HELP--how to keep others out of your dream

Hello! I've got a bit of a problem and I'm hoping for some input and advice... My ex-girlfriend and I used to have mutual lucid dreams quite often. It was usually a wonderful experience. However, we've been broken up for 8 months now, I'm in a new relationship, but my ex-girlfriend still enters my dreams now and then and it is quite unpleasant! I know it is really her, too. Does anyone know how I can keep her out of my dreams? Last night she interrupted a dream I was having with my current girlfriend and I don't know if my current girlfriend remembers it but it was quite disturbing to me. Please help!! Thanks. Blessed be.
Coco Pan

Just shout "YOU SHALL NOT PASS" and look at her angry and fire some purple energies at her. Then maybe she wont come back :P ...

People can't actually "Enter dreams." If you believe people can enter dreams, they will but they won't. If you believe they can't, they simply won't. Dreams are basically thoughts, so if you believe this...Well, I just explained that.

Well how about the two following possibilities.

1 Whilst in dreaming with her you tell her that you do not wish blah blah blah

2 You leave that particular dream environment. Change dreams. Out develop her ability to track you down by evolving your own dream mobility. Use your nearest dream hyperlink.

Think with some common sense and then you will realise it's just a dream.

Well we need to get one thing straight. Dream sharing is not possible, at all.
So this means your ex is simply a dream character.

Dealing with unneeded dream characters is rather simple. Since you are in full control of your dream you are able to control the DCs and make them do whatever you wish.
The first thing I suggest is to command that she will leave. Make sure you fully understand that she has to do whatever you say. With luck she will just leave.

If for whatever reason that doesn't work. Then just kill her. Easy enough.

Maybe you're too much linked to your ex-girlfriend on the sentimental level, not because you two don't meet on the physical plane you won't on the dream or astral plane.

I think you two have a spiritual link. But you don't have to cut the dreams, understand why they're happening, dreams usually have messages for you.

You can cut the link though... I don't recomened it unless she's trying to give you problems, you can just by imagining what's uniting you two , and cutting the link.

I really don't see what the problem is, just have a threesome! And if they're both ok with it in the dream, then try for RL next.

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Originally Posted by mowglycdb

Maybe you're too much linked to your ex-girlfriend on the sentimental level

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I agree there, if it is a shared dream, then strong emotions are most definitely the cause. Not on your part, most likely on you ex's side.

If you want to make her stop, you need a distraction. Something in RL that will take her attention off you. If you're both in school and off for the summer, then it should stop once you are both back in school.


But seriously, see if your current girlfriend remembers that dream. It's rare enough that I find shared dreaming accounts from two people, but if I could get three different people to describe the same shared dream, that would be pretty incredible.

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Originally Posted by mrdeano

Well we need to get one thing straight. Dream sharing is not possible, at all.

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Now I'm not totally sure either way about shared dreams, and I'm not just here to start an argument, but answer me this one question: how do you know that? There is no real proof that shared dreaming exists, but by the same token there is no proof that it doesn't.

Enjoy the interruption by sticking a member through her face to kill her.
Or just do that "you must leave" stuff, not nearly as fun though :banana:

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Originally Posted by coco pan

Hello! I've got a bit of a problem and I'm hoping for some input and advice... My ex-girlfriend and I used to have mutual lucid dreams quite often. It was usually a wonderful experience. However, we've been broken up for 8 months now, I'm in a new relationship, but my ex-girlfriend still enters my dreams now and then and it is quite unpleasant! I know it is really her, too. Does anyone know how I can keep her out of my dreams? Last night she interrupted a dream I was having with my current girlfriend and I don't know if my current girlfriend remembers it but it was quite disturbing to me. Please help!! Thanks. Blessed be.
Coco Pan

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Try this...

White Light Shielding

This is a shielding ritual/meditation that my guide gave me almost in
total, though I've tweaked it a bit over the years to personalize it. He gave
me permission to share it, so enjoy!

First settle in to whatever comfortable position you use to do meditation;
light a candle, put on some soft music, some aromatherapy if you like...
lavender is good for relaxing, sage for protection. I use an aromatherapy
diffuser, but you can also just put a drop of each oil on an unscented white candle.

When you're relaxed, visualize the top of your head opening up, and White
Light from the Spirit or God/dess pouring down into the opening, and washing
through your body like a wave, cleansing out all negativity and stress, and
finally washing them out through the bottom of your feet and back down into
Mother Earth to be recycled into positive energy. Visualize this for a few
moments, until you get a sense of how the wave has cleansed your insides.

Next picture the White Light beginning to touch and align and balance your
Chakras. First it touches the root chakra at the base of your spine, and you
visualize the color red. Hold that color in mind for a couple of moments.
Then the second chakra, where the reproductive organs are, and visualize the
color orange. Then the third chakra at the navel, and visualize yellow. Then
the fourth chakra at the heart, and visualize green with rose for the
secondary heart chakra, which connects heart and crown. Then the fifth chakra at
the throat, which is light blue. Then the sixth chakra, which is at the third
eye area in the center of the forehead, and visualize indigo blue. Then the
seventh chakra at the crown of the head, and visualize violet. Take a
moment to see the whole rainbow these colors form with the rose arm going from the
green to the violet. Hold that in image in mind.

Next, ask Spirit to bring the White Light out into your aura, cleansing and
brightening it, and when you have a sense of it being cleansed, then begin to
visualize a mirrored shield going all the way around your aura. Ask that
this shield deflect anything that is sent to you with negative or harmful intent
back to its source. You can then ask to set psychic filters, and you can
ask for what you specifically want here. I have to filter out more than some
people might want to, simply to keep my own balance. But I ask the God/dess
this: Please set my psychic filters to allow through only that which can help
or heal, bring insight or understanding, protect me, or serve other purposes
of Highest Good.

Then I close by thanking the God/dess for the cleansing, balancing, and
shielding. If you do meditation, this is a good time to do that next, as you
should be really relaxed at this point.

You can also do a short form of this, even in the car (eyes open,
obviously!), on the way somewhere, if you're nervous about picking up too much psychic
energy in crowded places, like happens to me.

You may find it helpful to do this several times a day at first, and then
after awhile, it becomes almost automatic, and you only have to do it when you
feel a real need. It's kind of like the way we have to really concentrate
when we're first learning to ride a bicycle or swim or type, but then it becomes
something we can do without thinking about it so much. I especially run
through it at bedtime most nights, and it seems to keep the dark stuff out of my
dreams. Take care!


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As an added note, if you have any old possessions of hers around, consider psychometry as a possible problem, and get rid of the stuff. After my divorce, I realized I had to get rid of my old bed, because I was picking up my ex's energy from it, and that was why we were connecting so much. It has lessened hugely since I got a new bed, but he's still a pest sometimes! But we were married for thirty one years, so I guess you get used to spending the night with someone, and it's a hard habit to break. He's just so darned negative and mean though! Anyway, usually if I actually run through this at bedtime, it keeps him out until at least four in the morning, and lately, I just yell at him to get out, and it seems to penetrate, and then I can go back to sleep.

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Originally Posted by Supernova

but answer me this one question: how do you know that? There is no real proof that shared dreaming exists, but by the same token there is no proof that it doesn't.

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People on this message board will say that God is a stupid idea but then say things like "yeah you can totally fly to other planets/galaxies in real time and space."

I really don't believe that dreams are anything other than just dreams - your own and no one else's.

As long as you convince yourself that it is really your ex-girlfriend entering your dreams at her own free will, it's probably going to continue. If you are just dead set on the idea that it is her, then make it so she'll never want to enter your dream again. Make her suffer.

2 things
1. how do you 100% know its her.
2. What is she doing in their. Is she hurting you?

if your in the midwest you can find some agate stones. keep them where you sleep. maybe tie a string around one and tie the other end to your wrist. . . (or somthing creative) agates will help. also try writing a poem about blocking her out of your life, write it on your rist before you go to sleep. * good luck with your new relationship . 3.

hey thanks everyone for the advice. as for the remarks about whether mutual dreaming is possible, i'm not going to argue but I will say that I have had mutual dreams with my brother and two of my cousins as a child, have had mutual dreams with my best friend as a teenager and as an adult, have had mutual dreams with two other friends who are twins (three of us dreaming one dream together) and with my ex-girlfriend. I also suspect I dreamt with my dog one morning. so there's no doubt in my mind that it is possible.

to anyone who cares to know, i did do a ritual that involved shutting doors, and some paintings of shut doors, and sent messages in my mind to her that she is not welcome and it worked! the next time i saw her she told me she had had a dream that she was sitting outside of a door that was locked and realizing that she was somewhere she wasn't supposed to be. she hasn't been in one of my dreams since.

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Originally Posted by coco pan

hey thanks everyone for the advice. as for the remarks about whether mutual dreaming is possible, i'm not going to argue but I will say that I have had mutual dreams with my brother and two of my cousins as a child, have had mutual dreams with my best friend as a teenager and as an adult, have had mutual dreams with two other friends who are twins (three of us dreaming one dream together) and with my ex-girlfriend. I also suspect I dreamt with my dog one morning. so there's no doubt in my mind that it is possible.

to anyone who cares to know, i did do a ritual that involved shutting doors, and some paintings of shut doors, and sent messages in my mind to her that she is not welcome and it worked! the next time i saw her she told me she had had a dream that she was sitting outside of a door that was locked and realizing that she was somewhere she wasn't supposed to be. she hasn't been in one of my dreams since.

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I believe you! I have been doing it all the time recently.

You must find her dreambody while lucid. and voice your intent at her to stay out. Is there any items of yours that he has? get one or ttwo of them back, sage them and burn them while focusing your intent on keeping her out.

I had the same problem and these are the things i did.

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Originally Posted by mrdeano

Well we need to get one thing straight. Dream sharing is not possible, at all.

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Well, not really.
I've only had a few LD's, and one of them was a shared one.
Me and my friend went to sleep, had a dream blah blah blah and we both put it in our DJ's.

After that we read them and they had pretty much the exact same thing.
idk, but personally I think 3/4 are DC's but it can be done.

I have an "ex-girl-won't-stop-appearing-in-my-dreams problem aswell, however it is defenitely because I have (STILL!) not been able to let her go emotionally.

At the same time I am convinced Shared dreaming is very possible due to experiences I had with it.

I guess if your ex girl REALLY appears in your dreams this would be a nice oppertunity to talk with her and find some closure. In dreams we usually are alot more ego-less and open so it may just be the perfect chance to confront her and let go of her emotionally.
And even if she isn't really entering your dreams, but instead she's a dreamcharacter; This is still a good oppertunity of learning to let go.

However people; Don't be so unforgivingly sceptical; way to kill a discussion, any discussion.
Some people have personal experience with shared dreams, so trying to convince them with psychology and scientific style-"reasoning" Shared dreaming isn't possible/real won't be very effective.

When will you people learn that science is simply an inferior tool for studying the deep truths of our existance? Science can't explain everything. And if science can't prove or explain it, there's no reason to assume the matter in question is untrue/impossible. Rather this gives more reason to assume that if we're going to investigate the truths of our existance, we're going to need more than just Science.

Ok lets go for the opposite question.

How can you share you dream with someone else? Someone who doesn't really remember their dreams all that well, and may have never had a lucid dream before. Of course it may take a while to find out if it actually working, but I sounds like something I want to try. Maybe it may help him become lucid and remember dreams more..