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    Thread: I asked my dream for help in getting my husband to appreciate dreams! He NEVER remembers them!

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      I asked my dream for help in getting my husband to appreciate dreams! He NEVER remembers them!

      My husband is the first person to laugh about my excitement over my dreams, therefore I don't share them with him. I often lay next to him wondering what it would be like if he could see what I see and share my dreams with him to give him the excitement that I have. After discussing the thought of me starting to learn how to meditate yesterday with Patience108, I was curious how this would be possible without having him being supportive of me. In my dream I asked the VOICE, what has been like my teacher in my dream, to please help me in finding a way to get my husband on board and excited about dreams. He never remembers his and is not interested in trying to. OMG!!!! This morning my husband told me he had a crazy dream where he was working at some place putting stickers on shoes and couldn't get it right and it made him frustrated and then he had the most beautiful dream where he was sitting on the toilet haha, when a big beautiful black bird came in the bathroom and sat in front of him looking at him, and it gave him such a peaceful happy feeling, then the black bird followed him back to bed and laid down next to him to go to sleep. I asked him where was I, he said the bird was in my place and he felt the love from the bird. Ummm you tell me! Coincidence or was this my little messenger to get him to be excited?
      My husband then decided to go back to bed for ten minutes. Hmmmmm do you think he thought he could have another? LOL
      For any of you who are interested I will reply to this post if this happens to continue after a couple of weeks. This would make me so happy if we could share dreams!

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      This was a success! My husband has remembered his dreams every night :-) sometimes two dreams. He is totally enjoying the experience and we are talking about them daily as a good communication tool :-). First thing he tells me in the morning is about his dreams, but then he asks me about mine. Would you believe that I have not remembered my dreams since he started? I am not too worried because that was my focus! I just wanted him to get excited about it and it worked. If he had not been on board I wouldn't have pushed the issue but so thrilled that this has opened another door for communication which is huge at our age! We are in our 50's.
      Now I have to focus back on MINE! Do any of you ever have periods where you just don't remember them? What works best for you?

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      : )Its great that he is starting to show an interest in dreams as well. When I don't remember my dreams all that much I like to think.about what I like about dreaming and try to recall even a small part that stood out for me. I than try and remember what happened before the thing that stood out occurred. If I do recall something I than try to remember what happened afterward. Kind of like a timeline.
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      Quote Originally Posted by Serene View Post
      This was a success! My husband has remembered his dreams every night :-) sometimes two dreams. He is totally enjoying the experience and we are talking about them daily as a good communication tool :-). First thing he tells me in the morning is about his dreams, but then he asks me about mine. Would you believe that I have not remembered my dreams since he started? I am not too worried because that was my focus! I just wanted him to get excited about it and it worked. If he had not been on board I wouldn't have pushed the issue but so thrilled that this has opened another door for communication which is huge at our age! We are in our 50's.
      Now I have to focus back on MINE! Do any of you ever have periods where you just don't remember them? What works best for you?
      I know first hand how exciting that is! My poor husband never gets enough sleep to have dreams during the weekdays. He gets on average 4-5 hrs a night on week days. Sometimes less. I think I'd go crazy if I had to do that. But he does listen to a whole lot of my dreams & has now started having dreams also like your husband but of course it was on the weekend because of the whole REM issue. I'm really glad you posted this because it reminded me to tell my husband where I leave my journal in case he can remember some. I would love to wake up & find his dream in my journal, cuz that would be really exciting.
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      I am similar to your husband because I actually only get about 5 hours of sleep on average and it takes me on average an hour to fall asleep. Some nights I swear I don't sleep a wink. I think it is my old age haha. I am also an extremely light sleeper and hear everything. I get woken up easily which is probably not helping my dream life much. I think in my younger years being a light sleeper helped in recall and it is also why I always feel extremely aware in my dreams because I don't feel I get into a really deep sleep often. Just think of how exciting my dream life will be when I retire! That is a plus! More sleep more dreams ahhhhh.
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      Quote Originally Posted by Serene View Post
      We are in our 50's.
      Nice to have some other "chronologically challenged" dream enthusiasts around, welcome!

      Now I have to focus back on MINE! Do any of you ever have periods where you just don't remember them? What works best for you?
      Yes, I've found that my recall waxes and wanes on a fairly reliable cycle. Recall is additionally very sensitive to mental state -- being relaxed, stress-free, and well-rested is really important. Best for recall is to continue to lie quietly, without moving, and reach for dream memories immediately upon realized you've woken up. I find my recall is worst when my mind is stuck on waking life worries or problems, when my first thought upon waking is right away going back to those worries. Being able to keep you mind on dreaming while in bed, and put off waking life issues to after having gotten up out of bed, can be very helpful.

      I have a list of dream recall tips I put together a while back, maybe you'll find something useful there: FryingMan's dream recall tips
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      As far as I know, it is normal that you can't remember a dream upon waking up. But, based on my experience, there was a time that I can continue a dream when I get back to sleep at once.

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