NEED HELP - Trapped In Lucid Nightmares?

The only way to deal with a nightmare is to deal with your fear. It's also very easy to simply ask these demons what it is they want from you, or what it is that they represent. All you have to do is ask, and they will tell you. Once you have obtained that information from them, it won't be scary anymore. Trying to wake up, or to avoid the situation in any way, is to do exactly what is wanted and expected from you, which will cause these entities to abuse what is working. You have to take on the mindset of being nonchalant. The less you care about what they are doing to you, the less control they have.

Wow, I'm sorry. Nightmares suck. However, having a lucid nightmare is better than a non-lucid one. I actually started lucid dreaming when I was a teenager because I had horrible, recurring nightmares. Once you know you are dreaming, you can work on changing it.

It helps to know your triggers. Mine are dead kittens and a masked man that kills my friends in front of me. When I first started lucid dreaming but had no control, I had a "dream character" help me out: Morpheous, from the Sandman graphic novels. He is a badass and he had my back. :) In time, I started to control it myself. When I was still learning, I would simply ignore the situation (I went to the fridge and got a pint of ice cream, hovered above the floor like a genie and told everybody to fuck off, I was eating Fro-yo. Once I just went back to bed and entered a nicer dream.

Now, I can just teleport away to a better place or turn the scary monster into a litter of puppies or Jake Gyllenhal or something.

The key is to know that it's your dream, damnit, and you are the one who makes the rules.

Also, once I died in a dream and realized nothing bad could actually happen, it took all the remaining fear away.

Trust me, you've got this!

This has happened to me before.

Unfortunately the dream was about zombies.

Sorry, maybe I have missed something, but I haven't noticed any signs that you tried just to control your nightmares directly, by voice or thinking. You're always trying to wake up. Also if you tried and failed to control, it only means that you don't believe you can do this.

You'd be surprised how, if you approach the situation with a positive attitude, things will change. I understand how hard that is but if you can remember that, yes, even though it's a lucid dream where you have zero control, that doesn't mean you can't control your outlook on the situation. Instead of just trying to wake up (Which throws you into a FA and doesn't deal with the situation), confront whatever it is that's scaring you. Be positive and keep an open mind. It's VERY hard to do but the payoff is well worth it.

Maybe y'all didn't read the WHOLE thread...Amity had a dream where she turned and faced the demon and fought back and felt really strong...

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Originally Posted by Kumara

Maybe y'all didn't read the WHOLE thread...Amity had a dream where she turned and faced the demon and fought back and felt really strong...

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I've noticed that... But it would be simpler and faster just to tell him to go to the bathroom and do not get out of there. x)))

Amity did what she needed to do for herself in her dream. It's invalidating and to dismiss her (or anyone's) own innate wisdom just because you believe something should/could be done differently.
There is no one best way to handle every situation, although as humans don't we just really love to believe we have the answers for everyone else:roll:

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Originally Posted by Kumara

Amity did what she needed to do for herself in her dream. It's invalidating and to dismiss her (or anyone's) own innate wisdom just because you believe something should/could be done differently.
There is no one best way to handle every situation, although as humans don't we just really love to believe we have the answers for everyone else:roll:

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Sorry, I'm just too excited about becoming able to control dreams by voice, so I sometimes behave like Jehovah's witness. x))

P. S. And also it would be very interesting if Amity tried but couldn't control her dreams like that. As I have read, she can control her normal lucid dreams. If it is sometimes impossible to do this in nightmares even when you have done everything right, it will actually be a very interesting fact.

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Originally Posted by eleggua

Sorry, I'm just too excited about becoming able to control dreams by voice, so I sometimes behave like Jehovah's witness. x))

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LOL I totally feel you on that:D

It's good to hear about all of the different options and different things we are all doing and to share our experiences, tho.

have you started any new medication? certain drugs can cause nightmares and others will paralyse your ability to do anything in the dream as well as keep you in it for what seems like eternity..

I have had recurring nightmears, for at least 10yrs, and the crazzy part was that, I had more than one. one night it would be my fear of Bees, sworms of them. the other night would be this creature force draging me into the darkness. And I can't forget my fear of drowning/water, it was so bad that I even dreaming that rain was going to fall was a Nightmare. I have learnt that It does not matter, if your are chase by Ten lions, or a single ant, fear makes the dream a nightmare. When you learn to face your fears, you will stop having so much nightmears.

I want to thank everyone SO SO much for their contributions in this thread.
I am very excited to tell you that I have had NO nightmares (lucid or non) for well over a month now.
I think this was achieved through a combination of knowing I had the ability to face my fear (from my LD,) and reading all your encouraging comments, which made me realize that I really had nothing to be afraid of in the first place.
I am so glad to be free from these nightmares, not only because they were unpleasant, but also because they had started to take away my regard for lucid dreams as a place of solace and safety. The idea of going to sleep became stressful, which only added to my fears and made the problem worse.
I honestly can't thank you guys enough. You helped restore my health, my happiness, and my love for lucid dreaming. :D

Congratulations! :boogie:
I'm glad to hear you got rid of those nightmares. I hope they won't come back anymore.

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Originally Posted by Enjyu

Congratulations! :boogie:
I'm glad to hear you got rid of those nightmares. I hope they won't come back anymore.

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Thank you! :woohoo:
I hope so, too!

I remember when I kept having this one nightmare that wouldn't leave me alone. Simply I would awake in my bed and my door would suddenly slam close. I know it doesn't sound scary but, before I did RCs, it was so vivid I took it as real like and began to beileve my house was haunted. This really took a tole on me whenever I was alone in my house. I had a huge sense of paranoia no matter what.
One night I did a RC when the door slammed and I realized I was dreaming. I quickly ran to the door and opened it. And I kid you not, a little girl was standing there. I asked her why she kept slamming my door and she told me it was because I'm letting her go. I didn't understand. She then told me I was loosing the kid inside me and growing up too soon. I felt this huge wave of sadness. I almost cried. I was growing up to the point my mind had to subconsciously tell me to slow down. I can tell you I think of life a little bit differently now. Don't rush through life because you will miss the best of it. :)

Trust me, nightmares are terrifying, but when you face your fears and talk to it face-to-face you will learn something about yourself. Dreams are life lessons, and nightmares are just a way of telling us that class is in session.

Good to hear that, but just in case I tell you my story of something similar happening:
(dream is copy-paste from other post)

I was in some evil overlord's castle or smth like that. He literally tortured in many ways, out of which few were so disturbing I haven't even imagined something like that before. I felt strongest pain sensation I've ever felt in dream in addition to extreme fear and feeling of helplessness. I tried every way I could think of to force myself to wake up, but nothing helped. I think I had few false awakenings where I "woke up" in same room on ground or smth like that and I felt really trapped. Finally I cried out something like: "Why are you doing this?! What do you want from me?". He gave me ridiculously easy and pointless task, I think it has something to do with signing a paper. It wasn't any kind of contract though, I wouldve done this task for anybody if they asked me to. Right after I completed it, I woke up.

I think I know exactly what you felt. Luckily I have had only one of these. Which is still more than enough. Forgot to mention before that I also tried to fight, but I had absolutely no chance. So my suggestion is to try to talk your way out of it, most likely can't get much worse and is definitely worth a try in such situation. Sorry if it has already been suggested, didn't read all of the posts.

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Originally Posted by Amity

A lot of the nightmares have been REALLY messed up, and I have no idea where the ideas are coming from!
Some recent examples:

Eg. 1:
I had a large family with about 10 siblings, all girls except for 1. They ranged in ages from a baby girl less than one year old, to a high school girl in her late teens, and I was the oldest. My real-life father had us locked up in a house, and would choose a few of us each day to bash/burn and rape. My real-life mother was being starved by my dad, and every day he would force her to walk an enormous distance to a remote place, where he would skin a layer of her flesh off. He would cook and eat some of her, and he would stash some for later in an unused locker at his workplace (a police station, in the dream.)
I would wake up feeling SO relieved that I was back to my normal, safe family environment.
But soon after, my dad would come home and I would realise I was still in the nightmare.

Eg. 2:
I was possessed by a demon who forced me to basically hack myself up with a large blade, severing tendons and cutting through bones. I also slashed the face and body of the woman next to me. I then took off my clothing and brutally squeezed by breasts until fluid started pouring out and I was left with bloody, dangling flesh hanging off my chest. I was flown to an emergency hospital and went through the entire treatment and healing process, although my body was usually still covered with splints when I "woke up".
It wasn't long before I would feel myself being possessed by the demon again, and it all started over.

These nightmares are really disturbing for me so I hope I find a solution soon... :blue:

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Reading this was terrifying, it makes me terrifyed the same thing will happen to me. Im glad it was just dreams. Demons can never force you to cut yourself.

Please don't necro-post in an old thread where the OP and persons replying have not been active for a long time. Rather, start a new thread.

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