Thread: Dream sex

Seize the moment and do it right then and there. (Seriously).

Turn her back, lul

Dream control my friend

Dream control. Maybe some part of your conscience expected her to be useless as a partner and turned her into just that: a useless thermos. Expectations are everything.

And if it helps, if you're going to run out of dream time, just do it there and then. I know it's awkward in front of other people, even in a dream, but sometimes it's the only option.

This is true, but there is also the fact that actually getting an orgasm is more difficult in dream sex than real sex, since there isn't any actual stimulation of the erogenous zones. Considering this, it might still be worthwhile to get away from the crowd, since privacy will make it just that much easier to go all the way.

It's a calculated risk.

Privacy doesn't matter from me. I almost find myself an expert on this. Heres a couple things i do.
1. Keep your eyes on them. Don't look over at something or anything. What he said was that she transformed, that will happen if you look away sometimes.
2. When i do it i make sure i know its a dream and that i should relax. I do relaxation breathing while in the dream. Although i do that sometimes just to make sure i don't freak out and wake up.
3. This is weird to say but, when you think you're going to orgasm you will. If you are just F$$king and just thinking of that, it could go on for a while. If you think to yourself, wow this is great, i cant believe this im about to. Then you'll be able to do this and go on quicker. I've had full long dreams after sex in a dream. Its not often i do that but you can have a dream afterwords.

Hope this helps in some way. Just try it out.

I can think of 500 better things to do in dreams than a temporary good feeling in which you can have in real life, I'm personally against the primal need for this feeling.

I suggest not using this beautiful privilege for something so blatantly over-exaggerated.

So to answer your question, to avoid these mishaps happening, I instead think of trying to actually ACHIEVE something in my dreams.

Forgive me if I offended you, the truth hurts.

this thread = lulz

Just because u have sex in a dream doesn't mean you are only going to dream of that. I've had dreams where i did it, then left and did something fun for the rest of the dream.

Originally Posted by feeble49

I can think of 500 better things to do in dreams than a temporary good feeling in which you can have in real life, I'm personally against the primal need for this feeling.

I suggest not using this beautiful privilege for something so blatantly over-exaggerated.

So to answer your question, to avoid these mishaps happening, I instead think of trying to actually ACHIEVE something in my dreams.

Forgive me if I offended you, the truth hurts.

What can you achieve for when you wake up.. it will be gone. Unless it is an idea, sadly most people don't get a lot of ideas from dreams. So sex in a lucid is just as "ACHIEVING" as any other thing you could do.

Actually, my advice would be to take it slowly, absorb everything around you, make the dream more stable, then find a girl, have a chat and drill her in the behind. Luls

Originally Posted by Mascot

What can you achieve for when you wake up.. it will be gone. Unless it is an idea, sadly most people don't get a lot of ideas from dreams. So sex in a lucid is just as "ACHIEVING" as any other thing you could do.

There's a few things you can achieve in dreams, one of these is self realisation, which I will delve into now. For a start, your dreams have unlimited potential, you can do whatever you want in them, so in theory you could project a mental image of yourself and talk to your subconscious. Learning about yourself, realising the things around you that your brain has picked up on I think is much more fullfilling and "achieving" for your waking life than being able to say "LOL I POUNDED AN ANIME CHARACTER".

I think having sex in your dreams is abusing this beautiful part of your brain's aesthetics that you were given. I suggest trying to learn more about life, changing your mental goals from SEX to ACHIEVING ENLIGHTENMENT IN YOUR EXISTENCE.

Originally Posted by feeble49

(...) you can do whatever you want in them (...)

I think having sex in your dreams is abusing this beautiful part of your brain's aesthetics that you were given.

He he.
Well, sex in dream sometimes is cool. People do whatever they want with their dreams. I agree with you that there are better things to do, of course, but one time here and there, don't do any bad, right?

Originally Posted by feeble49

There's a few things you can achieve in dreams, one of these is self realisation, which I will delve into now. For a start, your dreams have unlimited potential, you can do whatever you want in them, so in theory you could project a mental image of yourself and talk to your subconscious. Learning about yourself, realising the things around you that your brain has picked up on I think is much more fullfilling and "achieving" for your waking life than being able to say "LOL I POUNDED AN ANIME CHARACTER".

I think having sex in your dreams is abusing this beautiful part of your brain's aesthetics that you were given. I suggest trying to learn more about life, changing your mental goals from SEX to ACHIEVING ENLIGHTENMENT IN YOUR EXISTENCE.

All good and well, except that's boring as hell. I'd get far more satisfaction from blowing up cities and having orgies than I would from any of that stuff. To each his own.

Right, and if u try time after time for self realization and just realize you like sex and destruction, you've wasted time when you could have been blowing shit up. So have fun in what way you want in dreams. I gave my advise earlier, and this is just saying relax people. Fun is different for different people. Sex in dreams feels different than real life, and can feel different every time. Or you can do shrooms in dreams. Fun is fun.

Originally Posted by feeble49

There's a few things you can achieve in dreams, one of these is self realisation, which I will delve into now. For a start, your dreams have unlimited potential, you can do whatever you want in them, so in theory you could project a mental image of yourself and talk to your subconscious. Learning about yourself, realising the things around you that your brain has picked up on I think is much more fullfilling and "achieving" for your waking life than being able to say "LOL I POUNDED AN ANIME CHARACTER".

I think having sex in your dreams is abusing this beautiful part of your brain's aesthetics that you were given. I suggest trying to learn more about life, changing your mental goals from SEX to ACHIEVING ENLIGHTENMENT IN YOUR EXISTENCE.

Psh. Lame-zorz.

First of all, I really don't go for that business about achieving enlightenment in your dreams. Whether it's that astral plain religious business, or that pop-Freudian stuff about the subconscious, I just don't see that kind of potential in dreams. I don't believe in anything "spiritual," and that black and white conscious/subconscious model is outdated. The brain doesn't work that way; what we call "subconscious" can be easily reached by mediating on your own thought process while you're awake. More easily, in fact, since you're not being rational when you're dreaming, even lucidly. What you think is a deep personal insight is just as likely to be a clip you saw on TV yesterday, or your "deep personal desire" to have a cappuccino tomorrow.

As for sex, it's fun, and it's not cheap or dirty, or profane. It is at least as fundamental a part of us as any other. And when is the last time you had a conscious opportunity to boink Christian Ricci or a catgirl, or that blue chick from The 5th Element, if you're into that sort of thing. Or, for someone like me, how about ANYONE OTHER THAN YOUR WIFE? Don't get me wrong, I am totally into my wife. She's sweet, she likes football, and she looks like Natalie Portman, but the point is I know exactly who I will have sex with for the rest of my life. Except, of course, for dreams.

And don't you DARE tell me I'm "cheating on my wife" in my dreams. It is only between she and I what constitutes a betrayal, and no one else gets to say one word about it. If she says fucking a nineteen year old clone of Sofia Loren in a dream isn't cheating, then it ISN'T CHEATING. End of story. No one else's opinion matters.

I think dream sex is normal and healthy- it is a quick and safe mental and emmotional release of energy that is pent up. I really only consider dream cheating a valad thing when I am aware in my dream that I am married (because some times that it's part of my conciousness at the time) and I feel iffy about it because I relise I am married and then go ahead and do it anyway, and most likey spend the rest of the dream feeling guilty and trying to avoid my husband. If I know I am married in a dream, I stear clear of these encounters. If I am not aware then I am doing anything remotly close to cheating. What I weonder about dream sex is why sometimes it is so explosivly amazing while othertimes it is very numb, or even a little scary - like i will feel like the dream partner is actually just after energy or something and if I stop what we are doing it will morph into something scary. What is the determining factore in whether or not the dream sex is orgasmic of just kind of numb and boring? I like looking for the deeper consciencness in my dreams, I feel it is a very spiritually charged experiance. But hat's my personal opinion and is only valid to me.

If we're not meant to have sex in dreams, why do we get erections during REM sleep? The sexual drive is an import part of ourselves, and I see no problem with exploring it. Of course, I like to do other important, fulfilling things in lucid dreams besides sex, but the sex is really fun, too.

I've also had problems with my dream partner turning into other things, or something else getting in the way. Usually I just get right to it, wherever we happen to be. If I concentrate wholly on that person, and what I'm doing, everything else disappears.

grab her and quickly teleport to an empty room!
then do whatever you want. i would go 50 mph with her into a wall. hehehe

I see no problem with dream sex. I actually want to have one . Last night, when I became lucid, my first thought is to find the girl I really want to have sex with. I had to move on a motobycle, passing a long road to reach her house. When I finally to came to her house, I met her and kissed her immediately, but I couldn't do any further than that because I waked up. any advice for me?

Originally Posted by Roseburg

I think dream sex is normal and healthy- it is a quick and safe mental and emmotional release of energy that is pent up. I really only consider dream cheating a valad thing when I am aware in my dream that I am married (because some times that it's part of my conciousness at the time) and I feel iffy about it because I relise I am married and then go ahead and do it anyway, and most likey spend the rest of the dream feeling guilty and trying to avoid my husband. If I know I am married in a dream, I stear clear of these encounters. If I am not aware then I am doing anything remotly close to cheating.

I don't see it as any different from masturbating, personally. It only rarely works, and in my case, it is never a case of lusting after a particular women other than my wife. It is either a fictional girl that doesn't/can't exist in the real world, or just whoever is close by. Mixing it up for its own sake, in other words. Now, if there was another woman who was the focused object of my desire, that would feel a little bit more like a betrayal.

Originally Posted by Roseburg

What I weonder about dream sex is why sometimes it is so explosivly amazing while othertimes it is very numb, or even a little scary - like i will feel like the dream partner is actually just after energy or something and if I stop what we are doing it will morph into something scary. What is the determining factore in whether or not the dream sex is orgasmic of just kind of numb and boring?

Well, from context, it would appear that you are a woman. While I do not consider myself sexist in general, it would be folly not to acknowledge that the experience of sex is very different for women from what it is for men. Therefore, I don't personally feel qualified to give a strong opinion on that. I could speculate that it may have something to do with sex-as-power, or sex-as-vulnerability, or something else like that. For me, sex is like pizza: when it's good, it's really good, and when it's bad, it's still pretty good. I realize that for other people, the experience of sex is more varied. If these questions are important to you, a trained psychologist would have much more reliable insight than anyone else, although a good one would take a long time getting to know you before he or she would feel comfortable offering such an opinion.

Originally Posted by Roseburg

I like looking for the deeper consciencness in my dreams, I feel it is a very spiritually charged experiance. But hat's my personal opinion and is only valid to me.

I used to do that as well. It feels more mystical, and it frees you up to interpret things however you want to. However, as my perspective on reality has changed to a more objectivity-centered stance, these seem less like strengths and more like weaknesses. Everyone makes sense of themselves and reality in the best way they know how.

Ahhh... This thread = funny indeed. I remember one of the first lucids i ever had, when i was about 10 or so. The very first thing i did after i realised i was dreaming was to rip some chicks clothes off, lol. Is that weird for a 10yr old? I guess so.

Originally Posted by feeble49

There's a few things you can achieve in dreams, one of these is self realisation, which I will delve into now. For a start, your dreams have unlimited potential, you can do whatever you want in them, so in theory you could project a mental image of yourself and talk to your subconscious. Learning about yourself, realising the things around you that your brain has picked up on I think is much more fullfilling and "achieving" for your waking life than being able to say "LOL I POUNDED AN ANIME CHARACTER".

I think having sex in your dreams is abusing this beautiful part of your brain's aesthetics that you were given. I suggest trying to learn more about life, changing your mental goals from SEX to ACHIEVING ENLIGHTENMENT IN YOUR EXISTENCE.

smph.........Sex is better.

Originally Posted by Seamuslee

Ahhh... This thread = funny indeed. I remember one of the first lucids i ever had, when i was about 10 or so. The very first thing i did after i realised i was dreaming was to rip some chicks clothes off, lol. Is that weird for a 10yr old? I guess so.

I did that when I was 13 but not in a dream...........

Originally Posted by whitemagician91

I see no problem with dream sex. I actually want to have one . Last night, when I became lucid, my first thought is to find the girl I really want to have sex with. I had to move on a motobycle, passing a long road to reach her house. When I finally to came to her house, I met her and kissed her immediately, but I couldn't do any further than that because I waked up. any advice for me?

Rub your hands/Spin around before the dream ends. Even yell out the word "Clarity" it works for some.