As for my dream control, I never had as good dream control as you describe (a bit jealous here), but then again I did not have as much experience. I remember with practice I continued to get better and had lucid dreams more and more frequently and was able to keep lucid for prolonged time in very vivid dreams. At the height of my previous lucid dreaming experience, I had them regularly (though I don't recall any more how often - it has been years now since then). I remember I was able have prolonged fully lucid conversations with dream characters. I was able to change where I was and what I was doing. I was able to do more of what I truly wanted to do: flying. And I was successful in turning some nightmares into empowering experiences that were quite fulfilling. I don't remember any more why I stopped practicing, and I think I am a person who has to put in a conscious effort to keep having lucid dreams - I haven't had any in a long time, while not trying, so they do not come naturally to me. However, I definitely think the effort is worth it, and I remember that the better I got at it, the less effort it took. I am hoping to surpass my level of control that I had years ago this time around, and I am hoping that I will not start all over again, but that I will be able to build upon lessons learned years ago.
EDIT: It occurred to me, and please don't take this the wrong way, that maybe you are not the best dream guide for your wife. It comes naturally to you, whereas she needs to learn techniques for how to improve, and while you can teach her some of that, she may benefit from learning with people who are also struggling to see that she is not alone in this, and to learn about techniques that worked for others who also struggled. Has she joined this forum yet? Has she read a lucid dreaming how-to book such as the books by Stephen LaBerge?
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