How not to have S*x everytime i lucid?! Please help!

Hi! I've been lucid dreaming for about 1 year (excluding when I was a child). In total I had about 6 lucid dreams... The thing is, every time I attain lucidity I want to have sex(I'm 16, soo, hormones!) and I can't stop doing it . Obviously, because it is exciting, I normally have about 2 minutes only before waking up. I really want to do 30 minutes at least! My problem is that I cannot stop myself and explore instead, I just want to have s** because it feels great.

How can I get over this pls?? In my mind I always plan on doing my wish in lucidity, that is, conjuring a wand and do lots of spells, but when I enter a lucid dream, the temptation just beats me.

Please help, I hate waking up 2 mins after dreaming, when I could be doing an hour?

Thanks!

This was a problem for me too, and I didn't ever find a way to get around it. I got a bit older and less obsessed with sex, and now very few of my lucids involve sex. So no useful advice from me... except to get older.

Maybe if you take care of the urge before you go to sleep?

Can it be, that you are not fully in control of your dream? You get an urge and you go for it, and not being able to stop it because it's kind of a foggy dream?

BTW, you not the only one. It used to ruin many of my lucids. But I thought about it during day and made a decision to stop it. In my next lucid, I was able to decline an offer for sx and I was so happy about it.

What if you dedicated let's say every 5th lucid to sex? That way you know you can, so maybe it won't be so attractive to you in every lucid.

I know from a male prespective that Gab has a point about fufilling any urges prior to sleep. It is the first thing you can do. Next pick an easier goal and remind yourself of it often. Focus on the goal while falling asleep. Make the goal simple and tell your brain, "If you let me reach my goal, then we can dream of sex.

By a simpler goal I mean very basic. Do not worry about summoning a wand and casting spells. Start with something ordinary. I would recommend your goal be to see yourself clearly holding anything long and straight that could later be transformed into a wand. For this goal a basseball bat or a screwdriver are close enough. Then if you reach the goal, go ahead and have sex. Next time make the goal a bit harder, and again reward yourself with sex. By the time you have acomplished say 6 goals, you will have much better general dream control, and should have more luck at staying focused.



I just posted a new lesson that deals with how to train yourself to avoid random DCs and distractions. It is alot of work, but I think having real training you can do while awake is a good thing. Here it is, http://www.dreamviews.com/f157/advan...oughts-139475/