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umm, thinking of before falling asleep, would meditating help me falling asleep cause when i lay down to go to sleep all my bad memories just flood my head and start making me as terrible as i did when they happened, would meditating help get rid of these, or is there another way to get rid of these thoughts
Meditating should get rid of that. Just remember to focus on clearing your mind.
in my first lucid there were only girls around me so i know what u mean. ive read some other post about this. when u sleep u get an erection. because of this, ur mind is more focused on sexual activities making it harder to focus on monthly tasks and stuff.
eh, you'll learn. After a while you KNOW its not even gonna be worth it. Oh the countless LD's I've lost to dirty thoughts...
Its reality's way of testing you with temptation to see if you are worthy of the lucid dream or not.
had my first LD last night; didnt even know the term until i woke up this morning and researched
i was at a pool party at a resort outside of Melbourne, Australia when i slowly realized that, for several reasons, it didnt make sense that i was there. i knew it was a dream. when i found out that my actions would have no consequences, that it was a free world, of course the first thing i do is look for a girl to hit on. well that didnt work out and then as i was thinking about recklessly driving a boat i woke up.
Guarantee i have another one tonight, its going to be better! i will be using the snooze alarm tactic
This is exactly how it was when I first started lucid dreaming. Simply run around looking for hot guys.Quote:
Originally Posted by dtc119
YAY!! Last night my first pretty long lucid dream, it lsted at least a couple hours and i got everything i wanted to do done and more, but some things i did were still sexual
Actually, I found that I left the lucid dreamstate because of such behavior not of my own doing, but because I was kicked out. This led to a suspician by me that I was not dealing just with my own mind in the state.
I never worried about it though, as it was just sensless fantasy. There are real things to learn in the state.
Hey! I have had similar LD experience as you, and am also a fairly recent / new lucid dreamer. First thing I would suggest is that you try not to think of it as a problem. People want and like sex. Totally normal to instinctively go for it as soon as the world is laid out at your feet. I've been thinking about that today though, and have come to believe that [aftter reading my dj and visualizing the dreams] I only resorted to/went for sexual things because I couldn't think of anything better to do. What I'm focusing on to resolve this is to try these two things- don't worry about goals so much, and just focus on the senses, become really drawn in to the scenery and wildlife. If sexual acts ensue, so be it. After enough times you'll get bored and force your mind to think more creatively. The next thing I'll try if this fails is to have a very powerful or important goal I want to accomplish. For me it is tomeet my dream guide, in multiple LDs. A good thing to do might be to turn sexual feeling/stimulus into an RC. Whenever you check out a woman as she walks past or in conversation, immediately do an RC and tell yourself what you want to accomplish or do the next time you are dreaming, something you are excited or mystefied about. Then next time you see a woman in your LDyou'll be reminded of your goal and act that out instead! Good luck and keep dreaming :-)
I know what you are going through, my first 8 were almost all sexual. It seems that any fantasy we might have about girls you see at school come to life in a lucid dream. Once in school I did a WILD and ended up having sex with the girl next to me. I didn't even ask or anything, just unzipped and went in. Good thing there isn't a thing called dream rape where dream characters could complain about you haha! My best advice is to once your done stabilizing, either start flying, or punch the closest DC you can reach. When I do the latter, the DC disappears and I find myself alone in the scene free to explore. One more thing you could try is to start running as fast as you can, it doesn't matter where to, just leave that scene. But since you are inexperienced this might make you wake up. Best of luck to you
wait, how did you WILD in school?! thats probably the coolest thing ive ever heard anyone do in school
I usually get hornyness out of my system before I go to bed, If you catch my drift ;).
I had this girl that would always appear in my dreams and I would have sex with her so I learned to reality check everytime I saw her in real life and I would become Lucid. Had like 10 Lucids in a row :).
Were you taking and Over does of Melatonin or some stuff because the longest dream of the night is only about 45mins, Im guessing it was an illusion. I've noticed in vivid dreams I feel like I might be in there for half a day, and one time more.Quote:
YAY!! Last night my first pretty long lucid dream, it lasted at least a couple hours and i got everything i wanted to do done and more, but some things i did were still sexual
I have an online class that I do in the library, so on somedays I will just take a nap, but I WILD instead of just sleep :shadewink:Quote:
Originally Posted by Connor23
Ummm. i didn't take anything, i'm not sure why it was long but my other lucids were MILDs or DILDs but somehow i managed to succeed in a DEILD it was surprising and i didn't plan it i just realized i was waking up during the dream fading out and i felt a split second of consciousness and then sorta pulled myself back into the dream, i mean its like how my other lucids seemed like 5 minutes but i wake up and its been 2 hours, well this one felt like 2 or 3 hours but i woke up like 1 hour later. what was really strange about this one is i didnt want to do sexual things due to prier experiences but after about 10 minutes and me getting some things done i spent about 10 minutes or so doing sexual things and never felt myself waking up at all, and then i proceeded to do more different things.Quote:
Originally Posted by LucidInvader
Wow i got a free period at school, i should learn to WILD and do it then.Quote:
Originally Posted by SuddenGun007
Yea it's a thrill once you can do it, even if you only have like 30 minutes to sleep, learn to WILD and the day becomes less boring. But be warned, a lot of the time when I WILD in school I start sweating, or feel really tired when I "wake up". That might not happen to you though, good luck!Quote:
Originally Posted by Connor23
what do you do to WILD ive tried quite a few times before and could never do it
Yeah, this is a common problem, mostly among males. Because it is most common that men when they are in the REM cycle are erect. Which means your sexual intention is higher then normal. What i would do is map out a story line before bed, and if you doing a WBTB read it over and over and memorize it before WBTBing. Leaving the females out of it. Make it a deserted planet if you want. But you just need to focus on something else, and not thinking at all about females. It will be hard but if you practice this for the next 5 or so LD's you might have a higher success rate.
It is hilarious how horny everybody is isn't it.
I was wondering If I take just a small amount of melatonin when I wake up and then try wilding will it help? I can stay awake in my wilds and never drift off so would this be ok?