How do I regain control?

Ever since that day I had two LD in the same day I have lost all control in my lucid dreams. The second dream was kind of based on the first and I was in the middle of talking to a dream person when the phone rang! I been wanted to talk to some dream people since then but I have not been able to even though I have had like 5 or 6 LD since then.

They all seem very unstable and everything is always dark and fades very fast. I had one where I couldn't talk, and the lights kept going out, and another where I felt weird feelings which kept me from doing anything. I thought maybe it would work better if I tried doing something other than talking to the dream people but then the rest of them I wake up within a minute every time.

I tried spinning and stuff in almost all of them to make them last longer but it doesn't work any more. It used to the first few times I tried it but has not since.

Not sure what to do. It feels like I keep wasting all my lucid dreams since I can't do anything in them. I thought I was getting pretty good since I had 3 which lasted like 5-10 minutes but now I keep waking up in like 10-30 seconds or I have huge problems staying lucid and then wake up within a minute or two.

There can be several factors...but first of all it is important for you to RELAX.

How much sleep are you getting? This is a huge factor in REM sleep.

How STRESSED are you? Is your job driving you crazy and working you hard? Relationships suffering?
Stress can screw lucidity.

Its not stress, if anything I relax a little to much and kind of lazy at times.