Dream incubation

Last night i stayed up rather late till around 11 pm or so. I was listening to music at a video site, and i was barely thinking about the person i was watching singing. I didn't even want to dream about that person.

But i actually ended up dreaming about that singer and we were in the dream sitting across form one another talking. I missed out completely on becoming lucid, the singer should of been my first clue, but the biggest clue that i was dreaming was the fact that the house was my dream sign; my childhood house.

So my question is this, what do you do personally to incubate a dream, meaning to dream about what you want? For me i guess i have to think about something i saw, think about it hard.

I never seem to be able to "incubate" my dreams. I dream about things I did during the day or watched during the day, none of my dreams are from what I did right before I went to sleep (Except if i watch a movie or a tv show before I go to sleep).

I haven't had much success with this either, but when I did I basically just came up with a scenario and a loose plot in my head, and tried to sort of meditate on that place and situation I was trying to go to, visualizing it as I went to sleep. I think the longer you can keep up the visualization the better but its hard for me to focus on one thing for very long so it's an uphill battle.

In fact last time I tried to incubate a dream it went very wrong and I ended up standing on a gravel road that stretched infinitely (as far as I was concerned) in both directions with no one and nothing around, just empty fields. Luckily I became lucid after walking a short distance, so it turned out okay.

That's very interesting, meditating on something. I'm going to try that today with my v-mild.

It is very tricky. I find I normally dream about things that almost escaped my notice. Little things that I saw or did, but never really payed a lot of attention to. If I focus on something intensely, and grind it into my mind, I probably won't dream about it. Instead, I have to just slip it in like it is no big deal. It is almost like tricking myself into dreaming about something by ignoring it. It is hard to describe. I suggest the problem to my brain, but don't consciously solve the problem.

Usually if I want something to happen my subconscious takes care of it and if I need something during a dream I self actualize.

Usually when I'm concerned about certain situations which results are strongly emotional for me, such as an important exam, a special meeting, a date with a beautiful woman, may be a particular buying, danger, finishing a job, etc. I become kind of obsessed with those matters and it's very difficult to lose attention on them. Therefore I'm constantly thinking about them during all day. Eventually, I end up dreaming about what I want (or don't want) to happen.
I hated it, but now, I realize it could be very useful.