Dreaming of soul mate/twin flame & Waking, Sleeping, dreaming, life, death, rebirth

Hi guys,
something is bothering my mind and thats why i chose a name for this thread to be the names of two threads:
http://www.dreamviews.com/f19/dreami...-flame-106654/
http://www.dreamviews.com/f19/waking...rebirth-87772/

I don't know how to actually start so i just do and see how it goes.
I wonder what is the connection between the two threads, between twin flame and all which the second thread is all about. On one hand dreaming is a way to become one with oneself but on the other hand uniting with one's TF is another way to become one with oneself. That is your TF is you in the opposite(or even same according to some sources) sex usually with opposite qualities which are complementing our own. They say TFs are a split soul and when united they are uniting with God. But to get united with a TF is really difficult as it is said a lot of karma should be resolved and fear must be chased away otherwise union is impossible. Also, meeting a TF in a life is not a must. So maybe the dreaming could be used by people to clean themselves. To remove fear and merge with their dark parts of the soul. Thus becoming one for oneself and once reached that level meet their TF and get together, provided the other TF has done the same.

Question here is: if one can be one by oneself what is becoming when united with a TF? More than oneself?

I don't know if made it clear. So if not please ask.

we;; I believe what you may call my TF is not an aspect of myself.

I know it sounds strange and is not easy to think that one's TF is a complementary self. But from my experience til now it seems so :) Sometimes i wander is to be happy that i know my TF or to cry hahaha Its weird thing that TF story. Anyways life will show :)

if your just uniting with yourself you would feel smarter and deeper and more real.....but wheres the romance in that. your still all alone.