How Do You Gain Control?

I think im getting pretty good at Lucid Dreaming now. I can enter a dream after I wake up after about 7 hours of sleep, everytime I try. Its hard for me to control things like characters, making any object I want appear, flying, and moving other objects(without touching them). Someone here suggested that I use a wond to controll my actions, but the problem is, I cant find one. How am I supposed to get a wond if I cant do anything? My dreams are bassically like reality. I just cant do anything thats impossible. If that makes sense.
So how do you controll your dreams?
Is this just something that will take me a while? It took me a while to have lucids at will.
Also, a lot of time in my lucids ill be in a sexual situation that I dont want to leave and try to control stuff. Does this happen to other people, and will it just take time for me to want to do other things?

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So how do you controll your dreams?
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I just think of something happening and it happens

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Originally Posted by gonnabeathinker

I think im getting pretty good at Lucid Dreaming now. I can enter a dream after I wake up after about 7 hours of sleep, everytime I try. Its hard for me to control things like characters, making any object I want appear, flying, and moving other objects(without touching them). Someone here suggested that I use a wond to controll my actions, but the problem is, I cant find one. How am I supposed to get a wond if I cant do anything? My dreams are bassically like reality. I just cant do anything thats impossible. If that makes sense.
So how do you controll your dreams?
Is this just something that will take me a while? It took me a while to have lucids at will.
Also, a lot of time in my lucids ill be in a sexual situation that I dont want to leave and try to control stuff. Does this happen to other people, and will it just take time for me to want to do other things?
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Control takes a certain frame of mind.
Judging by your post, you seem to be anchored to the thought that control is hard. This perspective makes control just that - Hard. Thinking about doing something like flying, in waking life, your own logic tells you that this is an impossibility. To fly, you'd have to defy gravity, and we're bred and conditioned to recognize how absurd the very thought of doing so is.
The trick to control, in a dream, is suspending that logic. You have to reverse the frame of mind that tells you that you have to try to do the impossible and turn it into the frame of mind that tells you that you simply can. I know it seems easier said than done, but that's just how it goes. Your conscious and/or subconscious expectation of what's going to happen, when you try something, is often stronger than your desire to make that happen. Focus less on your desire to have control, and more on the expectation that you already have it, while dreaming.
While awake, visualize something that you'd like to try in a lucid dream. Actually go through the motions, in your mind. Think about what it would feel like, what the experience would be like. Think about the sort of mental commands/influence you would have to have to make whatever you'd like to do possible, and actually play out what will happen once you try it. Then, when you're familiar with how you'd like to manifest that ability, once you get into a dream, don't worry about "trying to do the impossible" simply do whatever it was you'd visualized, while you were awake.

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Originally Posted by Oneironaut

once you get into a dream, don't worry about "trying to do the impossible" simply do whatever it was you'd visualized, while you were awake.
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Oneironaut is right, you've got to believe it can happen, doubt is what causes it to backfire and/or not work.

What most people do wrong-
They think:
The person might appear around the corner if I think about them hard enough.

When they should think:
That person will come around that corner in a few seconds. I need them here for *insert whatever purpose*

What they do wrong is make a mental roadblock by doubting it, you need to confident that only this will change and this will not, after all, the dream will always be trying to control you, you just need to fight it.

As in The Matrix and I quote Morpheous:

Don't think you are, know you are.



By the way, that is a lot harder in a dream, for some reason even if I'm lucid, I still don't COMPLETELY realise that I'm dreaming and in complete control.

Get a wand from your pocket! Think, "I need a wand so I'll just get one from my pocket." Worked every time. Mine looks like a thin black stick with a star outline at the top. It did work for unlocking doors and such.

Whenever I want something to happen, I don't think about how I'm going to do it, I think about the process of doing it, and it happens.


Like that person said earlier,

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They think:
The person might appear around the corner if I think about them hard enough.

When they should think:
That person will come around that corner in a few seconds. I need them here for *insert whatever purpose*[/b]

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Just a few nights, I wanted something exciting to happen in my dream that I was at my house, so I thought it would be cool if someone broke in. All I had to do was THINK about how someone would break in, and all of the sudden someone came crashing through my sliding glass door and I was in a gun fight.