of the first big pioneers in Lucid Dreaming, but for years her workshops focused on dream sex. So imagine having a dream with her. Instead of acting like a civilized person, it would be more likely that she would jump your bones.