Originally Posted by
JoannaB
Sageous,
I may be an unusual person in that I have changed profoundly several times in my life to an extent that could be considered surprising. I was intolerant and close minded as late as senior year in high school, but some time in my freshman year in college I became an incredibly tolerant and open minded person.
I still have only marginal extroversion, but given that I have always until now score introverted that is a definite change. It is related to my change from judging to perceiving in that I have made an effort into withholding judgement and spending more time to gather information and an effort to be less self centered and more other centered and the two are related and both have to do with my effort to overcome depression through mindfulness and restore greater balance in my personality. Who said anything about me being healthy? Lol.
I have put a lot of effort into this change so it is not just something that happened to me. Of course some of it may be tendencies that were there before but hidden so thoroughly by depression that they only now are coming out. But that is not all of it. I used to need to spend time alone to decompress, sure there was some of it that was due to depression and an unhealthy retreat to myself, but I also needed alone time when I was not in a depression phase. I then forced myself to be with others as part of curing depression. Now I find that I get antsy when we do not have guests coming over at least once during a weekend, and a high point of my week is the energy I get from a group folk dancing class.
Similarly with the perceiving versus judging, it is a result of a concentrated effort into changing my personality to better suit who I want to become. But it is becoming more and more part of who I am.
I am who I am, no matter who I am. I am the one who changed.
PS: I think lucid dream practice combined with depression are powerful agents to personality change. Depression is a major motivator for self change: one first hates oneself, then hates the fact that one hates oneself, etc. combine that with the self awareness techniques of lucid dreaming: the realization that anything is possible, paying attention to weird stuff and causes and effects, seeking increased awareness and control. And the result can be a good recipe for personality change.
PPS: this year I have made huge strides in overcoming depression. I now use mindfulness to self correct, and I am happy most of the time despite the fact that I had seasonal depression and this is the season for me to be depressed - and in a sense I am, but I compensate the negatives. I can overcome depression and I can change my personality.
PPPS: Of course, if life is a dream, and given that in a dream anything you truely believe is possible is indeed possible, so given that I believe that I can change my personality I can. :)