Nina:
First, an apology: I'm sorry that your first post to me had to be one forged in negativity; I really like reading your posts, and had hoped that we would meet under more happy conditions. I'm also sorry that you wasted so many words on something I have no real problem with -- my problem was with CosmicIron's overall stance and attitude, and I was trying to dig beneath it; I'm fine with stabilization techniques and, as Mr. Iron noted above, I even practice them myself.
Now:
Originally Posted by nina
Sageous, no disrespect intended, but I find it difficult to understand your logic in disfavoring stabilization techniques. In fact, I can't help thinking that what you've said is a bit contradictory. You appreciate how amazing a few seconds of an LD can be, yet scoff at the idea of spending a few more seconds to stabilize the LD, in order to obtain even more seconds of lucid wonder. When you feel your LD fading out, maybe you just let yourself wake up, but for me personally, taking a few seconds to use a stabilization technique, and then extending the LD for another 10 minutes or so, is worth it to me...and I consider it one hell of a pay off.
Don't worry, I'm fairly immune to offense. As I already said, I do not disfavor stabilization techniques -- any process that can extend the experience of an LD is most welcome, and would be worth mastering. What I disfavored was CosmicIron's contention that the stabilization technique was all that mattered. It seemed to me -- and he did not deny -- that he thought it was more important to stabilize the dream than it was to participate in it. That deserved comment, I thought.
In the name of consistency, if you've read my posts here, you'll remember that I have often voiced my concern about making techniques -- especially WILD -- the goal, rather than using them as a tool for lucidity. I consistently have no problem with the tools of the trade -- I use them (all, apparently) all the time, but I do have a problem, and will shout about it every time, when I see those tools turned into the trade. That is wrong, and possibly very misdirecting. All I could imagine was some 14-year-old newbie leaving behind his newfound interest in lucid dreaming because he thought it would be something more than crawling on the floor and staring at small objects. So I asked the question: which is more important, a great short LD, or a slightly longer LD where the only thing brought home from it is a 10-minute struggle to stay lucid? My bad, I suppose, but I'm likely to do it again.
So no, I do not scoff the idea of spending a little more time in a LD, I value that deeply, and using stabilization techniques as you describe them -- as tools for extending the LD -- is a most welcome thing. I may not use those techniques myself (and have a real problem with things like abandoning reason, ignoring my sleeping body, and, of course, potentially disrupting the entire fabric of the dream by crawling on the floor), but that doesn't mean I don't think the idea of stabilization is a good thing -- which I believe I said somewhere up there. No, I scoff at those who raise techniques above the dream, and tell me I'm wrong for asking why this is so.
It's certainly not missing the point, in fact, it exists solely to allow LDers to be able to spend more time doing exactly what they love, having fun, learning, and growing in LDs. How is taking 5 seconds to stabilize, then getting several minutes of amazing lucid as a result of stabilizing..."miserable"?
It is not, and if CosmicIron had offered that paragraph to me, my posts here would have been much different. Again, I understand stabilization, and 5 seconds -- even 10 -- of it to add another 10 minutes of dream seem a no-brainer. Had CosmicIron responded that succinctly, without lecturing me about how wrong I was and how right he was because of all his thousands of LD's and all the thousands of LD'ers he'd "worked with," and then deem my "claim" of long LD's a lie, I likely would have done a mea culpa and stepped away. But he did not, and I did not. Sorry for that -- but it really had nothing to do with stabilization. Also, it would have been nice, I suppose, if I had succeeded in making my point that there are such things as excellent short LD's and they can be forgotten if overridden by attempts to ressucitate them. Not sure it would have made a difference here, but it would have been nice.
Actually, it IS possible, and I've done it, many times. I have had nights where I spent up to 4 hours at a time lucid dreaming. This is possible physiologically because REM is not the ONLY time that we dream. People can also dream in NREM, the dreams are just no where near as vivid or dreamlike as REM, but there have been many times when I have been lucid dreaming for a whole REM period, then enter a period of NREM, and continue to dream, and during NREM I seem to have a lot of OBE-type dreams, but I stay completely lucid and eventually enter another REM period, which usually comes quickly (I think I am somehow forcing my brain into REM by focusing on forming a dream and stimulating certain areas of my brain). The longest I have done this for is 4 hours, and I've done it several times.
Thank you. I hope that CosmicIron is still reading, and wonder if he will contradict you as well, in the same tone.
But during that 4 hours I used stabilization techniques quite often...sometimes every minute, sometimes every 5, 15, or 30 minutes, depending on where I am in my REM cycle and how easy it is for my mind to remain in the dream. But again, what's a few seconds...when this means your dream is going to last another several seconds, minutes, or hours? I cannot understand why anyone would chose NOT to use stabilization methods, unless they can magically have lucid dreams that last hours with using any stabilization methods...in which case, they would be an exception, as I have never heard of this before.
I think I've said this enough, and I'm not sure if you're still reading, but: I agree completely with everything you say here. I am truly sorry that I led you to believe that I choose not to use stabilization methods -- I use them often. My methods may be much different than those listed, but that does not mean there is anything wrong with those listed (except where I noted already). Again, what I chose was to make the dream, and my experience of it, the priority, and nothing more. If that experience can be extended by a bit of hand-rubbing, then fine, rub away...but if the hand-rubbing becomes the dream, then I think a question ought to be raised.
I don't think you understand. This is not for the sake of a few more seconds of crawling on the floor, or in my case, examining my hands or using verbal commands...it is because the stabilization technique will allow you to remain in your precious LD for even longer, and increase its clarity. When I sense my LD fading out, that I'm going to wake up, or things become blurry, I use a stabilization technique, and instead of waking up...I am then able to remain in my LD for several more minutes, and as a result of stabilization, the LD is also crystal clear, extremely vivid and highly enjoyable. So what you label as counter-intuitive, is very counter-intuitive to me.
I do understand. You. Had CosmicIron used your words and tone, I likely would never have posted.
While I dislike your overall sardonic tone towards CosmicIron, I agree with what you've said here.
For what it's worth, I disliked my overall sardonic tone too; sometimes it is unavoidable, at least for me.
Sorry again for eliciting all those words from you, Nina, they were not, in the end necessary (though they certainly were appreciated). And, if you're still with me, sorry you had to read all these words here, as I feel I spent most of my time repeating myself. I fear that I may have wasted all of our time by reacting poorly to CosmicIron; I'll try next time to leave things like this lie.
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